JAMZ1982 Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 hi... i am utterly confused and not sure how to handle this situation... it hurts! I became friends with this girl in the later years of highschool and we spent 2 years being best mates. I was always in love with her and she knew that, i could never tell her though because i did not want to risk the friendship. she met a boyfriend at the end of highschool and that was the end of our closeness, she ended up seeing this guy for 6 years and has recently broken up with him now. I have always made an effort to stay in contact with her, because she lives a 3 hour drive away from me i would never see her much, although she would come and see me 2-3 times per year. Whenever we went out with mutual friends she would hang off me and 2 years ago we spent a night together romantically. She said she had feeling for me, but couldnt leave her boyfriend. It crushed me..! Now she has come back into my life through emailing, we have re-established our friendship through that means. I have only caught up with her twice since she left her boyfriend 3 months ago, but have chatted on the phone a bit and i have been a good friend as always. I spent the night with her on the weekend and we went out for dinner and had a really nice night, then went back to her place and when we got home she made it clear through body language that nothing was going to happen. Rejection from this girl would destroy me, but if i dont follow this opportunity i know i would regret it. She gives me mixed signals.. she knows i like her, and she continues to stay in my life. I think she is really enjoying being single, but i want more than that from her.. should i discuss it with her or is it too early, should i just let contact slide for my own sanity (i have always been inlove with this girl), or just keep being her old reliable friend.. it really hurts already!!! I just dont know how to deal with this situation... Sorry its soooooo long... thanks
JCD Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 It's too early to say what she's up to. I mean, she just broke off with her boyfriend so she could either be waiting for him to call her back or enjoying single life or looking for a relationship with you or someone else. I would stay her friend and just have a good time with her. Don't be surprised if she pulls some crap on you though. Don't fear rejection as it will set you straight. The not knowing and being led by nose is what scares me.
DaNziNgQuEeN1 Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 This girl doesn't seem to know what she wants! If she had feelings for you like she had claimed, then she would have pursued something with you. But come on, she said she couldn't leave her boyfriend??? She's in your life, yet doesn't seem to want to be with you? That IS confusing! In any case, I say that you SHOULD tell her how you feel, even if that means risking a friendship because how can you know what she feels about it until you tell her? If you don't talk to her about how you feel then you'll always wonder what could've been between the two of you. If you talk to her about it and she doesn't want to be with you then that would probably be the most obvious clue that it IS time to move on. Don't let her play games with you because you'll just always feel hurt.
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