qismat Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 k, first of all, i really hope you guys don't judge me :S I've been in a long distance relationship for about a year now... and my bf and i have been fighting a lot lately... he told him his voicemail pswd when we first become official, but never really thought i paid any attn to it, so i doubt he knows that i remember it. i've only used it about 2-3 times, during fights when i wanted to know if he had heard my msg, and was curious to make sure nothing was up... i completely trust him, so i never expected to find anything, but i would check mainly just to see if he listened to my msg bc we were fighting. anyway, we were fighting this weekend, i got curious and i checked his voicemail :$ (bad i know), anyway, there was a voicemail from his ex-gf saved. she had called about a month ago (they had a bad break-up, and apparently she calls from time to time and he never picks up) There were a few saved, one from me, one from her, and one from his bro... i've never doubted his feelings for me before, but why would he save the msg for this long... does he want to hear her voice? does he check his msgs from time to time to hear her voice?? he's always talked to me about how much he loves me, and wanting a future with me... so why would a msg from her phase him to the extent that he would save it??
rainfall Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 What did the message say. Was it talking about how much she missed him, or was it about random day to day stuff? I'm not sure why he would save it but if he gave you his voicemail password then he knows there is a chance you would check his messages. Maybe it was an accident (long shot I know), but I have sometimes hit save on a message when I meant to hit delete and didn't notice it for a few days.
Author qismat Posted September 6, 2006 Author Posted September 6, 2006 What did the message say. Was it talking about how much she missed him, or was it about random day to day stuff? I'm not sure why he would save it but if he gave you his voicemail password then he knows there is a chance you would check his messages. Maybe it was an accident (long shot I know), but I have sometimes hit save on a message when I meant to hit delete and didn't notice it for a few days. thanks for the reply... thing is i really doubt he thinks that i would check it... i don't think he thinks that i would bother lol i know it wasn't a mistake b/c she called early august, so i know he resaved it (she called giving her condolences since his grandfather had passed away and just saying hello and stuff) what do you guys think???
Guest Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 my god why are you listening to his messages? I think that's a huge invasion of privacy. He obviously trusts you to have given you the password but sweetie I would throw out that number and trust him. otherwise it's going to drive you insane. I keep messages from ex's and other friends when they are important to me. They can say silly things like 'hey thinking of you' because they remind me of that person and also that time in my life. I don't see that there is anything wrong with him keeping a message from his ex just saying hello and in relation to his grandfather's passing. It was a nice guesture on her behalf but I wouldn't read anything more into than that.
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