Touche Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Ok, this is a bit of a rant. For those of you who have been married longer than say, seven years, do you remember what's it was like when you showered together before you were married? What about now? Because the way I remembered it, not too much showering went on before. And now...well, that's about ALL that goes on. Ok, let me go back. Earlier this evening I had the brillant idea to suggest to my husband of 11 years that we take a shower together. I was thinking it could be a different kind of foreplay for us since we haven't done that (shower together) in ages. And I really wanted to set the tone for later. Well this is how it went. Me: Honey, can I join you in the shower since I need one too? H: Hmmm..well you like the water much hotter than I do...I don't know. Me: Ok, well if you don't want to..just thought we'd do something different for a change. H: Ok, but only if I can have the water the way I want it. Me: Ok, fine. So we get in the shower. Me: AAAAAHHHH, it's FREEZING in here! Go over there by the wall and let me get this warmed up. So I turn around away from him and turn the faucet to HOT. I feel the washcloth briefly and ever so gently caressing my back. Me: Aww...honey that's so sweet of you to do my back. I turn around to give him a kiss and notice that he's in his own world soaping himself up and the end of the washcloth was just dangling there and was brushing against me as he rubbed it across his chest. H: I have to rinse off now. Can you switch places with me? M: OW, you stepped on my foot. Move out of my way so I can move! H: ARGH!!!!! It's SCALDING...SHYT! Oh, god I think I'm having a heat stroke. I'm rinsing off and getting out of here. M: Ok. Who's idea was this again? H: Sure as hell wasn't mine! GRRR!!! Is there ANY hope for tonight after that? He killed the mood! Suggestions anyone? And HUSBANDS, why are you always complaining that we don't initiate anything, look what happens when we DO!!!
alphamale Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 sorry but i can't imagine having sex with the same person for seven years...
Author Touche Posted September 3, 2006 Author Posted September 3, 2006 sorry but i can't imagine having sex with the same person for seven years... Very funny, Alph. Oh and BIG help you are! And guess what? I can't imagine anyone wanting to have sex with you after seven WEEKS!
norajane Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Start the kissing and touching outside the shower, warm him UP, and then get in...
bab Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 So, I'm a bit short on the marriage requirement, but my H and I are big into showering together. And, I do mean showering. Only occassionaly does the showering actually turn into something more. Still, it's a form of intimacy.
Author Touche Posted September 3, 2006 Author Posted September 3, 2006 Start the kissing and touching outside the shower, warm him UP, and then get in... Thanks, NJ but the showering part is over. It happened just as I described above. I haven't given up though and just wondered if I can still get something going for later. See, I rarely initiate sex. He's usually the one and I know he'd like me to. I just thought I'd surprise him tonight by being the initiator/agressor. But I know he doesn't know I have this on my mind so the shower for him was just a shower. I'll try to think of something else.
Author Touche Posted September 3, 2006 Author Posted September 3, 2006 So, I'm a bit short on the marriage requirement, but my H and I are big into showering together. And, I do mean showering. Only occassionaly does the showering actually turn into something more. Still, it's a form of intimacy. Thanks, Bab. You made me feel better about our shower. So you think that shower, as I described it, was INTIMATE!
Outcast Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Being scalded does not equal foreplay. If you can't find a water temperature that you both can enjoy then stay out of the shower. I heard a power struggle rather than an attempt to find cooperation and compromise. Also not condusive to horniness.
JamesM Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 :laugh: Thank you, I enjoyed reading that. Yes, I was laughing the whole time. That is why we would never shower. It isn't really romantic. When I remodelled my bathroom, I asked her is I should get a shower big enough for both of us. Unfortunately, I could not fit one bigger than 32" wide, so no, we can't shower together. We had a laugh imagining us taking one...it kind of sounds like yours. I actually had a picture (at least the way I imagine you to look....tall, lean blonde,....him...muscular, looked kind of like Pierce Brosnan)...of all of this happening. Thanks!
Author Touche Posted September 3, 2006 Author Posted September 3, 2006 Hey James glad you had a laugh at my expense! I had a laugh over your descriptions of us. Nope, not blonde and H is better looking than Pierce Brosnan! So anyway, yeah there was nothing romantic about it. But why is it that it used to be??? WHY, WHY, WHY?????
JamesM Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Simple answer....there was more of a fascination with sex...from both sides...than there is now. The reality of life unfortunately has stolen much of our ability to live in a fantasy world. At least that would be why we can not. Sorry, I wasn't laughing AT you...I was laughing WITH you. Are you still laughing?
Author Touche Posted September 3, 2006 Author Posted September 3, 2006 Simple answer....there was more of a fascination with sex...from both sides...than there is now. The reality of life unfortunately has stolen much of our ability to live in a fantasy world. At least that would be why we can not. Sorry, I wasn't laughing AT you...I was laughing WITH you. Are you still laughing? I know you weren't laughing at me, James. And yes, I'm still laughing. I'd be crying if I were not laughing. And don't get me started about living in a fantasy world. Yes, I tend to do that from time to time. It's a good place to be sometimes. I recommend it highly.
RecordProducer Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 In 2004 he soaped my back and we both moaned at the same time. In 2006 I am using his credit card as much as I want, but not much soaping in the shower is happening. Question: what happened in 2005? Answer: deirram tog eW.
