BenThereDunThat Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 and yeah, the dude needs to get over himself! I'm guessing he's the type that needs his ego fed - CONSTANTLY. Which also means he's probably getting it fed by more than one woman. Mine used to tell me all these wonderful things about himself - he needed me to be in awe of him.
Author BuckeyeBabe Posted September 4, 2006 Author Posted September 4, 2006 BTDT.... You made me laugh - thanks!!!!!!!!! The games sound like a good idea, especially when I am on my computer and tempted to write to him. You also nailed him perfectly! He likes control and definitely needs his ego fed!
BenThereDunThat Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 lol - you're welcome! And that's another bonus, all the time I'm spending on these games, that's less time that I could email him or get emails from him. He also couldn't IM me either. Just FYI - Magic Match is my current addiction. I have a question for you, since our MMs seem so similar. Does yours have mostly all female friends? Mine does, in fact I'm not aware of any close guy friends at all. If he has any at all, it's because of his initial friendship with their wives. And I can think of a couple guy friends from his past that their friendship ended in stupid arguments. Isn't that odd? Especially for a guy? They never stay mad at each other! That always bothered me. Just wondering if that is yet another similar trait these wayward MMs have. If anyone else has noticed this about their MM, please chime in too!
stillhere Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 BTDT......... My MM has NO close female friends! Not a one. Surprisingly, he claims to never look at other girls, and i actually feel extremely secure with that. I know him and his personality. A cute delivery girl is always making eyes at him, waving at him, and i've seen him ignore her. Even when he doesn't know i'm there. And she is cute!
Author BuckeyeBabe Posted September 5, 2006 Author Posted September 5, 2006 Hmmmmm, well do I count all those women/girls who are always supposedly hitting on him in the grocery store, book store, pharmacy, etc????? You see, he feels the need to look desireable so he tells me all these stories. Even if he told me he had a lot of female friends, would I even believe him? To be honest, I have no idea!! I know about a few of his friends, but they are men. Other than that, he keeps things pretty private. GEE - I WONDER WHY?!! You see, he is a VERY private person!!!!!!
BenThereDunThat Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I guess it's just my exMM. Thought maybe I'd find another similar trait. I can chalk that up to one more weird thing abount mine!!
Author BuckeyeBabe Posted September 7, 2006 Author Posted September 7, 2006 I caved!!! He has been ill and needed someone to talk to. I care about him, so I talked to him. I'm trying to justify it by telling myself we are FRIENDS! But in the end, I'm just an a** who is probably being played. Maybe he really did just need a friend -I have no idea at this point.
BenThereDunThat Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 I caved!!! He has been ill and needed someone to talk to. I care about him, so I talked to him. I'm trying to justify it by telling myself we are FRIENDS! But in the end, I'm just an a** who is probably being played. Maybe he really did just need a friend -I have no idea at this point. The only way you'll know for sure is if you can continue to be just his friend. If he realizes he can't get anything else from you and then goes away, then you'll know. BUT you have to be in a place with yourself where you are strong enough to not give into any 'romantic' notions should he try to sneak those in.
Author BuckeyeBabe Posted September 7, 2006 Author Posted September 7, 2006 All he has done so far this time is flatter me. Calling me a bombshell etc. Flattery is just flattery, right?
pricillia Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 BB Have you made any arrangements to see him or is it all phone and e-mail. Where did you meet this fine fella? I am sure he is a good man but try not to fall for his charm. If you are a bomb shell then you can meet someone else. If he wants to pursue you then tell him if he were single then things would be different. And of course you are a bombshell but you don't need him to tell you that!
Author BuckeyeBabe Posted September 7, 2006 Author Posted September 7, 2006 Oh my!!! I have been approached by a married couple who are swingers. I am not interested in this particular scenario, but if I were, would that mean I was sleeping with a MM and a MW?!!!!!!!! What a slut that would make me!!!!! LOL Not that there is anything wrong with "the lifestyle". It's just wrong for me. Pricilla... Whether he flatters me or insults me, my opinion is the only one that counts!! I got that straight. I just have to watch him, he has an "unconventional" marriage - his words.
BenThereDunThat Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 Oh my!!! I have been approached by a married couple who are swingers. I am not interested in this particular scenario, but if I were, would that mean I was sleeping with a MM and a MW?!!!!!!!! What a slut that would make me!!!!! LOL Not that there is anything wrong with "the lifestyle". It's just wrong for me. Pricilla... Whether he flatters me or insults me, my opinion is the only one that counts!! I got that straight. I just have to watch him, he has an "unconventional" marriage - his words. Did he just now start telling you he has an "unconventional" marriage? If that's the case, crack me up! He sees you not wanting to get involved with an MM, so he's trying to make you feel better about it! I gotta say it - the guy sounds like a true slime ball to me. Always telling you about all the girls hitting on him, what a WONDERFUL (gag) husband he is. At the very least he's an emotional vampire. He's draining yours, while he gets his ego stroked.
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