Liebenberg Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 OK "I know this story looks long to read but i have to put it out fully so that my questions can be understood properly" Hi I read a few posts on this forum about so many "guy's that has the same problem like me (before reg) . I thought I was the only the one with the "shy problem" and scared of talking to girls, fear of rejection etc .etc. anyway, I joind a university in the beggining of the year, so as the time went by a made a few friends in some of my classes. In the one particuler class a girl catched my eye and since I've seen her she interressted me alot. But, i was to afraid to ask her out so after 4months or so i started to convince myself to ask her out for dinner etc. i just said to myself well if she say's no then no if yes the wonderful! "if other guy's can do it why not me?!" btw, there were alway's these hello and goodbye words then finnished with the conversation. so just as class was about to end, when i got up I asked her "Hey do you wan't some coffe with with me sometime?" she said "yes" then "it sounds to spontanious" "im bussy this weekend" then i said" well, what about next fryday?" she "sure that sound nice" what does she mean by that spontanous speach? So next friday came I asked her about the "going out for coffe" and she said "oh... i have test after class and i won't be able to make it" then " i said "well, ok you let me know then when ever you want" just as i were about to walk away she said "whats the time?" 10:00am "maybe we can go, my class starts only at 11 again" ok meet you at the coffee shop in the campus" I was so amazed that she actually came I suddenly thought that she not going to. so we talked and talked till 11 came " and she said thanks for inviting me. My first question... why didn't she say yes the first time when I asked her on that day?" Do you think girls also find it hard to accept a challenge with someone new? they donk't really know that well?" or also shy maybe? (reasons please) oh ja she also said.. "Maybe we should have breakfast sometime" i said "sure anytime you are available" Weekend past ... My classes starts only on tuesday which is today... this morning when I arrived at the campus saw her and waved hello. parked my car and climbed out got my stuff etc.. walked over to her and asked her how has her weekend been etc. etc. once again "walking to her..." and asking her what I don't understand is I have to do something to get a conversation but believe me guy's im so nervouse at the same time... why doesn't she walk up to me or do something? is it maybe that "still to new to know someone thing" or shyness? we talked a little and here's a wierd thing happening... she askes me why don't we go and talk while walking arround the campus till class starts - that I don't understand becuase i hardly know her really and vice versa. walked arround came back 25min later before class started - now that must be some sign of interrests to her about me?" she asked me where I staid and I said "still at my parrents" and you I stay at the hostel. i said "where?" here on the campus" me "o really?" yes "i'll show you arround sometime there" then asked me hey do you wan't to meet one of my girlfriends? "sure" so comming to this point know... why would she tell me this if she doesn't even know me really that well? end of part 1 ok,. after all that... conclusion; to this story ? after what happened since then till now it sounds to me that she is intterrested but also shy? and (reasons) on this? I really wan't to make this relationship work the big question .. What is the next step? should I act now , wait , don't be haisty, or irritating, etc. etc. ?? asking her out on a date without jeperdizing the whole situastion?
norajane Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 Yes, she's interested in you. Stop questioning every little thing she says and does or you're going to drive yourself crazy. You're getting to know each other. Yes, ask her out on a date.
Author Liebenberg Posted September 6, 2006 Author Posted September 6, 2006 but why does it sound like she is not interrested then suddenly she is?
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