How do I deal with the mother-in-law??

[burning 4 revenge]

Lovestruck, go down the alter as soon as you possibly can. Trust me, life only gets simpler

[whichwayisup]

I don't see what everyone's big deal is about me being so young and possibly ending up with the first guy I fell in love with...???? BIG DEAL!!

Because later in life you may look back and wish you had abit more experience with different men, that's all.

 

I do hope it works out and that you and R grow together - As people and as a couple...

[Touche]

God, I'm SUCH a fool! Burning has it right.

 

Get married. Please don't delay. The mum-in-law situation will instantly rectify itself the minute you get married. She will just automatically respect your boundaries.

 

And please have kids RIGHT away. I mean why wait, right? You two are CLEARLY meant to be together. Anyone can see that.

 

At 17, you should know your own minds right?

 

I take back EVERYTHING I said. How irresponsible of me to try to curb the course of TRUE love!

 

I'm ashamed of myself now.

[lovestruck234]

My God....

 

Touche, you are clearly getting worked up to an etreme here...chill out for a minute. Some of the statements you made towards me were simply irrational and un-called for. Just...cool down.

 

I had stated that we had TALKED about getting married, did I say I wanted to get married next year? No. When I was in my teens at all? No.

 

I don't want to get married yet...at all. It is every girls fantasy to walk down the aisle so yes, it is talked about and I will love the day I do get married, but right now....do you seriously think I would get married at 17? Um...I have a life to live first!! I simply stated that he was the guy that i want to marry...

 

WWIU, maybe some people may look back at wish they had had more experience with men, but I'm not that type. I make mistakes, but I don't regret any of them. The day I get married, and even the day I DO have children, I won't regret not having "tried out" other men.

 

Just, Touche, for God's sake, you are making really irrational and ridiculous statements. Yes, maybe we are most likely CLEARLY meant to be together...and the only people who will know that is either Rhys or myself. I shouldn't have to answer to you. Who are you to me? You are another member on LS...oh sorry...a "responsible" member. I will decide what's right for me. I don't need someone sitting there saying "No, you're not doing it right, do it this way"... I am COMPLETELY aware that I am ONLY 17, thank you SO much for pointing that out for the 1000 time. Just lay off for a bit. I appreciate your advice and input, and I will take it into consideration...but doesn't mean it's the right way.

 

Your opinion is your opinion...you are entitled to it...but it doesn't make it right. A few wise words to go by from a minor, cos believe it or not, 17 yr olds have a brain between their ears and they can make their own choices and decisions...wow...isn't that a shock??

[mental_traveller]

I don't see what everyone's big deal is about me being so young and possibly ending up with the first guy I fell in love with...???? BIG DEAL!!

 

And it is NOT very often that I will come across a guy like Rhys. He's different from the others...and no, I don't mean differnt by mummy's boy different, but the fact that he has made me happy from day 1. We are past the honeymoon stage in our relationship, I can see clearly now, I can see where I want to be in 10 years time. With him. I know I won't regret it....I knew I won't.

 

First of all, she's not your mother-in-law.

 

Second, I think the reason people are being sceptical is because the signs aren't good. He's a spoiled momma's boy, you have a crush on his cheating player best friend and have dreams about sleeping with him, and you & his mother hate each others guts. That would be enough to bet against the relationship if you were both 50 years old, so your age is just the icing on the cake. Although the poster who would bet every penny they had is being just as naive as you are.

 

As for getting on with his mother - forget it. She is a rude, screwed up obsessive whose live revolves around her son and herself, and no one else. She'll never accept you, she'll always think you're not good enough, and that outburst you experienced recently will be the first of many. So even if you do marry this guy, get ready for another 30 years of her poking her nose in and generally making your life miserable.

 

A wise piece of advice on marriage came from Alphamale, when he said that if you marry someone, you don't just get them - you get their family, friends, relatives, their whole culture & way of life. So you have to ask not just whether you like him, but whether you would be happy with his parents & friends too. Since one of his parents hates you and one of his friends wants to get into your knickers, I would think - and act - very carefully if I were you.

