joel Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 ah i was talking to one of my co workers, slow day for the week and we were talking about cars. he tells me he has a 04 Civic coupe and he asked me about my car ,which i said i don;t have one. he says he doesn;t drive anything older tha a 98 and hates american cars and has high standard in cars.... he tells me how can a 24 yr old can not even have a car, and how that not having a car-meant no gf-what kind of girl would date a guy without a car. my meaning is what do u guys think of this comment. do u guys now any guys or gf or ppl that have no car-the guy that is and still dates and or has a gf. how do they do it. do girls really care about the car if u have one or not. i'm not talking about ppl in their teens but in their mid 20's or older and has no car-how do u guys date, and can they date. i met one before 31 asian guy named Derick who had no car, he said u have to improvise, like meeting them their, but i think he is the minority. how many guys out theire mid 20's or older don;t have a car and has a gf or u now freinds, of freinds or ppl of ppl how do u do it. you ask me if a gal said she wasn;t goin date a guy with no car -i say shes superfical and shallow human being, i mean its just trransopration right. we both chinese hes a honger from hong kong and i'm a cbc-chinese canadian born i mean even if ur a guy with a car -do u always pick up ur gf from her house and take her out, i mean gas is so $$$ and do u as the guy want to be a chauffeur. i mean the girl can meet up with u in a central close location and just go from there. or maybe she has a car and u have a car, and just meet up at the movie theatre or what not. what do u guys think comments and suggestion or are u in similar situation -tell me
littlepiggy1 Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 A car is a sign of freedom, independence and responsibility. Do you need a car? No, but it helps.
P1xie Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 I think that would depend on where you lived. If I lived in New York City I think I would be taking public transportation more than driving. If you can work around not having a car and still do things together and the girl really likes you a car should not be an issue. I think I have high standards in cars and I wouldn't drive anything unless it was American Opinions are like *ssholes everyone has one. There are people out there though that look at material things as important so it goes both ways. I've personally dated a guy in his twenties that didn't have a car or a license. It didn't work out but it wasn't because he didn't have a car.
james007 Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 It all depends on the women you want mate. Not all women care that you don't have a car. Some find it a turn off while other women might find it cute while others may have a neutral stance on it and not think anything of it at all. It depends on the women you are attracted to. One of my girlfriend's guy friends has no car and he lives in the boon-dox. He still manages to get girlfriends. I think his confidence in himself is what attracts him to these women. He likes and accepts himself for who he is. He is not desperately seeking approval from other people.
JamesM Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 A car also indicates that you have had a bit of success and desire to build a career and a home. However, if you do not have a car because: you don't need one as you go nowhere but your job...okay, but then you won't meet anyone. you will use the car of the woman you meet....not good. you are saving for a new home and a car detracts from your goal....good. So, yes, you need a car, but women look at what it MEANS that you don't have a car. They think of the future.....will this man be ambitious or will he be a couch potato? Is he a saver or is he lazy?
james007 Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 I think the solution in your situation is not to change the real you but rather to find a position where being the real you works. If a woman turns you down because you don't own a car then it's her problem and loss. Just move on. You might get rejected several times but it's really all trial and error here. Saving up to buy a car is good if you are doing it for yourself but don't do it in order to get more dates.
james007 Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 As gas prices get higher and higher I doubt that having a car is really a sign of personal freedom. If gas gets up to 4$ a gallon I think I'm going to sell it and get a bicycle instead. So let the gas prices increase. Bring it on. Pretty soon I'll be doing a boycott against buying cars. There is nothing wrong with letting your girlfriend drive you around as long as you reimburse her for gas money.
norajane Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Depends on where you live. Living in a big city where public transporation is easy or taxis are plentiful and parking is tight, it makes sense not to have a car and it's really not so necessary. If you want to take weekend trips or whatever, you can always rent a car if you have a driver's license and a credit card. Most women in big cities understand that cars are more trouble than they're worth sometimes. But if you live out in the suburbs, then you're going to have a lot more trouble unless she's willing to drive you around. That's not something you should be relying on. It makes you very dependent on her, and it makes it harder for you to be the gentleman or spontaneous.
Brittanyjean06 Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 How do you get around? would you want your girlfriend having to take you places every where you went?
flowergirl Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 My boyfriend is in his mid-20's and has neither a car nor a license, luckily we live in a major metropolitan area where public transportation is more than sufficient for getting around. My opinion is that, unless you live in the middle of nowhere, cars aren't that neccesary, and not having one doesn't make you less of a man.
lindya Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 he tells me how can a 24 yr old can not even have a car, and how that not having a car-meant no gf-what kind of girl would date a guy without a car. my meaning is what do u guys think of this comment. I think it's bizarre. What kind of girl wouldn't date someone on the basis that he didn't have a car?
superconductor Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 I think it's bizarre. What kind of girl wouldn't date someone on the basis that he didn't have a car? Lindya, you'd be astounded at how shallow some people are. Utterly astounded.
StayClose Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Unless you live in Manhattan or possibly Boston, a car is a symbol of independance and not having a car is a symbol of being dependent at best or a loser at worse. Neither is attractive to women.
