FriendsatLarge Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 My friends husband shouts at her on a regular basis, I'd like to say at least once or twice a week. I know she finds this upsetting, especially when its done in front of the children. After one argument she said whe was leaving, but he threatened to run off with the children whilst she was at work. Clearly her first concern is for her kids and she is scared to do anything. In the past when she has threatened to leave, he has tried to change his behavior but it always returns after a while, especially when she has become secure again. From what I know of this guy he seems polite and friendly to his friends, i'm told he is a good father. I'm worried that this kind of abuse can lead to physical abuse, but they have been together for 10 years now, so maybe I shouldn't be worried. At what point does normal arguments between couples become abuse? Why does she seem unable to leave, even though she says she wants to?
mental_traveller Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 I think she feels unable to leave because of inertia & habit, it's what she's used to. It's a big leap into the unknown to move out with nothing to go to. Emotional abuse does not have to become physical at all, although it can make it more likely. I have a friend who has a bit of a temper, but he's never in his life been violent (except in self-defence). So I wouldn't worry too much. Worry about physical abuse if you see any signs of it, or she tells you, but until then I wouldn't be too concerned.
princessa Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 My parents constantly shout at eachother. Mostly my dad. Some people who have lived most of their lives and forged a strong character dur to a hard life, after a while just can't recondition themselves anymore. He has the best intentions but when he gets stressed, he gets stressed, and he doesn't even notice most of the time that he's offending anybody with his yelling. *shrug*
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