simon_uk Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 I am really baffled and upset. I took my sister to look for a new car then took her back to mine to pack up the ex's things. It was really emotional or should I say I was really emotional. Anyway, my sister said she brought the ex a present back from her holiday, nothing too expensive but just something she would like. She said the ex didnt seem very grateful or she didnt really show much emotion about it, just kind of a blank look on her face and a quiet "thanks" Anyway then the ex said, "oh look at this I have got to show you" then showed the biggest tattoo across the base of her back!!!! it was perfectly healed which suggests she had it done a week ago at least. My sister said her first reaction was, where have you got the money from to have this done. Which is what I also thought. She never had any money and I mean NO money. It was only just over two weeks ago that she said to me, we will have to have a quiet month this month because I have got NO money. Not even money for food and I cant afford to go out for my friends night out. I gernerally paid for most things because she was so broke. The second thing that I thought was. I always told her that I liked girls with tattoos, it is just something I find attractive. She had two small tattoos already but she said that was probably enough for her. She said she liked tattoos but didnt like them on the lower back, thought they were a bit common and not very attractive. So then, WHY ha she had a large tattoo on the base of her back? WTF is that all about? It made me feel quite sick when my sister told me. First because of the money (shocked as to where she has got it from) and second because she has had something done that she said she didnt like. She also said to my sister that she was thinking of having more done!!!! One other thing she asked my sister was whether she had her stuff from me. So I guess she really wants it and I guess she really wants it over. Now if this were somebody I had introduced my sister to and they had told my sister they loved her, told my sister that they wanted to move in with them and told me that they loved my sister. Then two days later dumped my sister. I would be asking what the **** are you playing at. However my sister said she doesnt want to get involved and she has to work with her and doesnt want a fallout. So overall I have had a bit of a **** night. I feel like I never even knew this girl. I dont know what the **** is going on. I dont think she will ever come back as she seems to really want her stuff back. So I think she really doesnt give a **** and never did. I feel so ****ing ill and upset!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Author simon_uk Posted September 6, 2006 Author Posted September 6, 2006 Nobody got any opinions??? somebody please?
Ruinous79 Posted September 13, 2006 Posted September 13, 2006 Jeez....looks like it's been a while since you posted this and no one has responded. I wonder what has changed since you posted or if you're even still looking in on your thread. I can only say what you probably don't want to hear: just move on. Don't worry about tattoos or money or why, why, why. It is irrelevant. She doesn't want to be with you and you DESERVE someone who does. Simple as that. If she wanted you, she would let you know and prove it. Harsh words but I needed to be told this too when I was on the receiving end of a train wreck breakup. You're wasting energy wondering when you need to be using that energy getting over her and healing. She doesn't deserve your thoughts or your tears because she deemed you unworthy. Move on sweetie....the sooner the better.
dr strangelove Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 Ya Im trying to figure you out simon I think I gave you advice before.. few points to ponder -why younger women? -why women that dont have it together? -she wanted to move in and then you werent into it hmm Good luck figuring it out ciao
Author simon_uk Posted September 14, 2006 Author Posted September 14, 2006 Ya Im trying to figure you out simon I think I gave you advice before.. few points to ponder Not very helpful Strangelove. I dont think I need to figure myself out. -why younger women? Because I am looking for somebody who wants and who is young enough to want a family. Incidentally, I didnt go out looking for somebody that age. We were introduced to each other. -why women that dont have it together? Obviously I didnt realise she didnt have it together. My sister told me she did. She told me she did. -she wanted to move in and then you werent into it hmm No, she wanted to move in. I wanted her to move in. She started discussing it by text message. I said it was too serious a subject to discuss by text message. My response to her was. I dont know when the right time to move in together is. When is too soon, because I have never lived with anybody before. All I know is I do want to live with you and we will do it when the time is right. She aplogised for pressuring me, even though I didnt think she was pressuring me. Two days later she said she isnt ready for kids and moving in together and admitted it was her who kept bringing these things up. We had only been together 3 months. Is this too soon to plan a life together? Probably. I was happy to go with the flow, I felt that this was the woman I wanted to be with and I expressed that desire to her often. There was no doubt in my mind. Good luck figuring it out ciao thanks for the tips but I am quite comfortable with who I am and what I want Simon
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