Mimsicles Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 I have just split with my boyfriend, he ended it because he didnt know what he wanted any more, I am heart broken and spend everynight crying myself to sleep. I am fed up of being dumped. Now he keeps mailing me saying he loves me but he had to end it because i'd have only been hurt at the end of it. Then he tells me he feels empty without me and isnt sure if he's done the right thing. He's told me to move on, but then said in a month he'll probably want me back. I'm feeling so low and i know that i love him so much and would take him back anyday. I miss him too. I made him my everything and now he's gone i have nothing. I dont want to move on yet, i am still clinging on to the bit of hope that he'll come back, am i right to do this. I would do anything for him? Please tell me what you think i should do, i am in despair
JamesM Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 As hard as this is to hear right now, it would be good for both of you to date other people. You are 18. You (believe it or not) may need to date other people to find out if this really is the guy for you. I know some who have married their high school sweetheart, but if he is not sure, you (and he) have time to find out if he is the one. I understand your deep despair. I have been there....many years ago. Time does heal all wounds. He may be the one...he may not be. But getting out with other people may solidify your feelings one way or another.
Mz. Pixie Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 He's stringing you along just in case his being single and getting the girl he wants now doesn't work for him. Tell him if he comes back in a month you might now want him. He's hedging his options. I remember how heartbroken I was when my first love and I broke up at 16. I didn't eat for two weeks and lost 20 lbs. It was tough so I'm not diminishing that. Yet actually, there are so many worse things you can go through than this. Try to put it in perspective. It's nothing compared to being married 20 years and your spouse cheats on you- or your spouse or child getting very sick or you yourself getting very ill. There are people around the world who do not even know where their next meal is coming from and parents who are watching their children slowly starve to death. So, take a breath- and go out with your friends. Don't let this guy screw with your head. One day you'll look back on this and be like "Who?"
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