RyTom21 Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 My name is Ryan. I'm 22 and I'm new to this forum. Let me start by telling everybody a little bit about myself. I'm going to briefly describe my life, in a nutshell. I was born with a developmental disorder called Aspergers Syndrome. Aspergers has always affected my ability to do well in school, because I could concentrate. Because I was different, I was a perfect target for teasing in school. Evere since I can remember, kids have called me ugly or stupid. All the teasing ate away at my self esteem and my self image. I am now 22 years old. I have no friends, and I am a dating disaster. I can't even bring myself to approach an attractive woman. All those things kids teased me about in school, those things are now programmed in my mind. I look in the mirror and see a hideous beast, and if a girl turns me down for a date, I tell myself it's because I'm not attractive enough. I have been in and out of depression lots of times. I just seem to have terrible luck with women, and I always have. I can't seem to get past what kids teased me about in school, and it's tearing my life apart. I assume that everyone here would be mature enough to not judge me or make fun of me for the questions I ask. Here is my first of many questions. This is for the ladies only. Is it odd for a man to be scared of sex?...Lex me explain. I have only been intimate with one woman, but we never actually made love. We did everything you could possible do, except for the act itself. The thought of sex makes me so nervous that I feel like throwing up. I have several fears when it comes to "my first time". I'm afraid that I will either not please my partner, or that I will ejaculate to early, or both. Is sex something to be fearfull of?, and are those 2 factors even important to women. For emample, If a guy were to finish way to early during sex, even if it wasn't his first time, would that cause you to dump him?
DarkShadows Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 If any woman leaves a man because he finishes too quick, is just your typical horrible woman. Not the kind of woman you want to be with. Some women find virginity to be a turn on. The whole "Oh I am his teacher! I will teach him!" mentality is well sexual. I.M.O. I don't think you should be scared, I believe everyone is at their first go around. But I would find a girl who you care for a lot and she cares for you the same and I would explain to her the way you feel. If you get off to fast and you think she isn't satisfied, finish her off by giving her oral or fingering her. But make sure she gets off too. Toys are always fun to add in the mix. Try that. I've experienced a quickie with my guy, all guys have quickies! Don't let them fool you, but he makes sure to get me off somehow, or if it seems like my body doesn't want to 'get off' he makes me satisfied. He likes eating me out and fingering me so I enjoy that, or using toys. I wouldn't worry to much about it, just make sure you have a very good girl. Not some girl you barely know. Someone who wouldn't laugh or run off... You will know her when you meet her.
Guest Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I have a couple more worries that I am hoping you can clear up for me. Does size matter as much to women as guys think it does. For example, would you ever dump a guy if he was very small? When it comes to my first, second, third ,fourth, or even fifth sexual experience, if I happen to be very nervous with a perticular girl, should I just be honest and tell the girl that I am nervous. should I say something like..."I am really nervous, and all I want to do is please you, could you show me how to do that"?...Would that work, and if so, is there a better way to word that?
DarkShadows Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 I do not know about other girls. But for me, size doesn't matter to a certain point. If it's only 2 inches no girl in the world would be able to feel it. A nice good size to me is anywhere between 4 - 6 inches. Anything like 12 inches is just asking for the most unpleasant intercourse ever. Women who say big penises are the best (meaning I believe anything over 8 inches) you should be weary about and probably not date as I am guessing they are whores and stretched out to the maxim! *nasty* If I had a boyfriend and he was comfortable enough to tell me "hey babe, I'm really nervous would you please show me how to please you?" would be a humungous turn on! That's me though. Anyone comfortable enough to say something like that would just make me pant at their feet. But again it depends on the girl. Some girls might laugh at the way you say it because to them it might sound cheesy but to girls like me I would put on a smile (not a haha at you kind of smile) but a sweet, sexy smile and say "sure baby.. you can start by doing this." Or better yet I'd say let me please you first then I'll show you how to please me. Or something like that. Just don't find a bitch for a girlfriend.
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