Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted September 2, 2006 Posted September 2, 2006 hey boiis i just really want to know something...when you find a really nice and sweet girl perfect, like a wifey type, is beautiful, who looks up for you, takes care of you like you want a girl to care for you, listens to anything you have to say, always has a conversation going with you, is outgoing has goals has ambitions, jokes around and is goofy with you like a friend, looks at you like shes only yours and makes you feel comfortable and who you have alot in common with....like she likes cars as much as you do or likes the same music as you do and many other things....well do you go back to a girl like this or do you forget about her and try to find another girl and move on????
Shattered Heart Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Well, since you just described the ideal situation, then of course I would go back. However, why is there even a choice of going back or not? I mean, that would imply that there was a breakup. And from what you described, what would ever possess anyone from leaving a perfect situation as this one?
the_alchemyst Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Nah. If they want to leave, they'll leave regardless of who you are and who you are not. Likewise, if they want to come back, they'll come back regardless of who you were or who you won't be. In a situation such as the one you described, well, you know--it does sound like a very good one, so why leave? Maybe because that's not the type of relationship they want, maybe because they no longer love you, or maybe they are confused. In whichever case, you can't do anything about it, really. You can be the greatest or you can be the worst, but in the end, them coming back or not won't be your decision to make.
burning 4 revenge Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 I see from your profile that your'e 17, so I'm guessing most guys aren't looking for a wifey girl just yet
Walk Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Just a thought.. but sometimes our self-percieved image of ourselves is not accurate. Maybe he wanted a girl who had her own identity? Maybe he wanted a girl who wasn't so clingy and insecure? Maybe he wanted a girl who was more open sexually? Or a girl who wouldn't go along with everything he said simply because she was so scared to lose him? Did he give any reasons for why he left? Or did he discuss any problems he was having? Get angry about stuff you were doing? Or did he seem like he was 100% happy, and then just walked out one day?
Adunaphel Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 If you broke up with your bf, please do not put your life on hold in the hope that he'll come back to you and do not think that there is some fault with your personality. You could be perfect, and yet he could be no longer in love with you. Each guy, each girl and each relationship is different. Many guys would love to be with the kind of girl you described - your bf might or might not come back to you, and I hope that he will, but remember that if he does not there are many guys out there that would appreciate you.
Guest Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 hey boiis i just really want to know something...when you find a really nice and sweet girl perfect, like a wifey type, is beautiful, who looks up for you, takes care of you like you want a girl to care for you, listens to anything you have to say, always has a conversation going with you, is outgoing has goals has ambitions, jokes around and is goofy with you like a friend, looks at you like shes only yours and makes you feel comfortable and who you have alot in common with....like she likes cars as much as you do or likes the same music as you do and many other things....well do you go back to a girl like this or do you forget about her and try to find another girl and move on???? This 'Wifey Type' lady sounds great. But the guy still left. All I can deduct from this is: 'Wifey' sounds like a good person but bottom line she wasn't good for HIM. Is he coming back: I don't think anyone knows that, including him.
prrthd1 Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 I put this post on the one about "BUNNY BOILERS", but I thought it fit in here too. Just my personal situation / opinion: I was dating a guy I've known for about 5 or 6 yrs (he's a friend of the family), but he just divorced in October and we started talking around the end of March. We dated from the end of April to the end of June, when he suddenly said he needed to slow down and think. He soon started dating a 19 yr old that he met before we started talking. They never dated or anything before, but she made it clear that she wanted him and even asked him to stop dating me and egged my car at his house one night. He went through a 6 yr marriage with a major drama queen that was completely untrusting and just down right evil from what he said. Our relationship seemed too good to be true, with no fights, disagreements or anything like. He even ran into my aunt after we started dating and said to her "Ever since I got divorced my dad has said I need to find someone like my mom, who likes to cook and clean and do laundry and just take care of me - I've never had that. I know your niece is that kind of girl." THEN WHAT'S THE PROBLEM! He dumped me for an immature girl who would stop at nothing to get him, even when he told her he was happy with me. I just think some men are so used to putting up with drama and crap that happy relationships scare them. I tried really hard not be clingy or call him too much or get in the way when he had his daughter, etc. He had a overly clingy wife and I didn't think he wanted that again. Now, he's with someone who appears to be just that. He never has given me a direct reason for the split. I even emailed him recently and he said "there's nothing wrong with you - you're a beautiful woman and a great person. Now, when anyone asks him what happened to us, he just says "it just didn't work out." I've yet to figure out what wasn't working.
Author Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted September 4, 2006 Author Posted September 4, 2006 ORIGINALLY POSTED BY Shattered Heart Well, since you just described the ideal situation, then of course I would go back. However, why is there even a choice of going back or not? I mean, that would imply that there was a breakup. And from what you described, what would ever possess anyone from leaving a perfect situation as this one? well not really a break up just at furst it was like lovers and friends..but iunno all of a sudden we stopped talking andi just really want to know why are guys so confusing.. they say they like what they see and would want to have it and when they have it they get all confused and dont know what they want anymore!!!ugh!! haha originally posted by burning 4 revenge I see from your profile that your'e 17, so I'm guessing most guys aren't looking for a wifey girl just yet but the guy wasnt my age....hes 20 i wanted someone else other than a teen who all they want is play around but i guess from my situations all guys no matter what their age is they are all the same.. and thats that...i really want to settle down and not play games anymore i dont want a relationship of 2 or three months i want a relationship of 3 years mayb 4 or 5...i dont want tp be someones gf i want to be someones wifey... originally posted by Walk Just a thought.. but sometimes our self-percieved image of ourselves is not accurate. Maybe he wanted a girl who had her own identity? Maybe he wanted a girl who wasn't so clingy and insecure? Maybe he wanted a girl who was more open sexually? Or a girl who wouldn't go along with everything he said simply because she was so scared to lose him? Did he give any reasons for why he left? Or did he discuss any problems he was having? Get angry about stuff you were doing? Or did he seem like he was 100% happy, and then just walked out one day? iam not conceded or anything its just that in this type of relationship thats what i saw thats all...and i think i agree with the mayb he wanted a girl who is open more sexually...i always warn guys of that b4 nething.. i am not a freak...i have only done things with one person and it will stay like that untill i meet the one or if i find him.. lol i tell them that i am not easy that i am not one of the girls he has had b4 i open up depending on the guy.. but lilttle by little but im guessing guys think they can loose me up more...haha...yeh right! and im not scared to say something to a guy even if i think im might lose him.. because it wasnt always a yes baby yes w.e u say i agree with you thing we disagreed on alot of things and agreed on most things... umm there was something that happened so we would be the way we are right now.. but i dont know if thats wut this is all about....he stopped calling me and i dont know why...he says hes busy working and when hes not working hes sleeping but i dont buy that shyt!! Adunaphel If you broke up with your bf, please do not put your life on hold in the hope that he'll come back to you and do not think that there is some fault with your personality. You could be perfect, and yet he could be no longer in love with you. Each guy, each girl and each relationship is different. Many guys would love to be with the kind of girl you described - your bf might or might not come back to you, and I hope that he will, but remember that if he does not there are many guys out there that would appreciate you. aww thank you thats so sweet.....
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