[burning 4 revenge]

Touche is just trying to give you the benefit of experience. She's only trying to help, it's not like she's getting paid for her advice. Afterall, she didn't have to spend any time on your thread at all.

[lovestruck234]

I know, I know. Trust me, I am thinking clearly about it....hey...it's not like I'm diving in to get an egagement ring just yet, right?

 

Things are going fine the way they are AT THE MOMENT. No, I can't tell the future, I have NO IDEA where I'll be in 10 years time...I am hoping it is with Rhys, and I am putting all I can into this relationship to make sure it lasts that distance.

 

I HAD a crush on one of his friends. Yes, I had dreams about him, but the feelings gone. I don't feel for him anymore like I did.

 

All of these things, Shelly, Dane...they all contribute to making a relationship stronger. I feel so much closer to Rhys after going through some of things I gone through with him. I have been in a car accident with him, been in casualty with him, experienced SO much hurt, happiness, anger, sadness, and love that at the moment, the thoughts of not lasting any further than my 19th birthday aren't really flowing through my mind.

 

What doesn't kill us, only makes us stronger. Yep, his mum is a pain in the a$$, but that's what I got dealt. I could have it alot worse. I could have her not accepting me at all, yet she still tries her hardest to cover up her unacceptance of me...which I applaud her for.

 

Sometimes things suck. That's life. I wouldn't be where I am today if it weren't for all of these bunos in the road. If life was without annoying bf's mothers, hot crushes on best mates, car accidents...we wouldn't be the people we are today. We would all be robots. Things like this keep life on the edge. I sit there all the time and ask "Why?? Why is it happening to me?"

 

And the answer is...lessons. It is teaching me things constantly. I am learning so much from it all, that I am grateful that I experience it.

 

You may all think I know nothing, that I AM naive and stupid, but I don't care. I am happy with the life I have at the moment...if you feel it's not going to turn out...well, maybe you're right, but maybe you're wrong...but just like me...not one of you can tell MY future, no matter how much experience you have behind you.

 

Only I can choose my future. And all I can do is hope I choose the right one.

 

Nobody is perfect. People make mistakes, we do stupid things, but it's all part of life, and it's taken me a pretty long time to accpet it, but I have. If I was perfect, I wouldn't be on this site right now, just the same as I'm sure alot of you wouldn't be.

[Touche]

"Although the poster who would bet every penny they had is being just as naive as you are."

 

That cracked me up! You proceeded to back up everything I said and then said the above...WTF? Ha! Too funny!

 

As for you, love. You can't really say if my statements are "irrational and ridiculous" until you've lived a little more of life than 17 years, now can you? Come on!

 

Thanks, Burning but you're words are falling on deaf ears.

 

The OP will do what she wants. I'm very glad though that you're not getting married as a teen though.

 

Come back here when you're between 19 and 21 and we'll see who's "irrational and ridiculous" then!

[Touche]

"We are past the honeymoon stage in our relationship, I can see clearly now, I can see where I want to be in 10 years time. With him. I know I won't regret it....I knew I won't."

 

And a little while later you say this:

 

"I have NO IDEA where I'll be in 10 years time...I am hoping it is with Rhys, and I am putting all I can into this relationship to make sure it lasts that distance."

 

Does this sound like a person who just KNOWS they met the man (boy?) they want to spend the rest of their life with?

[lovestruck234]

Let's get picky here...

 

I can see where I WANT to be in 10 years...but I have no idea WHERE I WILL BE in 10 years.

 

I know what I want, but I'm not saying it's going to happen.

 

For f*cks sake, this really is getting stupid.

[lovestruck234]

You know what Touche.....I don't even know you. I don't even know what "life experiences" you have had....so there is NO WAY I should have to read these things and go "Oh....ok.....yes, Touche is right, I am stupid, I'm only 17, I know nothing"....

 

Quit with the intimidation thing already. I get enough of it in my own life, let alone on a computer screen.

 

Do you want a medal for being older and wiser than me do you?

