BruiserKC Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I don't know if this would go here or in Separation/Divorce...I'll try here. One of my closest female friends is getting divorced from her husband of nine years. She and I are like brother and sister...she has known if she needs help my wife and I would do what we can to help her. She will be signing the paperwork shortly, etc. Not too long ago we were at lunch and she mentioned in passing that an acquaintance had mentioned one of her husband's friends liked her and wanted to be set up on a date. I didn't say anything else on the matter but from what I've heard I don't think she took up the offer. But now my mind is starting to work and I am wanting to ask her what she intends to do as far as dating once the divorce is finalized..if she's going to start right away or take some time for herself before re-debuting on the dating scene. Obviously I'm a happily married man...I'm not dating her. I know some guys that she would go for but don't know the guys well enough really to approach them and see if they'd want to go out with her. Plus...I don't play matchmaker...not my bag. The only reason I could conceivably be asking her about it is how she would be prepared down the road if she met a guy and started dating him on how comfortable he would be in dating a woman with a fairly close guy friend. I am just wondering, as one friend to another. Now...that's not really stopping me from asking her obviously...what's stopping me is whether or not such a question is really appropriate to ask on my own. Dating can be a sensitive issue...much like marriage/pregnancy/children, etc. I don't know if it is my place to say anything or whether I should wait until she volunteers the subject before I ask. So I ask the fine community of Loveshack...what say you? What should I do.
dgiirl Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 I'm not really sure what you would ask her, or what you want to know from asking her, but I would let her bring the topic up. Depending on what stage she's at, dating might be the last thing on her mind and might actually make her sick to her stomach to think about (it did me for a while).
Author BruiserKC Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 I'm not really sure what you would ask her, or what you want to know from asking her, but I would let her bring the topic up. Depending on what stage she's at, dating might be the last thing on her mind and might actually make her sick to her stomach to think about (it did me for a while). I know what I would want to ask...just basically what her approach would be as far as returning to the dating scene and when. Also...how she would handle dating a guy and telling him about her having a close male friend. Just basically a one friend to another question...I know what I want to ask but just not sure if it's the thing for me to offer to ask or wait for it to be brought up. I can see your point...the last thing some people want to think about is dating after a long relationship (or marriage in this case). Then again...my brother divorced his wife after 5 years and no sooner than he was free he started dating.
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