Guest Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 Thanks for taking the time to read this...but like all of you im am somewhat the other woman and dont know what to do. Me and my ex have been have been together for almost 5 years..this sept 14 will be the 5 year mark. He broke up with me in June and ended up with his ex girlfriend before me. In July i went to his place to get the rest of my things, we chatted for a while and that was that. he called me the next day to say he still loved me and he was confused. I spent most of my time with him and occasiinally still had sex, which i know is wrong. He tells me he does not know what to do and he is confused, its now September and he is still confused. I hate the fact that his b-day is this weekend and his girlfriend is driving down 2 hours to spend it with him. he hasnt seen her in a week and he said that if he obviously wanted to see her he would have meade an effort to see her but he didnt. I am really sad i cant spend his bday with him. he has work that day and says that he doesnt even make a big deal about his b-day.I dont know what to do, i love him to death but what should i do??
consternation Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 You're wasting your time. You should move on... If your boyfriend realises he is truly in love with you, then he will break up with his girlfriend and come after you. He knows where you are, right. What is it with these men who swap from ex to ex?
alphamale Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 as long as he keeps on getting free sex he will remain confused.
norajane Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 Dump him immediately. He keeps going between you and his gf (who was his former ex) to you (who are now his ex)...how nice it must be for him to have two women to have sex with, two women who want to spend his birthday with him, two women who are battling for his attention. Don't you want more than to share some guy? He's not worth it. Move on NOW so you can unconfuse YOURSELF.
whichwayisup Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 He is sleeping with you and his ex gf...Keep that in the back of your mind next time you're with him. Honestly? He is loving having TWO women - Which is why he's confused (confused to you and probably to her - But to himself, he's just having his cake.)
UnknowingOW Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 Sounds like a cake eater to me...blow this guy off and now. He'll keep of his "good" thing as long as you both allow it.
BUTAFLY Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 He's playing you. You say his gf is driving 2hrs? So when its convienent for her to be w/ him she is his girlfriend. When she's not around your his gf. He's not confused, he's a player!
RecordProducer Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 I saw a case on TV long time ago, where a woman kept sleeping with her ex and got AIDS from him. They had two little children, whose obviously both parents had AIDS. They are probably both dead now. Not saying this will happen to you, but it might. If you keep sleeping with your ex, while he is sleeping with other women, you risk more than a broken heart. You broke up and kept seeing each other. It's hard enough even without a new girlfriend in the picture. If he keeps seeing her, he doesn't love you. Why do you settle for being the other woman? You are not "kinda" the OW, you ARE the OW. He sleeps with both you and her. Plus he is cheating and lying to her. If he can't make up his mind, that's HIS problem. It's your job to take charge of your actions and cut contact with him. He can't have you both. Period.
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