Should I ask for her number this time??

[KidA1985]

Alright, I just turned 21, and about 2 months ago, my gf of 3 years broke up with me. It's a long story, but I was sure she was the girl I was going to marry, and she broke up with me out of the blue. For the past couple of months, I haven't really been striking up conversations with girls, or even looking at them, really. I've just been trying to heal, and I am much better now than I was even just a month ago. I just haven't been trying to pursue any sort of relationship, not even friendship. I've just been trying to take life in general a bit slowly and try to not jump into anything.

 

Well, about two weeks ago, I randomly stopped by this local restaurant downtown, and at the register was this amazingly gorgeous girl. She looked familiar, and I realized that she goes to the same university as I do. As I sat around and waited on my friend to show up, I caught a few glimpses of her looking at me, smiling, and I smiled back. Once my friend showed up, as we walked to the counter, she was smiling and waving at me. Keep in mind that up to this point, we had never even spoken, and it had been like 2 years since I had even seen her at school. I ordered my food and said "You look familiar, do you go to RIC? I think we had a class together once." She said "It was Calc, wasn't it? I have this feeling." She was right, and we talked about school and random stuff for another three or four minutes, and I went to my table. I thought about asking for her number, but I thought it might be a bit creepy for me to ask for it after having a first-time three minute conversation with her. Plus, I thought "She's probably just this friendly to everyone," so I just forgot about it. When I was walking out, she was looking and smiling at me long before I even got close to her, and I just smiled and said "See ya next time."

 

Fast forward to a week later, which was last night. I went back in there and she was there again. When I went to order, she had remembered what I got last time and called out my order to me before I could even open my mouth. It was kind of embarrassing, but we both thought it was funny. So as she's ringing me up, I look up and she's looking at me with this huge smile on her face, and kind of giggles a little. I smiled and asked her how her week went and we talked for a few minutes again. She told me that a friend of her's had given her a free parking decal, and I told her that I didn't have one, and she smiled and said "Well maybe we can carpool sometime." Now if I could do that over, I would have said something like "Alright, give me your number and we can do that sometime soon," but I wasn't thinking at the time, so I didn't. Later in the night, I went back up to talk to her when it was dead, and we started talking about music, which is a HUGE part of my life since I'm a musician. She has amazing taste in music and we talked about that for about 10 minutes. She had a huge smile on her face and giggled a few times again. By this time, I'm thinking "My God, she's awesome." As the conversation came to a close, she said "I'll make a CD of different stuff and bring it for you the next time you come in," and I told her I would do the same for her. About 20 minutes later, I decided to leave, and as I was walking out, I said "I'll have something for you the next time I stop by" and she giggled again.

 

So I guess my question is this: The next time I go in, which will probably be either Wednesday or Friday, should I ask for her number? Should I have already asked for it?? It's just been hard for me to even look at other girls these last couple of months since my breakup, and it's been hard to get back into the mindset of being single and getting numbers and stuff. Plus I've only talked to her twice. I've never had confidence or self-esteem issues, but this girl is gorgeous and I can't help but think "Surely this girl isn't interested in me....she's just being friendly." Everytime I look at her, she'll look back and smile. So yeah, I just turned 21, so the next time I go in there, I can have a beer and it will calm my nerves a bit before I say anything to her. Oh, also, about the giggling....the only thing I have been able to come up with is that she was doing it because it's so obvious that I'm into her and she can tell I'm nervous when I talk to her. But I'm hoping with everything that's in me that it's because she digs me.

[Hitman10000]

Don't do it, service workers especially if they're attractive get hit on constantly, if the service worker female saw anything of interest to you, she'd be the FIRST to give you her number/email address.

[konfuzd]

So what if she gets hit on all the time? That doesn't mean she goes out with all of the guys who hit on her. She's a grown woman and can choose which guy she wants to date. I'm sure she doesn't offer up a mix CD to every customer that she serves, or offer to carpool. It sounds like she's doing all she can to entice you to ask her for her number.

 

A lot of girls, me included have never offered up their number to a guy, it's always he who asks, or offers his. If you're too nervous to just ask for it, why not slip your number into the CD jacket somewhere. After the tracklist maybe put something like, "let me know what you think over coffee sometime?... ###" or maybe when you bring the CD to her, say that you'd rather listen to it together so you can be there to see her first reaction. Invite her over to listen to it, or offer to go for a drive and listen in your car.

 

I think you're in bro! Good luck!

[KidA1985]

So what if she gets hit on all the time? That doesn't mean she goes out with all of the guys who hit on her. She's a grown woman and can choose which guy she wants to date. I'm sure she doesn't offer up a mix CD to every customer that she serves, or offer to carpool. It sounds like she's doing all she can to entice you to ask her for her number.

