lonelybird Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Ok, break down today. wanted to cry. finally feel I had enough about the long distance relationship, had enough phone-call relationship, one night I dreamed kiss, very sweet! when thinking about my cousin's perfect bf (they are being with each other for 6 years, and still totally love each other very much, and they communicate everything), more tears down. not that I am not happy for her, but feel pity for myself (ya, not good). I wonder why I can't have that kind of love, friendship+love=the love i crave why so many people not happy? people say "relationship need hard work", just feel too much trouble. If a man walk away from me or the interests fade, probably I won't beg, or think some tacts to save it, most of time just follow the flow. recently read the novel "Bridget Jones's dairy", made me laugh. almost all the self-help book she mentioned I already read it, and when they quote these books, I know exactly where it come from! how funny is that. most funny part is there is a book called "the women who love too much". when I read it, the first several pages the author said "if you are reading this book, you are the woman who love too much"! ha ha..maybe then i think maybe I am too bored today. need some dramatic change. like 1. change job, a job can let me meet more people, well men:laugh: 2. learn one more foreign language, too much trouble maybe;) 3. try to make the job begin to EARN money, then I can travel more 4. learn latin dance or do you have any good idea? my bf (ex bf) always say "want me to be happy everyday", while F**k positive, I cannot be positive everyday:mad: Thanks let me vent here. and Stay positive:laugh:
rina_r Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 We all have down days, nothing wrong with it. I am not at my best today either: gloomy rainy day (which is unusual for the place i live at), same job, lots of stuff to do, school in the eve. But I look forward for tomorrow because I know it will be different.
Author lonelybird Posted September 1, 2006 Author Posted September 1, 2006 Hi rina_r, yes, tomorrow is another day:) Now I have a question. Do happy couples communicate negative things in their life? or they keep negative things to themselves, only share positive things with their SO? If in a relationship you can be yourself, that also means you show your negative traits to your SO? I am not a communicative person myself, just curious. If you have happy relationship, or had, mind to comment? Guys?
superconductor Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 A good relationship will include sharing both good and bad stuff. But... (there's always a "but," isn't there?)... But if all one party does is whine and complain and bitch and chew and moan about how miserable their life is, that gets old really fast.
Author lonelybird Posted September 1, 2006 Author Posted September 1, 2006 superconductor I see what you mean. I notice your The formula is: the more you show weakness the less they respect you. This was I thought about before. I had hard time to open to people, and don't know what degree I should show them. I knew a man who was always whine bad stuff happened to him, but he won't care to make a little bit change, just sit there all day. But as I know he is really a nice guy, treat women rightly, soft heart, and a great talker. could be good friend, but don't want to date him. on the other hand, if man or woman completely don't show any weakness, could be considered lack of depth? or fake? I've heard of a study says "couples who communicate positive things weight over the negative things are more likely successful than the couples who do the contrary", maybe it is true
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