When will Love Come?

[loveinlife]

Yep you girls/guys are right, so used to being with another partner...*SIGH* We do think alike BBL. I think my ex might be in a rebound relationship but not sure. Today she said I still mean a whole lot to her, but we are just friends.

 

It is different and I do feel lost BritneyJean06. I've a lot of changes and my lifestyle changed so much. My wardrobe changed, new hair style, going out clubbing and meeting new people. All doing this to find happiness and things that I've missed to replace my memories of my ex. Sorta works, just took a lot of hanging out and drinking, and $$$$...O_o

 

I just wish everyone who has a broken heart will find someone and this world will be full of happy people...

[Values]

I can't figure this stuff out either. I loved my ex beyond all comprehension for 2.5 years (sad to say I still do sort of) she dumped me earlier this year and I soon discovered she had been a cheater and a liar to every person in her life. Every close person she saw every day for I guess nearly 2 years, was believing a different lie that she had to maintain. It was enough for me to not be able to stop thinking of the "S" word (leveled off a little now). It was enough that the guy she cheated on me with for a year (a 32 year old man) openly broke down upset as could be. The part that I relate to you guys on is the feeling of will I ever love again. I feel like a total loser. I devoted my life to this girl, managed to save $30,000 to put to her ring our house, etc., and she knew all this while she was cheating on me and could right in my eyes and lie. I know she's poison but she is now engaged and here I sit still lamenting over her. I would have forgotten about her but I can't seem to. I've even sought professional help about 4 times now because of her. I just feel like a piece of crap when I know she is the p.o.c.

[BatteredByLove]

Britneyjean06, you're exactly right, it'll hit when you least expect it. Who knows maybe tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, you'll get smacked right in the face and wonder, "WHY IN THE WORLD WAS I SO STUPID?!??!". You seem like a great gal, don't worry, that lucky guy when come into your life one day out of the blues it'll come.

 

loveinlife, yep, changing your warddrobe and doing new things, done that , still doing. It's YOUR time now, you know, a friend of mine was talking with me the other day and he told me that it we were used to the same pattern, same routine we had with our ex, thats' why it's so hard. We would call them at a certain time, go out on a certain day, basically had our lives intertwined with the ex. Keep on hanging out and clubbing, who knows, that new love will come .

 

Values, at least you realize that she's poison, that's a first step. Another thing that you need to realize is that there are MILLIONS of girls out there, don't waste your time mourning over an ex, especially a lying cheater, she's not worth it. Instead of lamenting over your ex, go out, have fun, meet new people, who knows, before you know it, your ex is nothing but a dust in the wind.

 

-BBL

[Brittanyjean06]

battered

 

Thanks man! GAh I have said this many times on this thread but you can never give too much advice on here. It is the only thing you have to miss and to look back on. Think about it its only been a year were still so young. It still hurts me and upsets me that through out 3 years of my life i was done so wrong and never did anything about it. I hope life pays him his debts. I can't wait to have a new love, but its not gonna happen soon because I'm obviously looking for it

 

any way dust inthe wind yes and I like that song, sad:) but I like it

[Rooster_DAR]

Just don't go after the same type of broad again.

[BatteredByLove]

battered

 

Thanks man! GAh I have said this many times on this thread but you can never give too much advice on here. It is the only thing you have to miss and to look back on. Think about it its only been a year were still so young. It still hurts me and upsets me that through out 3 years of my life i was done so wrong and never did anything about it. I hope life pays him his debts. I can't wait to have a new love, but its not gonna happen soon because I'm obviously looking for it

 

any way dust inthe wind yes and I like that song, sad:) but I like it

 

Brittanyjean, well, take that 3 years as a lesson , you're a better person now and know that you shouldn't be taken advantage of. Besides, you say guys grope you at the clubs and bars all the time, , you have got to be attractive at least lol.

