Rx-8aby Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Any1 have any sweet idea or a way to give bday present to my ex-gf ? And the idea which can take her back ? i had been together which this girl for ( 1 1/2 years ) broke up 7 months ago..She's my 1st true love.. i still had feelings for her i still care abt her..this coming october is her bday..can any1 give me advice wat to give her ? or any sweet idea or way to give her present ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rx-8aby Posted September 5, 2006 Author Share Posted September 5, 2006 Is that okay if i buy my ex-gf an ipod shuffle as a gift for her bday present ? On the card i will write ( I'm just like the songs whenever u feel lonely i will always be thr for you) is that okay ? wil that make her think of me whenever she see or use the ipod shuffle ? Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Went out for 18 months & broken up now for 7? hmmm.... If you really must acknowledge her birthday then just sent her a card and ONLY a card. But the best thing to do? - no gift - no card. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Do you have any real reason to hope that she will get together with you again? Was she the one that decided to break up? Did she give you any signal that she'd like to get back together with you? If she no longer has feelings for you, it is highly unlikely (if not impossible)that a birthday present will change this. It might even embarass her. If right now she is sure she'd not get back together with you, save the money or buy yourself a nice ipod shuffle that you can use to listen to cheerful songs. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Dont waste your time, no expensive gift will sway an ex to return. 7 months..what are the odds that she isnt seeing someone else? If i were you, i would forget about her bday and move on..that is if you want to forget about her. There are good hopes and false hopes...dont torture yourself over a gift. If you must, just give her a call or send a card. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 don't buy your ex presents. Once I had an exBF and his mother buy me a bunch of christmas gifts and I felt so lame having to drive them over and return them. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 My ex asked me to marry him on his birthday... I am dreading the surprise I will get on my upcoming birthday (coming from someone who went in with my parents for a $40,000 (AU) car ) Please, for the love of god don't do it. Seven months, let her be... don't ruin her birthday by stirring up painful memories, and making her feel guilty. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rx-8aby Posted September 5, 2006 Author Share Posted September 5, 2006 in this 7 months .. she did chat with me on msn around 4 months ago..but after around end of june we went NC till today..She displayed a dragonfly on her msn 2 days ago which is the day of our monthsary..we both r classmate..she used to love me more than i love her( we both were used to be very close (24hours together)(i m her 1st love and she is my 1st love too)..after we both broke up we still see each other in the class but we never talk to each other anymore ( we both r classmate).. Sometimes i caught her always looking at me..my fren told me that too..She was a very stuburn girl..i knew her very well..She always wanted me to start conversation first or anything..Maybe she was thinking to get back together but she never wanted to start to do anythign abt it ? or shud i just give her an ipod shuffle and even if she dont wan to get back together i dun think i would get hurt..Its just a small gift for her bday present..when i m with her she always wanted a ipod..she love songs! So how ? a bday card with ipod shuffle ? its that okay ? i know if i gave the ipod to her but i m not expect her to come back or anything i just wan her to remember me and make her happy for her sweet 16.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rx-8aby Posted September 5, 2006 Author Share Posted September 5, 2006 Sorry to tell that the ( dargonfly ) is very special for both of us..She always display her own pic on her msn but the day of our monthsary she displayed a dargonfly on msn..we both wanted to break up bcz we both took each other for granted 7 months ago..why she display a dragonfly on it ? is she still miss me sumtimes ? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 It's my birthday today and i've been wondering for a few days and trying not to think if my ex of about 6 months (2 years together) would get me anything. I have been partly a) dreading it and b) hoping for something. This is because I don't want to read too much into it, i don't think I want to get back together although I love him very much and also I didn't want to be disappointed by not receiving anything, that would feel a little thoughtless. I received a helium balloon at work today with a big smiley face and some chocolates. This is quite a nice present - it's friendly, it's happy, I'm not disapointed and there is not much to read in it. ie he's thinking of me and that's it (contray to the it's been 7 months leave her alone sentiments I'm glad that I got a small token to say he's thinking about me and that he even remembered my birthday which he never did when we were together). So I recommend that approach. Receiving an ipod shuffle is TOO much, i would feel indebted to you, and guilty or like you were being obvious in your emotions and trying to win her back. Go for something more neutral and if you want to get back together why not just call her and tell her this rather than hedging around the issue. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rx-8aby Posted September 6, 2006 Author Share Posted September 6, 2006 but i m rich enough to affort it.. maybe i just give her ipod shuffle and a card .. on the card i will write this ipod shuffle is a small gift from me for your present..whenever you get bored just get the ipod and listen to it.. how issit ? Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 Well, it is clear you are not going to take anyone advice... Ipod shuffles suck anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 Well, it is clear you are not going to take anyone advice... Ipod shuffles suck anyway. It's far to much for someone you haven't spoken to in 4 months. Out of interest, does the Dragonfly have a meaning to you, or to you as a couple? It could have been for someone else, or something else!