Rikka Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 My boyfriend is in his mid-20's and has neither a car nor a license, luckily we live in a major metropolitan area where public transportation is more than sufficient for getting around. My opinion is that, unless you live in the middle of nowhere, cars aren't that neccesary, and not having one doesn't make you less of a man. Agreed! The situation is similar to me and my boyfriend. Except now we are LD, but while we lived in the same city, it was never an issue. And trust me, the first thing I asked him when I met him was not "what kind of car do you drive". To me, a car is a means of conveyance, nothing more. It isn't a status symbol etc. And IMHO people with fancy-ass cars are generally trying to compensate for something.
superconductor Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Of course, sometimes it might be better to have no car than to have a 1972 Pinto or some such thing. On my way out and about today, I saw a fellow driving a new Ferrari. Do you think for a moment that he had an uggo in the passenger seat?
insomnie Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Unless you live in Manhattan or possibly Boston, a car is a symbol of independance and not having a car is a symbol of being dependent at best or a loser at worse. Neither is attractive to women. Yah, and somewhere in a previous post he mentioned that he also lived at home. It isn't that women would rule someone out based solely on the fact that he has no car...but I think it would raise questions. Like is he dependent on others for basic necessities like transportation, and to what extent, and why. Questions Joel should be prepared to answer. Of course if he lived in a place like NYC or Boston or San Francisco this would be a nonissue for most people, again because this is not about the car per se but about the dependence on others that not having a car in a place without public transportation implies. Why not just save up and buy a cheap car Joel? It'd probably simplify your life.
lindya Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Lindya, you'd be astounded at how shallow some people are. Utterly astounded. I wouldn't. A friend one time offered to lend me an expensive watch before we went to a party, on the basis that some of the people there might deem me not worth speaking to unless I was pricily accessorised. Apart from the sheer imbecility of that attitude, in this day of easily obtained credit you can't tell much about the financial status of someone who has flashy props.
The slayer Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 I'd say that if a girl refused to go out with a guy JUST because he didn't have a car she's probably not worth going out with. Obviously you live someone where you don't need to have a car or you woud. Personally I'd be attracted to guy who didn't have a car if he didn't need one, I'd admire that; it would suggest to me that he was confident enough to stand out from the crowd. I'd also admire it from the point of view, why on earth waste money and contribute to global warniming for something you don't need. Of course a complete arsehole probably would need some kind of flash accessory to get a girlfriend, so quite possibly its true that your co-worker wouldn't be able to get a girlfriend if he didn't have car!
james007 Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 A car is really a luxury. We have thought about it being a necessity for so long because afterall it's certainly a major convenience to not have to walk long distances or ride bikes long distances. Yes if a girl turns you down because you don't have a car then she's not worth your time anyway. The genuine hearted non-shallow woman will be more concerned with how well you treat her. That is a by-product of your confidence or lack of confidence. Jerks lack confidence & that lack of confidence is manifest in arrogance. A confident man does not feel the need to show off what he has or brag about how he's "it!"
StayClose Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Of course if he lived in a place like NYC or Boston or San Francisco this would be a nonissue for most people, again because this is not about the car per se but about the dependence on others that not having a car in a place without public transportation implies. Big cities also have services like FlexCar, where for a monthy fee you can check out a car for occasions when you need one, like for vacations, big shopping trips or weekend drives to the country. So a person commutes on the subway, buys groceries at the market on the next block, and uses FlexCar for getting out of the city, that's fine. But in the suburbs, rural areas and smaller cities & towns, an adult with no car usually doesn't have their life together enough to buy one, or their license has been revoked - both big red flags to protential partners.
Author joel Posted September 1, 2006 Author Posted September 1, 2006 he telle me to get a cell phone first and then a car, and then u will get a gf, whop needs a cell i don;t need one as i don't have a lot of contacts.lol i now a freind who has a cell and can't get any girls lol -yea right he disses american cars like they all crap-i mean they aren't that bad and they heck cheaper than imports. i would get a 94 Saturn for 3k, or 98 Cavalier for 5k something like that, still new and nice and low km's too. 04 Honda Civic Coupe is it really something to brag about, and if u were a gal would u even be impressed. oh ya i'm in vancouver,bc so transit is like ok. i unless that guy Fred talks to me -i not going to talk to him anymore, thankfully we work at a call centre so we jsut do our own work and go home, its jsut somedays are slower and there is time for chit chat.
rainfall Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 One week after me and my boyfriend started dating his car... (which was a very nice car) got repossesed. He had some bad luck at work and due to merging two different stores had his salary cut and could no longer afford payments. He was afraid to tell me because he figured I would think he was a broke loser. It didn't make me think anyless of him because he didn't have a car. I am dating him not his car. Alot of women probably would care if I guy didn't have a car because they would figure that means the guy has no money or goals. However there are still some out there who could look past that and date a guy without one.
norajane Posted September 2, 2006 Posted September 2, 2006 04 Honda Civic Coupe is it really something to brag about, and if u were a gal would u even be impressed. Honda Civics are very good, reliable cars, but I wouldn't call them impressive in the flashy sense. Coupe just means 2 doors instead of a sedan, which is 4 doors. A sports coupe would have a higher performance engine and suspension, but again, a Civic is primarily a reliable, practical car that should last him a long time.
orangele Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 I think that a woman will judge a man based on everything that she can see including his car (or lack thereof). I have a 1996 Saturn with mildew on the carpets, and I have a 2007 Mercedes convertible. I think the car I would take on a first date would make a very different impression, irregardless if everything else is the same. I do not think this is superficial, but just human nature.
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