punchy96 Posted September 2, 2006 Posted September 2, 2006 Ok. I was in a relationship up until four months ago. We split and in an attempt to move on and meet new people, I went to the online dating. I met a guy and we e-mailed back and forth for about three weeks before we met in person. We have been seeing each other now for about five weeks. Here's the problem: He has a daughter. She is four and spoiled rotten. She and I get along fine. No major problems, but I am having trouble connecting with her. The last person that I dated for 18 months had two children (4 and 6) and I adored them. That was one of the things that kept us together for so long. Anyway, I find myself getting very jealous of her being around. She is very jealous because she has never had to share her dad before. This is really starting to affect him and I. It seems the only time that I am happy is when she is not there. He is very affectionate. He already says he loves me. I am very leery to return those feelings for fear of getting my heart broke again. I don't know if I am holding myself back from loving him and getting close to his daughter because I'm scared to get hurt or if it is because there really isn't any connection between us and I am just looking for someone to spend time with, to be close with. The affection that he shows is something I have always wanted but never had. How do I know if I am dating him just because I don't want to be alone anymore? I don't get excited at the thought of seeing him or talking to him, but I am very comfortable with him and don't dread it either. Will the attraction grow with time or should I expect it to be there right from the start? How much time do I give it before I give up or give in? I don't want to hurt anyone or get hurt. Is this just a transition from my past relationship? Any advice or ideas?
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