blow-fish Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 A question for the guys I suppose, although any input is welcome. Is it extremely offputting for a woman to both come very very close to sleeping with you on the third date, and to talk of one or two recent bad experiences, although not in extreme detail, and not getting emotional about them? And if you havent phoned her a week later, does that mean that you really are not into her?
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Huh??? , I'm confused, are you saying that on the third date, you came close to sleeping with them, but didn't, because one of you were sharing bad experiences???? A person always has the right to change their mind and say "NO" no matter how frustrating that may be to the other party. IMO if they break contact because they didn't get what they "expected" on the 3rd date, then you might want to take a close look at their motives. And if you havent phoned her a week later, does that mean that you really are not into her? Generally speaking......Yes.
Cecelius Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 and to talk of one or two recent bad experiences, although not in extreme detail, and not getting emotional about them? This may be where the issue is -- I consider it a major girl shyt test when she gets close to me, then reverses gears and starts talking like I'm a girlfriend of her's about some jerks in the recent past. On the other hand, if it was just a "wait, not yet -- it's too soon" kind of comment, I'd let it pass.
Adunaphel Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 This may be where the issue is -- I consider it a major girl shyt test when she gets close to me, then reverses gears and starts talking like I'm a girlfriend of her's about some jerks in the recent past. On the other hand, if it was just a "wait, not yet -- it's too soon" kind of comment, I'd let it pass. Some of my male friends would see it in the same way. Did you tell him about your past bad experiences after, or when, you came very close to sleeping with him, or was it in a different context?
bluechocolate Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 A question for the guys I suppose, although any input is welcome. My input right now is that I think this is one of the best thread titles I've seen in a while. Didn't you know? Greg is always right.
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Hmm, did a wikipedia search on Greg. Greg (also Gregg) is a shortened form of the male given name Gregory or Gregor. Greg can also be a surname. Of Celtic origin, meaning Fierce. In Scotland it is a common forename (not just a shortened form of Gregory), occasionally spelled Greig.
superconductor Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Perhaps, but who is Greg? Yeah, who the hell is Greg? *phew* I'm glad you guys asked first, because I haven't a clue who this Greg fellow is either.
whichwayisup Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 *phew* I'm glad you guys asked first, because I haven't a clue who this Greg fellow is either. I was too scared to ask because the title of this thread makes no sense as it what's inside it...Unless the person she's talking about is Greg. Like we all know what he is thinking?? I don't know...I'm so confused.
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Maybe Greg is like Harvey The Pooka, a giant invisible white wabbit.
superconductor Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Hmm, did a wikipedia search on Greg. Greg (also Gregg) is a shortened form of the male given name Gregory or Gregor. Greg can also be a surname. Of Celtic origin, meaning Fierce. In Scotland it is a common forename (not just a shortened form of Gregory), occasionally spelled Greig. could be an anagram for ergg... the same sound you make when you either stub your toe on a doorframe when trying to get the phone at 2 in the morning and it's a wrong number, or when you're in the midst of a wonderfully explosive sexual experience but can't remember your partner's name... "oh gawd... uh... ergg... so good..." etc etc.
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 could be an anagram for ergg... the same sound you make when you either stub your toe on a doorframe when trying to get the phone at 2 in the morning and it's a wrong number, or when you're in the midst of a wonderfully explosive sexual experience but can't remember your partner's name... "oh gawd... uh... ergg... so good..." etc etc. :laugh: I'm supposed to be working, but I can't when I'm laughing so hard. I guess I should be glad I wasn't drinking coffee. :lmao:
blow fish Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 lmao lol Well at least you people made me laugh and forget all my troubles. I guess he is just not that into me, huh?
bluechocolate Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 It doesn't matter who Greg is. Greg is & always will be. And he is always right.
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 lmao lol Well at least you people made me laugh and forget all my troubles. I guess he is just not that into me, huh? It sounds like it, I feel your pain, but at least you found out before things got too .....errr....sticky. Hey, make an account and hang out. We all have lots of fun here.
blind_otter Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 It doesn't matter who Greg is. Greg is & always will be. And he is always right. This is starting to sound like a cult. "I'm gonna sit at the welcome TABLE! Gonna sit at the welcome table one of these DAYS!" - jerri blank
bluechocolate Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 *phew* I'm glad you guys asked first, because I haven't a clue who this Greg fellow is either. *ahem* though I guess I didn't technically ask as such
serial muse Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 lmao lol Well at least you people made me laugh and forget all my troubles. I guess he is just not that into me, huh? greg hasn't been proven wrong yet. that's why he makes the big bucks. ...come on, y'all, anyone would think the topic of greg doesn't pop up once every couple of weeks down in the general relationship discussion section.
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 I just did a post search for "Greg", and came up with 125 results. This Greg must be a pretty popular dude.
james007 Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Huh??? , I'm confused, are you saying that on the third date, you came close to sleeping with them, but didn't, because one of you were sharing bad experiences???? A person always has the right to change their mind and say "NO" no matter how frustrating that may be to the other party. IMO if they break contact because they didn't get what they "expected" on the 3rd date, then you might want to take a close look at their motives. Generally speaking......Yes. I beg to differ sherlock. I went 9 days without initiating calls to my girlfriend but I'm still very much into her. I'm just playing hard to get.
SoCalCatman72 Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 I beg to differ sherlock. I went 9 days without initiating calls to my girlfriend but I'm still very much into her. I'm just playing hard to get. I suggest you re-read my post as the overall context as well as the term "generally" was apparently lost on you. But you're special, not one to fall into the "generally" category, eh?
Guest Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 I beg to differ sherlock. I went 9 days without initiating calls to my girlfriend but I'm still very much into her. I'm just playing hard to get. Playing hard to get means your point on her scoreboard is dropping. How would you feel if she is the one playing hard to get? Would you like her more or hate her?
blow-fish Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 I beg to differ sherlock. I went 9 days without initiating calls to my girlfriend but I'm still very much into her. I'm just playing hard to get. Oh this is refreshing, someone who doesn't follow the laws of Greg. So the trouble is, that I got physical, went far, but did not have full sex. When I bought up recent troubles, it was completely seperate to this and I did not discuss past jerks, well I may have mentioned one! I have phoned him now, just once, and he was very friendly, that is all. So reading what I have just written, I am thinking it doesn't look too hopeful, but I am a believer of men playing hard to get, just as much as women do.
Noos Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Greg Behrendt - author of book "He's Just Not That Into You" that sold a squillion copies. Examples - If a guy doesn't call you when he says he will, he's just not that into you. Greg says that he somtimes calls people from his mobile phone accidentally when it's in his pants pocket so if I guy forms a belief that he likes you, he can definitely get it together to call if he really wants. If a girl has to pursue the guy to form a relationship - he's just not that into her. Greg says if the guy was into her, he'd be keen to do all the chasing because he wouldn't want to let the girl get away etc... If a guy doesn't ask for your number the first time he meets you, he's just not that into you...etc. Basically, Greg's book was all about the things that guys do that have girls sitting by the phone and stressing about whethr he likes her enough or not. He reckons that most of them are not that difficult to decode - if a guy really likes you, he makes an effort to let you know, if he doesn't, he won't make any effort. That's why Physerpherite (whatever) thinks this guy is just not that into her and that Greg is right. Because yawning guy (a) yawned - which according to Greg a guy wouldn't do if he really liked hr because he would be trying to be as polite as possible and as engaging as possible (b) the pull away with the knee - Greg says that if I guy likes a girl, he wants to touch her.
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