StacyRG Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Any idea what happened? This is the story in a nutshell -met a wonderful man who had a girlfriend, became friends -knew he found me attractive but didnt want to mess up his relationship -he lives far away and we emailed about work stuff- then he broke up with this girlfriend because she broke his heart a month ago- or six weeks ago- by cheating on him with his friend -we started flirting on email/ flirting on the phone -we started to become very close very fast- NO phone sex, thats not what i mean- telling secrets, desires, fears, very intense -decided to have a visit -visited on thursday- met, very awkward, nervous- esp. me- but worked through it- kissed- and he seemed REALLY into me -second night, fooled around, I tried to go a bit farther- he said "I cant sleep with you this soon because I have to make sure my feelings are in check- I just got out of a serious heartbreak and I dont want to **** you or anyone else over- I know you dont have casual sex- I said I understood, pushed on a bit, then he almost did have sex but again said its best to wait..but that he really wanted to. -next day sent him a text that said"had a nice time with you last night"- his responses were about other things, dinner, etc. didnt respond about that..and then we met with a group for dinner -he didnt save me a seat but I sat next to an old friend -I saw he was warm to me but not like he was the night before, but very nice and kind- but when he passed me to get a smoke didnt touch my chair or anything... -my friend said she could see on my face I was angry/hurt and so could he -we left and he said, I will see you in DC in a day (on business)- I will ring you then -he didnt ask me out for a drink or anything for alone time -I was then visibly pissed and angry and when he said"come here" like for another hug goodbye I pulled away. He seemed angry -got back to the hotel- he called and said "what was wrong with you at dinner? you were weird and quiet- I said I had a sore throat, which he knew - he seemed mad -then I sent him an apology to say I was not myself and I was sorry - he sent an email that said that I get it, its actually that I pulled back because of what I said to you about relationships- i hope we can be friends -also, the trip he talked up about we are going to do this and that when I get to DC when we met in his city..well, suddenly his plans were going to be "busy"...telling I know - I was devestated!!!!!! I sent a nice email to say that I understood but didnt really say how hurt I was...he had sent me on a whirlwind and then clipped it - sure enough the next day he was here on business- a few blocks away, never called. On the second night I hit him wiht a quick text message saying I hoped he had a good trip. His answer was short. Something about being tired. He and I texted back a few times where I asked him if he really still wanted to be friends (hinting he didnt seem like it, he was a few blocks away on a trip that was orchestrated to be mostly for us and now he didnt even call- and he said- yes I do want to be friends" -Hes back home now, 2000 miles away, and I want to so much to write him but my friends say I must wait at least a few weeks- Im afraid he will forget all about me by then but I guess I will wait it out, and then perhaps embarrass myself by reaching out...I dont know what happened or what to do- opinions anyone? thank you.
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