 

Me, I'm just saying, f**k it, my ex has a new bf now, and whatever, I think today was their 2 months anniversary, Iunno, but, I've backed off, and just be myself with all my friends and all. That's all you need to do Brittanny, if you're not urself, wouldn't you be attracting the wrong guys? , don't look for love, it'll come, and until it comes, go out, have fun, and this time make sure you bring some mace along if any guys try to grope you, they'll learn .

 

Dust in the wind... god I LOVE that song, but ooooh have you heard of Goodbye My Lover, by James Blunt? Goodbye to You by Michelle Branch is also a classic. Don't know why I started naming songs, but hey, it's part of my mix cd to feel good lol.

 

-BBL

[BatteredByLove]

Rooster_DAR, that's what happens to a LOT of people, they get off one bad relationship and jump back on another one, BUT not on LS, we know what we're doing .

 

-BBL

[loveinlife]

Rooster_DAR, that's what happens to a LOT of people, they get off one bad relationship and jump back on another one, BUT not on LS, we know what we're doing .

 

-BBL

 

 

I like what you said BBL.

 

I think we tend to evaluate a lot and are choosey...possibly leading us to a more fulfilling relationship. Yes we are different, but in a good way.

[BatteredByLove]

Loveinlife, I have noticed that in myself, god I am one picky guy lol. But in a way, it helps lead us into a more fulfilling relationship. Other people fall down, gets back up, and fall down again, we LS we fall down, get back up and hold our ground .

 

-BBL

[Brittanyjean06]

Your right BBL If I am myself than I will attract the right guys who are like me, or maybe guys who just want some bootay haha. I want someone whos down to earth, GOOFY loveable carying and just so much my ex wasn't. I heard the michelle branch version I remember loving her songs back in the day! I think lately I have been lisenting to uplifting songs, STRONG songs. My music taste changes so much but I can easily say I LOVE AND have a passion for all music.

 

muah!

[BatteredByLove]

BirttanyJean, of course all music is good, I even listen to country , its' the lyrics that gets me. If you like strong, uplifting songs, COUNTRY!! Lol, no sarcasm either . Country songs are actually pretty good, they're lyrics are so meaningful. As for the guys that wants to just get some bootay, I know you know better than to fall for those type of guys

 

You've gone through a lot, and I bet that if you looked back to a year ago, you'll realize how much you've changed . Me, it's been 6 months and I've noticed a tremendous change within me, I'm more outgoing and all that, and I do have to admit, the breakup with my ex... it's helped me be a better person overall.

 

-BBL

[Rooster_DAR]

My progress of lettign my Ex go would go much easier if she would stay out of my dreams.

 

Damn neuro connectors!

 

[BatteredByLove]

Well not really, whatever you dream is whatever you're thinking of , hehehehe, you'll get over her Rooster, when one door closes, two other opens .

 

-BBL

[loveinlife]

I really hope two doors open up. I really need that kind of reality...haha! Yeah, last night I dreamed about my ex. I dream so much about her lately, 3-4 times a week. That's like wow, rarely happens to me.

[Rooster_DAR]

Yeah that's weird isn't it? I never dreamed about her until we broke up.

 

Strange!

[BatteredByLove]

Well loveinlife and Rooster, when you meet a another attractive, cute, funy, adorable, charismatic girl, you'll be dreaming of her and not your ex . I'm trying to get over my ex, and so far, I've only had like 2 dreams in the last 3 months... YAY!!!!! I'm getting over her.

 

You know what I really really really think about why most people can't get over a relationship? It's the feeling of having someone there, of having someone to hold, someone to talk to, someone to miss, not exactly the person, but the feeling. I think most ppl here on LS would agree... keyword I THINK, don't be bashing me now . I'm a young-un got a long way for me to go lol.

 

-BBL

[Teacher's Pet]

My progress of lettign my Ex go would go much easier if she would stay out of my dreams.

 

 

I'm in the same boat. Since we broke up, I've had a few dreams about her, and as time goes on, the dreams have been more frequent, and more depressing.

