GW7147 Posted September 2, 2006 Posted September 2, 2006 Hi All, Thought I'd Post a quick note after a few months. My ex walked away from our relationship with no warning 4 months ago. I later found out, she started dating somebody a few weeks later. She's still going through a divorce and has jumped from relationship to relationship ever since she seperated from her husband. I applied strict NC since our breakup and haven't seen her since the begining of May. I visit a bar restaurant on a regular basis and my ex knows I frequent this place all the time. She's not been in since we split up....until yesterday. When I walked in, the bartender told me she was there. She wanted to make sure I was O.K. I immediately told her, I didn't care if she was there. She was sitting at the head of the bar with her girlfriend (she cheated on her husband last year and is also going through a divorce). I didn't even glance over at my ex at all. I sat and talked to a few people I knew. A friend of mine came in with her boyfriend and we sat and talked for a while. I eventually got up to go to the restroom. I walked past the ex and couldn't be bothered even looking her way. The bartender overheard my ex ask her friend "Did he leave?" Her friend replied "No, he just walked passed by and ignored you". My return was the same, I didn't even look her way. I felt pretty good that I didn't bother me to see her. I wasn't sure what I would feel and often wondered if it would bother me or not. I guess it didn't. I later found out, when my ex arrived, she began talking up her boyfriend saying how absolutely wonderful her summer was. She began pulling pictures out of her wallet etc... Most everybody that works at the bar was disgusted by her actions etc...They really didn't pay much attention to her. I guess I just wanted to post to say I finally ran into the ex and I was glad I didn't say anything to her or even acknowledge her presense. Not quite sure why she even went in there when she hasn't been in for months now. She has her own hangouts. It's all good, I took the final step and I was O.K. Never thought I'd get to this point but everything turned out well. Take care all. Regards, GW
Diver012 Posted September 2, 2006 Posted September 2, 2006 Glad to hear it. In a few minutes I get to go to work to attend a social function in which my Ex will be there and may also have a "guest" with her. I have walked into many meetings with here and I always act the same way you do. I completely ignore her. Problem with that is its obvious, atleast to me, that there are still some hurt feelings going on. I will be happy when I can walk into a room and not have a second thought or reservation about her being there in the first place. Only then will I have complete closure.
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