RecordProducer Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 I could not fit one bigger than 32" wide, so no, we can't shower together. I bet you're not that big when you're soft... Nonethelss, I am staring to like you more and more!
whichwayisup Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 My hubby and I do take showers together. I usually get frisky in there and it always leads to other things, which inturn, makes us late for wherever we're heading off to...So, usually if we are going out and have to be somewhere on time, it's safer to take separate showers. 13 years and we still enjoy showering together. (Then again, ours is big enough and it's a big corner unit, glassdoors etc..) *And yes, I had my avatar up before this thread was born.* LOL!
burning 4 revenge Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 13 years and we still enjoy showering together Yeah, I wonder why. I should of opted to come back as your husband in the reincarnation thread. Hell, from the intensity of what you told me, I should've opted to come back as you.
Author Touche Posted September 3, 2006 Author Posted September 3, 2006 My hubby and I do take showers together. I usually get frisky in there and it always leads to other things, which inturn, makes us late for wherever we're heading off to...So, usually if we are going out and have to be somewhere on time, it's safer to take separate showers. 13 years and we still enjoy showering together. (Then again, ours is big enough and it's a big corner unit, glassdoors etc..) *And yes, I had my avatar up before this thread was born.* LOL! Thanks for rubbing it in Witch! That made me feel worse! RP, can you explain the answer to your riddle? I'll update on all of this in a little while.
CynicalP Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 And HUSBANDS, why are you always complaining that we don't initiate anything, look what happens when we DO!!! If you dont go straight for his unit your sending him mixed signals.
bab Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Thanks, Bab. You made me feel better about our shower. So you think that shower, as I described it, was INTIMATE! Well, maybe not exactly as you described it. Just that it doesn't have to be sexual to be intimate. And hey, there is always the possibility that it will turn sexual underlying the whole washing thing. Makes it more entertaining. Makes shaving the legs hard as hell though!
Author Touche Posted September 3, 2006 Author Posted September 3, 2006 Ok, so H was downstairs watching tv in the living room. I changed in to my sexy nightgown and turned on one of those cable channels that show soft porn. I called him upstairs. He remarked on how beautiful I looked. I thought..hmm..that's a good start. He got in bed next to me and started watching with me. The scene went quickly from some girl on girl action to a shower scene featuring a blonde with big fake boobs and a dark-haired tattoed hunk. After laughing at the couple, we ignored them and started commenting on the shower itself! It was HUGE with large glass doors...nothing and I mean NOTHING like our pitiful little tub/shower combo. We started commenting on the beautiful tile work, the doors and started talking about the changes we should make in our bathroom. I laughed to myself...sheesh, even a porno didn't do the trick. Here we were commenting on tile work and ignoring the couple who were enthusiastically f'ing their brains out! Cut to the chase: We ended up turning the tv and off and nature FINALLY took it's course.
bab Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Ok, so H was downstairs watching tv in the living room. I changed in to my sexy nightgown and turned on one of those cable channels that show soft porn. I called him upstairs. He remarked on how beautiful I looked. I thought..hmm..that's a good start. He got in bed next to me and started watching with me. The scene went quickly from some girl on girl action to a shower scene featuring a blonde with big fake boobs and a dark-haired tattoed hunk. After laughing at the couple, we ignored them and started commenting on the shower itself! It was HUGE with large glass doors...nothing and I mean NOTHING like our pitiful little tub/shower combo. We started commenting on the beautiful tile work, the doors and started talking about the changes we should make in our bathroom. I laughed to myself...sheesh, even a porno didn't do the trick. Here we were commenting on tile work and ignoring the couple who were enthusiastically f'ing their brains out! Cut to the chase: We ended up turning the tv and off and nature FINALLY took it's course. :lmao: Congrats on finally getting it to work!
HokeyReligions Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 LOL! Hubby and I haven't showered together in at least 15 years. I remember the last time was similar to the washcloth incident you described! (I like hot water too and he doesn't) It's so funny that as we develop other interests we start seeing things in the background of movies. We were watching a movie one time - hubby's suggestion to watch a romantic movie (he usually hates chick-flicks) so we could be close and romantic and through much of the movie we noticed the crown molding and were commenting on that and how hard it would be to cut and install and we even paused the movie a few times to look at the inside corners and outside corners and discuss in detail how to do that for our room! Nice to know we aren't alone!
tinktronik Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 In our last house, we had a giant whirlpool tub with jets and the big glass door shower. This time in we have a midget shower that even I have to duck into to wash my hair. The tub is tiny.So we have tried to shower together here, but my s/o being 6'5 ,the spray hits hit in the navel and it is just too rediculous .Weve also tried to cram into the tub together , but again with my s/o being 6'5 I end up contorted into some strange and unusuall shapes and we both decide to ditch it .Even the bed is to small ,he hangs off the end .I've proposed a swing that hangs from the rafters, that way he can just stand.
alphamale Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 LOL! Hubby and I haven't showered together in at least 15 years. are you two still celebate?
Author Touche Posted September 3, 2006 Author Posted September 3, 2006 Thanks, Bab! Gosh, it's a lot of work initiating! Maybe I'll just go back to letting him initiate. Hokey, that was funny and nope..you're not alone. Now, why don't you try the shower thing and come back and tell us if yours went any better! Tink, strange and unusual shapes, huh? That must have been interesting! Yeah, my guy isn't a small man either so it was kind of cramped in there with the two of us. We're absolutely going to have one of those big showers in our next house..just like the one in the movie last night.
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