Guest Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I recently ended a relationship with a man I found out had a child from a previous relationship. Call me old fashion but I was raised with the belief that having children out of wedlock is a sin. I have had a hard time accepting men who have children from other relationships, regardless of whether they're fathers or not. In this case the man I was dating had signed away his rights, so he wasn't involved in the child's life. The one thing I will say is he was very honest about his past, as he could've chose not to tell me, and I would’ve never known. The only thing I wished is that I would've known sooner, because I feel like I've wasted my time and his as well. What I want to know is if it's okay to ask whether a guy you're interested in has children early on in the relationship?
Sand&Water Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 Guest, Yes. In my honest opinion it is a good idea to ask if he has children. Strange that you mention this, because I am about to ask my male friend if he has children. I hope he doesn't.
Adunaphel Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I think it's fair to ask early in the relationship. If he does have children, you will be saving both his time and yours.
Charisma Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 You have a right to know this information...I'm not sure how long you should wait to ask that question...it's rather a personal one. Sometimes if the person is actively involved with their children they'll mention it as background info on a date, but if it's some kind of one night stand they may be reluctant to tell you. I've heard horror stories where some woman marries a man and years later into their marriage a child shows up one day and says he or she is looking for their dad. Hopefully whomever you date...they'll be completely honest.
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