 

A lot of girls, me included have never offered up their number to a guy, it's always he who asks, or offers his. If you're too nervous to just ask for it, why not slip your number into the CD jacket somewhere. After the tracklist maybe put something like, "let me know what you think over coffee sometime?... ###" or maybe when you bring the CD to her, say that you'd rather listen to it together so you can be there to see her first reaction. Invite her over to listen to it, or offer to go for a drive and listen in your car.

 

I think you're in bro! Good luck!

 

Thanks! Yeah, it's not everyday that a girl tells me we can carpool to school and she'll make me a mix CD for the next time I come into her work. I'm still a little skeptical because I get the feeling she's probably just that nice with everyone...I'm not sure. But at least it has given me the confidence to ask for her number. Btw, what do you think about the giggling? Do you think it's because she can tell how nervous I am when I talk to her?

[DanielMadr]

Alright, I just turned 21, and about 2 months ago, my gf of 3 years broke up with me. It's a long story, but I was sure she was the girl I was going to marry, and she broke up with me out of the blue. For the past couple of months, I haven't really been striking up conversations with girls, or even looking at them, really. I've just been trying to heal, and I am much better now than I was even just a month ago. I just haven't been trying to pursue any sort of relationship, not even friendship. I've just been trying to take life in general a bit slowly and try to not jump into anything.

 

Well, about two weeks ago, I randomly stopped by this local restaurant downtown, and at the register was this amazingly gorgeous girl. She looked familiar, and I realized that she goes to the same university as I do. As I sat around and waited on my friend to show up, I caught a few glimpses of her looking at me, smiling, and I smiled back. Once my friend showed up, as we walked to the counter, she was smiling and waving at me. Keep in mind that up to this point, we had never even spoken, and it had been like 2 years since I had even seen her at school. I ordered my food and said "You look familiar, do you go to RIC? I think we had a class together once." She said "It was Calc, wasn't it? I have this feeling." She was right, and we talked about school and random stuff for another three or four minutes, and I went to my table. I thought about asking for her number, but I thought it might be a bit creepy for me to ask for it after having a first-time three minute conversation with her. Plus, I thought "She's probably just this friendly to everyone," so I just forgot about it. When I was walking out, she was looking and smiling at me long before I even got close to her, and I just smiled and said "See ya next time."

 

Fast forward to a week later, which was last night. I went back in there and she was there again. When I went to order, she had remembered what I got last time and called out my order to me before I could even open my mouth. It was kind of embarrassing, but we both thought it was funny. So as she's ringing me up, I look up and she's looking at me with this huge smile on her face, and kind of giggles a little. I smiled and asked her how her week went and we talked for a few minutes again. She told me that a friend of her's had given her a free parking decal, and I told her that I didn't have one, and she smiled and said "Well maybe we can carpool sometime." Now if I could do that over, I would have said something like "Alright, give me your number and we can do that sometime soon," but I wasn't thinking at the time, so I didn't. Later in the night, I went back up to talk to her when it was dead, and we started talking about music, which is a HUGE part of my life since I'm a musician. She has amazing taste in music and we talked about that for about 10 minutes. She had a huge smile on her face and giggled a few times again. By this time, I'm thinking "My God, she's awesome." As the conversation came to a close, she said "I'll make a CD of different stuff and bring it for you the next time you come in," and I told her I would do the same for her. About 20 minutes later, I decided to leave, and as I was walking out, I said "I'll have something for you the next time I stop by" and she giggled again.

 

So I guess my question is this: The next time I go in, which will probably be either Wednesday or Friday, should I ask for her number? Should I have already asked for it?? It's just been hard for me to even look at other girls these last couple of months since my breakup, and it's been hard to get back into the mindset of being single and getting numbers and stuff. Plus I've only talked to her twice. I've never had confidence or self-esteem issues, but this girl is gorgeous and I can't help but think "Surely this girl isn't interested in me....she's just being friendly." Everytime I look at her, she'll look back and smile. So yeah, I just turned 21, so the next time I go in there, I can have a beer and it will calm my nerves a bit before I say anything to her. Oh, also, about the giggling....the only thing I have been able to come up with is that she was doing it because it's so obvious that I'm into her and she can tell I'm nervous when I talk to her. But I'm hoping with everything that's in me that it's because she digs me.

 

Go for it, you have nothing to loose. Being nervous is a problem. Get rid of it.....by asking for numbers;)

[KidA1985]

Thanks for the replies. I have one more question. Do you guys think that giving her this CD will put me in the friends zone? What if I ask her number/ask her out before I give the CD, then give it to her as I'm leaving?

[konfuzd]

Until she has your number, you're in the customer zone, so just do it, however you feel comfortable. Don't think to much about it, and don't sit around the phone waiting for her call. Just put the ball in her court.

 

Go get her, tiger... rawr!!!