heathr3033 Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 My bf of 1 year and I got in an argument that got blown way out of proportion about a month ago. We were promised and seriously talking about marriage. He broke up with me, and told me he didn't know what he wanted, and he needed some time to think about things. We got back together about a week after we broke up, and I found out that 4 days after he broke up with me he slept with a 30 year old woman that he met at a bar (he is 23), and he denied it and said I have a trust problem, but I found the phone number and called her and she said they did, and his dog was chewing on a rubber (we didn't use them). It hurts so bad. What do I do? Is that the same as cheating? Am I being ridiculous for worrying about this?
EnigmaXOXO Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Okay … I had a hard time getting past the part where the dog was chewing on his rubber. Was wondering if he was still wearing it at the time. (???) I don't know what your particular definition of "cheating" is … but it seems the threesome with the barfly and the pooch went down after you were technically split up. However, the quick rebound may indicate a propensity on his part to participate in a drunken hook up with whatever and whoever is available on the fly to assuage his wounded ego whenever he's having a bad day. That may not bode well in the future should the two of you have another lover's tiff. Am I being ridiculous for worrying about this? I think you have a legitimate reason to feel concerned regarding the quality of the men you are attracted to. But if you truly love him, then I suppose it might be worth a second try provided you have him tested for STDs and Rabies, first. But whatever you do, don't go marrying the schmuck or having his babies! Keep yourself open to the possibility that someone better will come along. In this case, the odds are in your favor that at least 60% of the available guys out there will make a better boyfriend than this one!
littlepiggy1 Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I wouldn't consider it technically cheating, since you had broken up. But at the same time, it sounds like he was testing the waters, didn't like what he found, then decided to come back to you. The fact that he lied about it is even worse. I would think long and hard about continuing your relationship with him.
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