 

I'd say I miss her, but certain people here will kick my ass for admitting I miss someone who basically mentally abused me........

 

And yes, those ass-kickings are much deserved.

 

Keep them coming, FW and DS. I ask for it.

 

-tp

 

SB

[Rooster_DAR]

Well loveinlife and Rooster, when you meet a another attractive, cute, funy, adorable, charismatic girl, you'll be dreaming of her and not your ex . I'm trying to get over my ex, and so far, I've only had like 2 dreams in the last 3 months... YAY!!!!! I'm getting over her.

 

You know what I really really really think about why most people can't get over a relationship? It's the feeling of having someone there, of having someone to hold, someone to talk to, someone to miss, not exactly the person, but the feeling. I think most ppl here on LS would agree... keyword I THINK, don't be bashing me now . I'm a young-un got a long way for me to go lol.

 

-BBL

 

Well if that was the case, LS should have singles meetings and hook us people who know what they want up.

 

[loveinlife]

I guess im back on this thread again cause its another day being single. I know I shouldn't rush into things. But I miss being with someone so intimately, chatting with someone on the phone and being physically next to each other. Perhaps I am missing that bond in a relationship.

 

Good luck to all.

[Teacher's Pet]

I'm right with ya, bro.

 

I have to admit, my self-esteem, right now, is at the highest it's been in a while.

 

I've been working out really hard this week, even had a great week at work (I took a personal day today, and even then, I blew away my weekly sales quota). I've bonded with two wonderful women (First time through, I typed "boned" hahaha..hasn't been *THAT* great a week lol), and I'm just feeling good about myself for the first time in a while.

 

But, yes, there's still that one little thing.

 

I'm still single, and technically, alone.

 

Yes, I have my DS, my FW, and all the other wonderful friends I've made during my "journey" the last 3 months, but lying in bed last night as the sole human in my place (I have 3 gorgeous cats), reminded me that there is still that one missing piece in my life.

 

Being single for just over 3 months is not a tragedy, but it's still been hard adjusting to, after sharing a bed 5-6 nights a week with someone. Yes, B was not the "ideal" girlfriend, but at least in bed, we made a great couple. We always laughed, watched cartoons, game shows (we're both game show addicts), and made incredible, and dare I say, "mind-blowing" love. Problem is, you can't base a relationship on sex and "Deal Or No Deal" (apparently I picked the wrong "case" when I started dating her lol)

 

But, it's that comfort that I miss. The feeling of a warm, soft, feminine form next to me as I slept. I miss cuddling, even though I did most of the "work". I miss those 4am "scrambles" to find a condom in the pitch-black room. I miss the baby talk. I miss the dirty talk. I miss the dirty, baby talk.

 

I just don't miss the emotional pain she put me through, and remembering that makes "missing her" so much easier.

 

Sometimes, remembering the pain of a bad relationship can actually be a boost to one's ego. I KNOW what a bad relationship feels like. I KNOW what to avoid, and what I really want.

 

I've also learned not to settle. Not too long ago, I almost "settled" for chasing an alcoholic, who, in the back of my mind, I KNOW would probably wind up hurting me.

 

My support system reminded me I'm worth more than that.

 

I have a lot of love to give, and I've decided I'm not going to just give it to someone for the sake of having someone. I'm going to give it someone who actually WANTS to be loved, and wants to love me back, and wants the same things I do out of life.

 

Nothing else will do.

 

So, when WILL love come?

 

I don't know. But I know one day, it will, and I'll be prepared. Emotionally AND physically. The physical part is easy. Why, I'm quite good at *that* I just suck at managing my emotions, but I'm getting better.

 

And you'll be ready too, bro. Just work from within, and let it all fall into place.

 

Hang in there, bro...next round's on me.

 

-tp

i'm too sexy for my ex.

[LaughMachine]

I get one once in a blue moon. It's been a year but those darn dreams still pop up. Such as last night. I don't let them get to me though because I am used to them.