Baybee9404 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Hi Everyone My Boyfriend of 3 years latley has been asking me alot about have a child together. I told him that i would love to have a child together but i want to be married first that i do not want to have a child out of wedlock and i wont. My bf already has a 4 year old daughter with some else (who he was engaged to) the daughter lives with us, he has full custody of her. I dont want my child growing up in a broken home and you think that he wouldnt want that for his second child either. So anways he askes me everyday to get off birth control and i give him the same answer. His response was i dont have to money to buy u an engagement ring when i get it i will. He sold his car for 7 grand last month and i know he has the money for it so what is his excuse now, it's oh you dont tell me when to buy the ring ill decide when too. i never asked about the ring mind you he asked me about the baby again and i told him again not out of wedlock and thats what he had to say. So from what you have read do you think he dont want to marry and just wants to have a child with me to try and keep me? Does he not love me enough to more marry me? What is it? Please help me im just so confused. Thank you
norajane Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 If he says he doesn't have money for a ring and that's the only thing stopping him from asking you to marry him, you could certainly tell him you don't care about the ring. However, if he doesn't have money for that, he certainly doesn't have the money for another child, either. Don't let him pressure you into having a child without being married if marriage is important to you. If a child is more important than a lifetime commitment to you - the child's mother - he has no reason to marry you after you have a baby.
RussellTupper Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 You're NOT confused. You KNOW that you don't want a child out of marriage. Whether he wants to marry you isn't an issue unless you want a child. You choose to raise his child from another mother, remain in the home and unless these are problematic, don't get pregnant.
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