burning 4 revenge Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 you live with someone who is married to someone else, but seperated?
Adunaphel Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 you live with someone who is married to someone else, but seperated? Good question. If the H or W does not know about it or if there is not some kind of agreement between the divorced partners it surely would feel like an affair to me.
RealityCheck Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 you live with someone who is married to someone else, but seperated? NO! it is not an A. People can be separataed for years without seeking Divorce papers for many reasons.
Author burning 4 revenge Posted September 3, 2006 Author Posted September 3, 2006 NO! it is not an A. People can be separataed for years without seeking Divorce papers for many reasons. Damn :(
stoopid_guy Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 It seems to depend on the goal of the seperation. Some folks seperate in hopes of forcing the other's hand on some issue ("trial" seperation,) others do it because they don't want to be married anymore. Looking at it from an ethical, not legal standpoint, I'd call it an affair if it's a "trial" seperation but not if it's an "I don't wanna be married anymore" seperation. As far as the other spouses knowledge/consent? I don't really see the relevence as long as the one you're having your "thing" with has made it clear that the marriage was over.
whichwayisup Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 It depends. If the separation is meaning "let's fix the marriage, but we just need time apart" then, yes - It IS cheating. But, if the marriage is over and it's just a matter of time before the divorce happens, then no, it's not cheating.
alphamale Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 if they have filed the papers for a legal seperation then its not an affair.
mopar crazy Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 if they have filed the papers for a legal seperation then its not an affair. But what if the spouse that decides they want a D, or a legal seperation, says they made a mistake, moved to fast, ect and has talked about R but continues to see the OP? Isn't that an A? I say if there is no discussions of R the M and both spouses agree to move on and end the M it's not an A.
Touche Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 It's not an affair, in my opinion, if they're legally separated and there's no chance of reconciliation. I was in that exact same situation and never in my wildest dreams did I consider it an affair. I was even engaged while legally separated.
reservoirdog1 Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 If the idea upon separation was that they would be divorcing, but just haven't yet, then it's not an affair. Lots of married couples split up, divide everything that needs to be divided, and carry on with their lives without going through the formality of getting divorced. That only becomes necessary when they actually want to remarry, or find a partner who objects to that arrangement.
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