whichwayisup Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 "Greg" has a big ego. LOL! Is it just me, and the Greg's I've known in my past and afew I know now in my life, but it seems men named Greg are a-holes and selfish. Weirddd..
wookinpanub Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 My brother is named Greg and 95% of the time he is right... he is one of those nasty smart people that I could never understand.
Sand&Water Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 Yes. He was not into you. You made yourself loosely available as a woman. This creates little hype, and challenge for the man. Greg is right about this one. But not always right.
phyrespryte Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 That's why Physerpherite (whatever) thinks this guy is just not that into her and that Greg is right. Because yawning guy (a) yawned - which according to Greg a guy wouldn't do if he really liked hr because he would be trying to be as polite as possible and as engaging as possible (b) the pull away with the knee - Greg says that if I guy likes a girl, he wants to touch her. I thought it was because of my orange sweater.
mental_traveller Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 A question for the guys I suppose, although any input is welcome. Is it extremely offputting for a woman to both come very very close to sleeping with you on the third date, and to talk of one or two recent bad experiences, although not in extreme detail, and not getting emotional about them? And if you havent phoned her a week later, does that mean that you really are not into her? It is a little because it means you are acting more like a friend than a lover. Guys like women to have a bit of an air of mystery, to appear exotic & intoxicating. Nothing kills that mood faster than talking about mundane things, and *especially* problems. You can do that once you are further into the relationship stage, but even then do it at the right time and introduce it gradually in a way that makes it seem like he can help. Just imagine, how would a sex bomb/femme fatale act in a movie - would she start whining about her recent problems when the male lead comes to see her for a night of hot passion? Of course not, and with good reason - it would kill the mood.
Noos Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 Orange sweater or not (um, no one I know can wear orange anything successfully), this guy sounds like he has no manners. I'd forget him and move on.
SoCalCatman72 Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I am a believer of men playing hard to get, just as much as women do. So if a man were pursuing you, then you would play hard to get? I think the key word here is "play". I personally don't like these 'games' people play with other people's hearts and feelings. If a woman tells me or otherwise indicates she's not interested, then I'm not going to drive myself up the wall trying to figure out if she's playing hard to get. There's too many other women out there that would love to be the recipient of the time, attention and energy that would have otherwise been spent chasing a game player. Greg Behrendt - author of book "He's Just Not That Into You" that sold a squillion copies. Examples - If a guy doesn't call you when he says he will, he's just not that into you. ....... Basically, Greg's book was all about the things that guys do that have girls sitting by the phone and stressing about whethr he likes her enough or not. He reckons that most of them are not that difficult to decode - if a guy really likes you, he makes an effort to let you know, if he doesn't, he won't make any effort. IMO, I think this book illustrates a segment of the male population, however there are a lot of guys that are shy, inexperienced or whatnot that don't know the "rules" of the "game" and will not respond in the "predetermined" way. There's no users manual for raising a kid, despite what Dr. Spock may think and there's no one book that can truly provide a roadmap through love. So the trouble is, that I got physical, went far, but did not have full sex. When I bought up recent troubles, it was completely seperate to this and I did not discuss past jerks, well I may have mentioned one! I don't see the "trouble" though. It's your right to set limits on the level of physical interaction and, well maybe it's just me, but IMO good communication is a must in a healthy relationship. Now if you are sitting there going on and on, dwelling about your failures in past relationships, that might put me off a bit, but if it were a casual conversation about what you didn't like, I'd be taking mental notes so as to avoid making the same mistakes.
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