Guest Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 HI all My story is on the other woman under huge question for other woman BUT will tell here to Son breaks up with ex in early may (mom of grandkids) My husband goes over there to work on her car (she lives with her parents) He then on June 16th informs me he wants a divorce and has some feelings for my sons ex..I was FLOORED. He moves in with his dad. He was coming to stay here two days a week for the first 3 weeks. Then stops..we had attended to marriage counciling sessions on the second one he said i want the divorce I am done. When asked why he tells the council guy that He was still upset about my friendship with this guy (mind you i stopped even talking to him and nothing ever happened with him just a bud) The council guy tells me i have to deal with it and if he wants to be friends with my sons ex then i cant do anything nor do i have a say. I told him but this is the mom of our grandkids (his step grandkids)..he said dont matter its not your problem anymore ..needless to say i stopped seeing this idiot. Now mind you H and I are still intimate and dummy me thinks that nothing is going on till the end of July. Kissing stopped except for half assed pecks, and the hugs were no longer intimate hugs like you would hug a close friend. THEN he takes me out again..we got drunk go to his dads...have sex i go home in the morning. The next night he told me he was going out with this OW (sons ex) and he would be home late I said okay will see ya tomorrow around 10 am he said okay. He said if he got to drunk her mom and dad would let him crash on the sofa ..I said okay but dont be stupid about her. He said trust me sex with her is the furthest from my mind. I did not sleep that night had bad feeling. SO i go to his dads house he is not there..I asked is dad where he was his dad was livid ticked off at him because he did not come home and used his car. I told his dad that he told me if he got to drunk he would crash on their sofa brb. I drive over to her house and my nephew who was with me gets out of the car to get him as i did not want to see her. Her dad stops him says brb i will get him..my nephew follows him and sees him knocking on her bedroom door.....He came out bawling So told him get in the car and here comes H acting as if NOTHING happened. He was smiling saying Hi what ya doing? I said to him no what the f are you doing? so anyway to make a long story short... He informs me that since it is out they are dating...the night they went out is when she told him how she felt..she had told me in chat convos tha nothing would happen ever she loves me to much to do that blah barf vomit. NOW he lives there...and come to find out he has been having little tiffs with her over the kids hers, my neice and nephew we are raising and me..He took the kids and I out to dinner and a movie and that night i had to go to the ER due to shellfish..And had been feeling sick for about a month and a half. We go to the ER get blood work shots all that. The xray guy asked me if i had any chance of being pregnant I said no and H said no well the doctor comes in and informs us that I am pregnant. I said I cant I had a tubal so the doctor runs test and informs us that one tube is not fixed anymore. I was FLOORED and so was H. I am about 2 months now. So now she is upset over this although she kisses hiney to him. When he is with us or the kids she calls about 7 to 10 times in 2 to 3 hours. She told my father in law that i was a dead bitch if i did not back off and my father in law told her she has no morals and do not call me that again. H though does not believe she would do this. She had showed up here with him to drop off the oldest granddaughter next door at her dads house(son) while H is talking to son she asked how i was I said fine then she had the balls to ask me for 20 bucks to take my H out on his b-day (sept 3rd) I told her look I am not going to LOAN you money to take out my husband you are ALREADY sleeping with him..I am not mincing words with you..What you did to me is evil and wrong. I will never forgive you. You knew how i felt and you made the choice to **** on me. How could you do this? You told me That you would never do this to me that you love me. Well let me tell you if it walks like a whore and smells like a whore its a whore. You could still stop this but you wont..why because you have no morals and no heart and I feel so sorry for those kids and for you. She looked at the ground did not say crap. She has not said anything to him about our convo...As she knows I know about her online affair she is having with someone we know. Today hubby tells me he is keeping the option open about us ..he complains about her..he did not want her knowing that i got him a cell phone for his bday..he said he did not want to fight with her over it. I told him well you need to be honest why lie? On top of this she is upset because he is taking me out on my bday all day long and got upset that he got me something special..I however am being sweet kind..not letting him think i still love him or care about him and her..He has gotten upset over me dating and tells me i cant because I am carrying his child. My date (old friend) came to get me to take me out while he was here watching the kids ..I was 10 mins late and he called his hotel room to see if i was there *looking for my wife* AFTER he had told me i am just his good friend...BUT know as i said today he is keeping it open..i did not say yes or no to it..I just smiled winked and said its your choice what you do with your life i have no say LOL Been working on me going back to school for private investigation ( almost DONE BUT what else can i do to get him back.???????????..so far its changing slowlyyyyyyy and she is starting to look like the witch...HEHE
luvstarved Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 Um, this is a really tangled web, but IMHO I'd refuse to have anything to so with your H and hope like hell his relationship with his grandchildren's mother is short-lived, for the sake of those kids who, though I didn't hear much about your son, should probably be in the custody of someone other than her. It certainly sounds like a tough situation in which to bring a new life into the world.
