Guest Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Ok, I'll try to make this short and simple. I got a new job recently and I work together with a woman, 8 years older than me (I'm 21). We've only worked together for 4 days now and she is being very, very nice to me. She goes out for coffee and comes back with a chocolate bar for me. Also I've noticed she is getting "touchy". For example she would make a point or say something and touch my knee, hand or shoulder. I know a lot of people are just like that but.. isn't 4 days too soon for touching someone you dont know? We have a lot in common and she has already shared some very, and I mean, VERY personal stuff about her life. What do you women out there think? By the way she knows I have a current girlfriend. Please dont give me any moral lessons, I just want comments/help with this. Should I start using kino (touching back)? Maybe I stand a chance? Thanks
monkey00 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Kino back only if you're interested. Older women in the workplace can be tricky really. But i've been in a few similar situations, being cluttered in a small office. So i can tell you a thing or two... If she's telling you a lot of things about her personal life, it does appear that she's using you as a vent because you are ears to her words. you are her co-worker girfriend. She kinos you because you are young and attractive...you know the whole older woman aggressive to young unexperienced guy thing. She knows you are taken so she believes kino can be a good way of teasing you. for 4 days that is very quick to open up to a co-worker, if she is the gossip type i owuld advise steering clear of her. No matter how safe you think you are talking/interacting with someone in the office, the office space are always ears and eyes...word spreads fast. conclusion: she's an office tease, nothing more. you are the new guy, the hot new commodity that just shipped in...and she's taking it for a test drive.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Women love younger men even more than men love younger women.
Guest.Girl Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 You are only 21, you shouldn't make your decision to settle with any women this soon. I know your hormone is running wide now, but remember that wome at ....29 (is my maths correct?) are like that... touchy, flirty with young guys. She doesn't not really like you, she's using you to check out how attractive she is. Just like how older man/married man flirt with young girls. I am not sure where you want to take it, but be warned.
Sand&Water Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Guest, From what you have described of the 29 year old woman, this is what I think. (1)Major boost to her ego, by flirting with a 21 year old. (2) She, will eventually, use you for a quick huff and rush (i.e. quick intimate encounter, then dump/walk all over you). You are a beautiful tool to her. Save yourself!
m4dm4x Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Thanks for the replies everyone... just to let you know there are few things I didn't clear out. First, she has started working just a week before me at this place, perhaps this makes things a bit different? If I did get the chance to sleep with her even once (this is what I want...) I dont think she would be in a possition to walk over me because the stuff I know about her can be pretty catastrophic to her career/image. You see where I am going? Why would she tell me so much stuff about her if she just wanted an ego boost? I do want to make a move, just not sure how to do it...
melodymatters Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Um...older woman have feeling too ! Do you JUST want to sleep with her, or maybe more ? And what about your current Gf, are you in love with her ? Would you leave her for this older woman ? There are a lot of variables here, but I think the age aspect is the least of it. I had a what I expected to be a fling with a man 8 yrs younger and it turned into a 2 yr relationship. Ya just never know where these things are gonna go !
littlepiggy1 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Even taking your current GF out of the picture, I still wouldn't recommend it. She's someone you work with, so that any sort of intimate encounters with her could later translate into issues at work.
Adunaphel Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 If I did get the chance to sleep with her even once (this is what I want...) In such a case make sure that she knows that all you are interested in is sleeping with her. I dont think she would be in a possition to walk over me because the stuff I know about her can be pretty catastrophic to her career/image. This is pretty low thinking, IMO. She has been nice to you. Why on earth would she want to walk over you? Do not play lightly with the idea of ruining someone's career by spilling out personal stuff that she was foolish enough to tell you about. You see where I am going? Why would she tell me so much stuff about her if she just wanted an ego boost? I always thought that younger guys should be getting an ego boost if a woman in her thirties pays them any attention. What if she were just being friendly? What if she is just a talker? I do want to make a move, just not sure how to do it... Don't.
superconductor Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 There are two sets of questions being looked at here: Does the OP have a chance at tapping her a$$; and,Is it a good idea? Answer to #1 is yes. Kino is a great way to get things started, and from what's written here it looks as if you're well on your way. Answer to #2, though, isn't so positive. Inter-office romance - or even just inter-office monkey bonking - can cause all sorts of headaches. Don't ask me how I know this, OK? So, go ahead and good luck. But be forewarned of some negative fallout as a result.
m4dm4x Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 My current relationship isn't going anywhere so I think it's worth trying. There is something very attractive about this woman so I guess I'll go for it... wish me luck
insomnie Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 My current relationship isn't going anywhere so I think it's worth trying. There is something very attractive about this woman so I guess I'll go for it... wish me luck If your relationship isn't going anywhere, why don't you break up with your gf first instead of cheating on her? I know you didn't come here to be preached at, but this kind of selfishness is really unfair when you are in an exclusive relationship (you not only signing her up for unnecessary heartache, but also putting her health at risk by exposing her to possible std's.) If it's not working, end it before starting up something new. That's basic courtesy IMO and very simple to do.
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