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rx-8aby Posted September 6, 2006 Author Share Posted September 6, 2006 yea the dragonfly do mean something for us..but she displayed it on the date of our monthsary..why must that day ? weird.. anyways do u guys have any ideas wat to give to her ? i dont wan just give her a card..i wan to give something special that she could wear or use it often..and so she can always remember of me whenever she use it or even just look at it ? ipod shuffle is one of my idea ? other than ipod i dunno wat else to give her that make her miss me or remember me .. Have any1 have any ideas or wat ? Just wan to give her a sweet gift that she can always reminds me of that gift.. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 argh I think you're putting too much pressure on her with this gift.. you said that you want something that she'll remember you and miss you by, you're not considering that perhaps she wants to get over you and would thus never use whatever it is you get her anyway. I'm going to be looking a this balloon which will remind me of my ex for a good few days if not a week. So he'll be in my thought for that time period each time I look at it. Otherwise I have been clearing out stuff that remind me of him - such as photos, gifts etc as I need to move on and it's part of the healing process. It's not about the money its about what is implied by the gift -ipod shuffle is too much. Why not give her flowers and then call her or ask her out on a romantic date if you want to get back together with you and then TALK TO HER.... tell her how you feel this is always better that making her pine after you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 Yep let her be let her be. She is your ex of 7 months now? Its clearly obvious things are truely over. Its allright to still be upset but giving her a present is only leaving you too like very foolish! She might be your first true love, but everyone has that first love you will also have a 2nd but if you want to get there you must get over this one. Please don't be surprised if you think you should be over someone in 7 months, I find that time to still be quite fresh. Good luck!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rx-8aby Posted September 7, 2006 Author Share Posted September 7, 2006 through this 7 months we had been chatting through msn 3 months ago..after after tat we both went through NC till today..through this 7 months i'm always see her in my class..its so hard to move on.. Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 I'd go ahead and get her a 60GB ipod video. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rx-8aby Posted September 8, 2006 Author Share Posted September 8, 2006 I'd go ahead and get her a 60GB ipod video. why u will u do that ? Link to post Share on other sites
katriel Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 It sounds like you really haven't resolved this, at least for yourself, and possibly for your ex, but an expensive gift is not the right way to go. Let's look at the different possibilities. Either she is interested in getting back together, or she isn't. Buying her something expensive won't change that, unless she is a gold-digger, in which case, you're better off without her. Assuming she isn't a gold-digger, what are the possible outcomes? Well, let's say she isn't interested, she will get your gift and feel guilty that you spent so much money on her and she doesn't want to get back together. Also, she'll see you as going too far, spending that much money on her is an extravagant gesture, and it might make you look a bit desperate. If she is interested, it might work, but it might also make her feel a bit like you are trying to "buy" her love, like you think the only way to gain her affection is by spending so much money on her. Giving an expensive gift to someone can put a lot of pressure on them, because they want to reciprocate. It can come across as a form of cohersion, and you don't want that. No healthy relationship is ever built out on that sort of base. If you can't let go of this, and you absolutely must find out if she would be willing to get back together, than why not try something more casual. Instead of spending money on a gift for her, why not just try talking to her the next time you see her? Just say hello and aske her how she is doing. Show her that you still care about her and want to know how she is doing. It's less drastic and it doesn't put her in a position where she's going to feel pressure. If she doesn't want to talk to you, she'll make it clear, and you have your answer. If she does, then you might have a chance. Build up her trust in you again and let her know that you still care about her and want to know if she still has feelings for you, too. But you should realize that giving her a gift is a really bad idea, no matter how she feels about you right now. Link to post Share on other sites
delusionaldreamer Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 did anyone notice the age here?!? shes gonna be 16?!?! i dont know about you people but if some boy gave my daughter an ipod for her birthday that wasnt well used and practically worn out i would deny her from seeing this guy because in my mind he would be expecting something. that is just not an APPROPRIATE gift. send her flowers or candy boquet or something to school that way her friends and everyone get to see it also - those kind of things are HARD to forget. and im sure if you are her 1st love she will always remember you anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 why u will u do that ? I was being facetious. I wouldn't give her the time of day, much less an ipod. She simply isn't into you. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 It's OVER. Don't give her a gift. Move on and find someone else. If you want to buy a girl there are corners for that. It's your first heartbreak. FIRST - there will be others. The best thing you can do is learn from this and move forward with YOUR life. Don't cling and don't focus on the past. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rx-8aby Posted September 9, 2006 Author Share Posted September 9, 2006 Thx Guys! I think i m not going to give her an ipod shuffle anymore..my idea now is buy a photo frame without any picture in it and get a empty card and use some kind of colourful rubberband and make a happy birthday word and put it in the photo frame and give her a bdaycard,1 rose and 1 birthday cheese cake.. is that okay ? :p:p:p Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted September 10, 2006 Share Posted September 10, 2006 F*ck no. It's worse than the Ipod. Link to post Share on other sites
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