Guest Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 Um, this is a really tangled web, but IMHO I'd refuse to have anything to so with your H and hope like hell his relationship with his grandchildren's mother is short-lived, for the sake of those kids who, though I didn't hear much about your son, should probably be in the custody of someone other than her. It certainly sounds like a tough situation in which to bring a new life into the world. Oh it is tough im so depressed but moving on...one minutehe treats me awesme like at his work last night flirted HARDCORE and his boss and that saw it...BUt when he is with her he sh*ts on us gets all big shotty in front of her...makes me vomit...like today she had the electric shut off at my sons house and she made a written agreement to not do that till he got his taken care of...THEN on top of this she is collecting welfare from the state she is in AND the other state she lived in as well...so two different states..so I reported her. They said that is huge fraud and will be in deep doo doo... He tells the kids (neice and nephew that they should not worry about him and this OW but they are so angry with him...he says he loves them ..then today i was to pick him up at 1 pm to help me go shopping as no lifting over 10 lbs..THEN I get a call saying he will be here at 230 instead cause the OW wants his help ( they had a small fight AGAIN over it.) I said oh okay no prob then tells me well you will need to hurry to shop i dont have alot of time to do that as i wnt time with the kids...I said well not to be rude but here i am pregnant with YOUR child and you cant help me without bitching? UM sorry sweetie but this kid is more important then your * vagina* and I hung up...was soooo ticked off then he calls and rips me then tells me I need to grow up and THEN acts nice again..told him look IM going if your here your here whatever...just dont **** on the kids...He NOW has the ringer off of his cell.. THATS another thing that pisses me off when he is with us she willc all 15 times in an hour..although it is suppose to be FAMILY time If i did that to him during their time i would be RIPPED!!! so when i ask him nicely can you please shut your phone off as you live with her and her parents...he flips...they do fight and i do hope it is short lived but she is already telling the grandchild (age 5) do you want me to marry papa?? She says NO i will run to daddys and not come home again) H tells his dad he is not getting married again...says he wants to work on him..well DUH how can you work on you when your with someone...* shakes head* he is an idiot and she is fool to...both have no morals and are selfish to others feelings BUt what goes around comes around and karma has a bad way of nipping ya in the tush..I will laugh hard on that day...everyone even the therapist said one day he will run back crying in his soup
Guest Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 Um, this is a really tangled web, but IMHO I'd refuse to have anything to so with your H and hope like hell his relationship with his grandchildren's mother is short-lived, for the sake of those kids who, though I didn't hear much about your son, should probably be in the custody of someone other than her. It certainly sounds like a tough situation in which to bring a new life into the world. well today was going great he wanted to spend time with the kids i said okay and we were laughing he was flirting his dad saw it..well we go to the park so i can drop them off and his GF was there i said what is she doing here?? he said we go here alot maybe she brought her daughter here..he says go past her we will go somewhere else..i thought ya right she knew you would be here..well we go to anouther park she calls is pissed off because he did nt stop..then he tells her that me and the kids will drop him off about 8 she got upset again saying you be at said loction or iw ill be upset..well I call to check on youngest and he says cant talk as he is talking to neice as she is upset i said why is she upset? he says well i gotta go..so i got in the car prayed to god she was not there I dont see her car anywhere thought well thank god but gut told me go past the playground area and WHO DO I SEE HER!! he is over by the bathrooms talking to my neice he sees me i tell the kids to get in the car and go to get my neice...he says that my neice invited her i said did you say that she said I did not invite her i just did not want to get in a fight with him over her being her sooooo he starts SCREAMING at me calling em names..told me take the kids and she was staying i told him your upset thatyou got busted your not seeing the kids or this baby if your choosing her over them soooo he breaks his cell phone tells me he is getting a restraining order i said go for it i wont be back...well people at the park are calling him a jerk and i tell him its sad that you chose your stepsons ex girlfriend the mom of our grandkids over kids that you are helping raise that you told you would never hurt them and they woudl be number one..well the kids are crying and talking to him and ripping into him about how they feel and i go over to her and tell her that she has no morals, no compassion or respect and is a selfish woman..people were nodding about it. I told her i am not jealous of her but she should of me as i can see im a huge threat to her and the kids are to. She told me that its my fault and i told her i figured you would blame me to make yourself look more like a human with a heart...BUT you knew how i felt about him lied so much about what was going He got upset that i was talking to her and two guys told him dude let her talk this is not her fault its yours and hers..man you need to stop thinking with your little head I told him your not seeing me this baby or the kids until you decide what truly matters you made your choice he said fine told me i dont want to see your face again i am done i said whatever im glad your done so are we then tells the kids dont worry your aunt and i will work this out they told him well you could work it out had you not brought her here we hate her and do you care no. She then tells me well you lost him and now he is mine i said thank god as one day he will find out how she is and she will find out how he is..I told her my biggest prob is you dont seem to care about your kids feelings and mine..your immature, selfish and a whore. I turned around put the kids in the car and left. I went down to his dads and his dad is so upset with him he is going over to her parents house tomorrow and ripping her and him open as he is not putting up with him doing this to me or the kids anymore. His dad said dont call him he willc all you as he cant STAND it when you dont call him he told me that..and he told me he only kinda loves her that she is a piece of a** they fight alot over all of us and everyone is saying it wont last..but im not calling him he knows where i am and im not letting the kids get shi on anymore i am soooooo done. Yes i love him and im a fool to i do want him back as this is not him ..since she has been in the picture he has turned into a monster ..he was close to his family and he only comes over now if he needs something. They however are all backing me 100% he has gotten in a finacial hole he is digggin deeper he is worse off now because of her..but his choice his mistake Maybe one day he will realize the crap he caused
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