Problemsolver. Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 I know this topic is politically incorrect, but I cant find a better word to replace ''manipulate''. I am not a playgirl cheating men's heart. Rather I have a limited social ciricle, so everytime I meet a potential guy, I would like to ensure he won't walk away/poof/hide just because he is (immaturely) indecisive. I want to let him know that I can be ''THE ONE'', that we should continue to see each other and see how things go. Since we are all here on the forum to find ways to increase our chances, we can come together and exchange some ideas here at this forum. Please share your experiences and wisdoms here.
Sand&Water Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Manipulating men into thinking you are "The One" is why our social daters are messed up. Broken Hearts count: 3 255 648. Don't push it. I suggest you refrain from contacting men, until you change your behaviour. Period.
norajane Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Rather I have a limited social ciricle, so everytime I meet a potential guy, I would like to ensure he won't walk away/poof/hide just because he is (immaturely) indecisive. I want to let him know that I can be ''THE ONE'', The only way you're going to get a guy to think you are the one for him is to be yourself and let the relationship unfold naturally - if he's attracted to who you are, he's going to notice that all on his own. If he truly is immature or indecisive, then he's hardly the right guy for you, right?
Road Rage Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Put your foot on the throttle and manipulate away Problemsolver. Men do it all the time sugarfoot.
blow-fish Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 I know this topic is politically incorrect, but I cant find a better word to replace ''manipulate''. I am not a playgirl cheating men's heart. Rather I have a limited social ciricle, so everytime I meet a potential guy, I would like to ensure he won't walk away/poof/hide just because he is (immaturely) indecisive. I want to let him know that I can be ''THE ONE'', that we should continue to see each other and see how things go. Since we are all here on the forum to find ways to increase our chances, we can come together and exchange some ideas here at this forum. Please share your experiences and wisdoms here. If you want some tips on how to manipulate a man, read books like "why men love bitches", or look up tips on the internet. They have some interesting tips, and a few eye openers to where you may have gone wrong in the past. BUT when you are trying to check yourself constantly it makes it difficult to just relax and go with the flow, and if you make a so called "error", then you end up kicking yourself over it and bringing negativity into the relationship. The only tip I know is to give someone the space to fall in love with you.
stoopid_guy Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 It sound's like you're looking for some magic formula. There's just no such thing. We men aren't quite as complicated as you ladies, but there's still enough difference between us that you may as well think of each one as a new adventure.
Outcast Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Be the best you you can be. If he doesn't fall for who you are, then forget him because you'll never be happy because you'll have to keep up the pretense forever.
Walk Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 I would like to ensure he won't walk away/poof/hide just because he is (immaturely) indecisive. I want to let him know that I can be ''THE ONE'', that we should continue to see each other and see how things go. The one thing I learned... is that you have to let go in order to gain anything. The tighter you hold on, the more you push them away. Don't put on an act or anything.. just don't get in the mindset of "Oh my gosh, I have to keep his attention!!" I found it's better to take it on a moment by moment basis during the early stages of meeting, and getting to know a person. Just enjoy it, realize it could end at any second.. and appreciate the times that are good right at that moment. The more you make it into a "I have to have him." The further away you'll push someone. Plus, if he realizes you aren't out to "keep him forever".. he's more likely to feel comfortable coming to you.
rina_r Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Manipulating men into thinking you are "The One" is why our social daters are messed up. Broken Hearts count: 3 255 648. Don't push it. I suggest you refrain from contacting men, until you change your behaviour. Period. Exactly! You cant force anyone to love/marry you if they dont want to. I cant stand when people play games and then go and teach others how to do it.
Cecelius Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Is there a single dude on the planet who believes in "The One"?
Gunny376 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 the "one" that I'm with at the moment! LOL! But seriously, I would recommend a book called "Light His Fire" I think you will find it quite insightful. You can Goggle "Light His Fire" and it will lead you to Dr. Ellen Kreidman's site. I've never actually read "Light His Fire" but I have read "Light Her Fire" just the $6 paperback edition ~ and got terrific results with it, so much so that I ordered the $100 audio edition. Haven't gotten around to it, but I'm loooking forward to it (working on other things right now) But, its not so much "manipulaton" as it is seduction ~ and seduction is a dance. With one leading, and making the right moves, at the right time in sychroniization with one another ~ with a rhythm between each other. As such like actual dancing ~ its one part naturally inheirted and one part learned. The more you develop and enhance your "skill-set" the more successful you become. At first you will meet with failure and frustration, and then you achieve a little success, and then more, and then more. Women are actually at a disadvantage when it comes to all of this ~ in that many of them think that they were born with everything that they need to be sucessful in the dating ~ mating game. But, it actually takes more than that, to keep our intersts. Once a guys been with one or two absolute "Babes" we find that they're not all they're cracked up to be, and are more trouble than they're worth. My last LTR GF was great in bed, and the sex was terrific, and that's why I dumped her, because that's all there was to the realtionship ~ that's all that I was getting out of it ~ sex. Wasn't enough for me. And, having obligatory or "duty sex" I would imagine would be about the same as having sex with a prostitute. About the best way that I've ever heard it put was that women are seeking to be loved and in loved and men are seeking to be appreciated for who and what they are and do. You appreciate what a man is for you, and can and does for you ~ and do so sincerly, you can lead him around like a tamed lion on a lease!
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