Brian312006 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Hello, this is my first post on this board. I'm 31-She is 34. We have been seeing each other for about 5-6 months. She has a child from a previous relationship(1 1/2). It has been over a year for both of us since we have been in a serious relationship. What is this type of personality called? She's closed off to a point when it comes to thinking of my feelings. I know that she really cares about me and she tells me she loves me from time to time. Since we told each other that we loved...er each other(I said it first), she doesn't say it much at all unless I say it first. I don't make a big deal about this or get upset, I just figure that I may have rushed us into that part of the relationship. I asked her if I had and she paused for a moment and told me that I hadn't and that she felt the same way. I believe her. I got the feeling that I had waited to long to say it actualy, just from the way things had been going. There are many other instances where I feel she is lacking in the ability to express herself, or consider my feelings in situations. Not because she doesn't care, but because she just has a hard time thinking that way or opening up sometimes. I'm very open and expressive about most things. But it seems, and we've kind of joked in the past, that I'm the woman and she's the guy as far as expressing ourselves, in the relationship. We have talked about it alot and she told me that she knows she is that way and wants to be more open and I've told her that I'm not going to be the woman in a relationship. I guess my questions are, is any other guys here going through something similar? And what is this type of personality called so I can read up on it to understand what she's going through better? But any comments or suggestions are welcome.
DanielMadr Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Hello, this is my first post on this board. I'm 31-She is 34. We have been seeing each other for about 5-6 months. She has a child from a previous relationship(1 1/2). It has been over a year for both of us since we have been in a serious relationship. What is this type of personality called? She's closed off to a point when it comes to thinking of my feelings. I know that she really cares about me and she tells me she loves me from time to time. Since we told each other that we loved...er each other(I said it first), she doesn't say it much at all unless I say it first. I don't make a big deal about this or get upset, I just figure that I may have rushed us into that part of the relationship. I asked her if I had and she paused for a moment and told me that I hadn't and that she felt the same way. I believe her. I got the feeling that I had waited to long to say it actualy, just from the way things had been going. There are many other instances where I feel she is lacking in the ability to express herself, or consider my feelings in situations. Not because she doesn't care, but because she just has a hard time thinking that way or opening up sometimes. I'm very open and expressive about most things. But it seems, and we've kind of joked in the past, that I'm the woman and she's the guy as far as expressing ourselves, in the relationship. We have talked about it alot and she told me that she knows she is that way and wants to be more open and I've told her that I'm not going to be the woman in a relationship. I guess my questions are, is any other guys here going through something similar? And what is this type of personality called so I can read up on it to understand what she's going through better? But any comments or suggestions are welcome. Yep. You are probably a wussy - emotional junkie and she is cold hearted b1tch. Seriously....reality check...it does not matter what she says or how often she express her feelings to you. If you feel she is not OK then she is not OK...maybe beacause she doesnt love or she has some emotional problems.....RUN Forrest RUN
Walk Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 There are many other instances where I feel she is lacking in the ability to express herself, or consider my feelings in situations. Not because she doesn't care, but because she just has a hard time thinking that way or opening up sometimes. I'm not sure if I'm reading your post right, but it sounds as if you're saying she does a lot of things without giving thought to how you might feel, or want, or need. Is that what you meant? You phrased it as though she has a medical condition that prevents her from taking your feelings into consideration. 99% of the time.. it's because they don't love you enough to care if they take your feelings into consideration. Not because they have condition which prevents them from doing so. Can you expand on your first post? Describe a couple circumstances, or give a general idea of what you're talking about? Without more clarification... I think you need to re-evaluate what you are getting from this relationship. You can suggest she take you into consideration. You can offer ideas for her to try. You can attempt to explain how things affected you so that she can alter her behavior in the future. But if none of these work... then don't waste your life on someone who will always place you beneath themselves. Find someone who cares for you just as much as you will care for them. But I'm finding it hard to believe that this woman actually loves you like you love her.
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