[whichwayisup]

WWIU, maybe some people may look back at wish they had had more experience with men, but I'm not that type. I make mistakes, but I don't regret any of them. The day I get married, and even the day I DO have children, I won't regret not having "tried out" other men.

 

I just brought up that fact because of Rhys' bestfriend. That's all.

 

Just enjoy the now and what you two have together. The rest will happen as it will, or it won't. No point in thinking so far ahead in life because in a flash it can be taken away from you - Just look at what happened today with Steve Erwin, the Croc Hunter! He's gone forever, left behind his wife and children.

[whichwayisup]

Oops, me saying "tried out" I meant relationships, not tried out as in having tons of sex, lol.

[johan]

Do you want a medal for being older and wiser than me do you?

 

Do they give medals for that?? Can I have one, too, lovestruck? It doesn't have to be the gold one.

[Pyro]

Do they give medals for that?? Can I have one, too, lovestruck? It doesn't have to be the gold one.

 

Johan, you may have the gold medal for jet recommendations.

[whichwayisup]

A wise piece of advice on marriage came from Alphamale, when he said that if you marry someone, you don't just get them - you get their family, friends, relatives, their whole culture & way of life. So you have to ask not just whether you like him, but whether you would be happy with his parents & friends too. Since one of his parents hates you and one of his friends wants to get into your knickers, I would think - and act - very carefully if I were you.

 

Wow, our wonderful-dear alpha said that?

 

That's excellent advice, and hey, it's completely true. You kind of inherit things, people, quirks etc., that you have to decide "is this person worth it?" or "can I live with ALL his/her family?" That is choosing to be in love with your spouse forever, no matter what.

[lovestruck234]

Do they give medals for that?? Can I have one, too, lovestruck? It doesn't have to be the gold one.

 

 

here you go...*puts medal around your neck*....I only had chocolate ones left....

[Touche]

Do you want a medal for being older and wiser than me do you?

 

Yup, I do. I've certainly earned it! And perhaps the other people in your life who are telling you the same thing deserve to be listened to.

 

(And make my medal gold. I won't settle for anything less!)

[lovestruck234]

Maybe it's time to go to bed, Touche. You sound a little grumpy. Best off if you do...we don't you to take out your grumpiness on other innocent LSer's (like myself) now, do we?

 

Go on. You'll feel much better.

[Touche]

Maybe it's time to go to bed, Touche. You sound a little grumpy. Best off if you do...we don't you to take out your grumpiness on other innocent LSer's (like myself) now, do we?

 

Go on. You'll feel much better.

 

That was very funny! A KID telling ME it's time for bed! You're cute, love. Now isn't it your bedtime, dear?

 

Oh and I'm still waiting for my gold medal!

[whichwayisup]

17 years old isn't really a kid......If she were 7, then I'd be agreeing with ya!

(insert littleguy with tongue stickin' out to imply I'm just jokin' around)

[Touche]

17 years old isn't really a kid......If she were 7, then I'd be agreeing with ya!

(insert littleguy with tongue stickin' out to imply I'm just jokin' around)

 

Sorry Witch..In MY book she IS a kid. My stepson is older than she is! (insert littleguy with tongue sticking out)

 

Hell I have SHOES older than she! (Again insert little guy with tongue!)

[lovestruck234]

That was very funny! A KID telling ME it's time for bed! You're cute, love. Now isn't it your bedtime, dear?

 

Oh and I'm still waiting for my gold medal!

 

Oh, no. It's about 4pm over here. I'm still at work. I'll be here till 6pm.

 

I know, a kid. HA! Funny that seeing as a person is classified as a teen at the age of 13 and I'll be 18 in a couple of weeks so then you'll have an DULT telling you go to bed...ha! How funny!

[lovestruck234]

Oh and the medal...sorry...

 

Hmmm *rumbling around in bag*...oh sorry all I could find was this...what does it say? "Your Not Even Worth a Bag of Sh*t" medal...hmmm..will that do?

[burning 4 revenge]

No Lovestruck, you definitley strike me as a very "mature" and respectful adult