Guest Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Well my story goes like this, i met ms wonderful online 4 years ago, weve been together pyshically for 2 years. 2 weeks ago she told me she wanted to break up with me and take a break, ive been devistated since because i didnt see it coming, i had already asked her to marry me, we've been having sex, and then it just kind of ended. I packed up my luggage full of dirty clothes and flew back home to my parents while she took the apartment, she getting scholarship money but it really isnt enough to hold her down and she refuses to believe that. More or less we argued some, we got into some fights, but now that shes in wyoming and im in florida, she is telling me she wants to try again, great im thinking i can go back, then she says, but we have to start all over and you cant live with me. Wow im thinking, i dont have enough money or a vehicle so what am i supposed to do. I just miss her so much, i was madly in love, i made the mistake of putting other things first and now ive lost her. Since ive been gone shes already told me about her going out to parties and sleeping in a bed with other guys (not doing anything) but they were playing with her underwear and she enjoyed it till she slapped them and told them to stop. She also said she made out with a guy at this party. I just dont know what to do! Im just crazy in love with his woman and all i want to do is go back to her but she is telling me no. We have to start over and live in seperate houses, i dont have the money and i cant stand it here, i cant stand it where i am its driving me insane, im losing sleep. When i do talk to her she says oh jsut a sec, 2 hours later oh i forgot you were there. I talked to her last night to plead my case and she still says no you cant stay with me, then she says her mom is calling and i ask her to discuss it with her, she says ok ill call you back, 2 and a half hours later no callback, i give up and go to sleep. What should i do? Im just so confused i have such mixed emotions, a few days ago she told me she loved me and to come home, now she says we are just friends and she doesnt feel much for me and we cant be together. Any advice would be most appreciated, im just so broken and lonely.
frozen Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Its me again from abov, i just got off the phone with her, apparently it wasnt her mom last night it was a friend, and then she went out and kissed another guy. Wow, im just so confused. She told me she wants to try us again in a few months, shes a good christian and by all means she keeps telling me that shes going to keep everyone out of her pants. She wants me to be the only one shes ever been with, and hoestly shes the only one ive everbeen with. So in a few months im supposed to go back to wyoming and start all over again? She tells me theres like 5 guys after her to date her, and im just siitting here just.... i dont know what to do. It seems that shes taken everything we've done for the past 4 years and thrwon it out like it never hapened, i suppose i should start the no contact rule, because she doesnt really want to talk to me. Still, i miss her so much, and shes kissing other guys? I mean the past 8 months, she went to school for 2 months then dropped out to get a job....she never got a job, she held one for 2 weeks and that was it. So for 8 months she worked for 2 weeks, i slaved and horrible jobs to just barely get by, and then she leaves me when shes getting her next check fromt eh college and start doing all this. I feel so used.
Grrr Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Im sorry but this girl sounds horrible, she does sound like she is totally using you, she probably hasnt kissed anyone and there is probably noone afetr her right now, shes trying to make you tread on egg shells and make you believe that you need to fight for her, maybe its her ego boost i dont know. As much as it will kill you, i think NC is seriously what will help you. I tried this, it hrut me like hell and it was so hard not to just txt him, or call. But it helped so much, not only did he always try and contact me, but when eventually after a while i did speak to him by accident, he spewed all sorts of things he never wanted me to know. This will only get worse, ya need to stop pining after he, its exactly what she wants, she knows you want her and shes playing on it. Its just going to hurt you
frozen Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Thank you for your reply. About an hour ago i spilled absolutely everytihng to my mom which has helped me alot to, that and some zoloft :\ Personally i am still slightly confused, i guess in my heart i still feel like shes the one for me, but she just didnt do anything at all, she just sat at home everyday talking to friends and playing an online game. I guess what makes me so upset about it all is that college money i spoke of, that money was going to get us out of the 2 year debt we had and start saving for a wedding because we wanted to get married. The last week she started talking to this guy alot on the phone, and i guess started to like him, i confronted her about it and she said she would stop and to trust her, 2 days later im in florida and that day i left this guy makes a move for her and says he loves her and promises her the world then he goes back to his ex and leaves my woman in shambles and she calls me about it... she was calling me because a day after i lost her she thought she had another guy and lost him too. personally i just dont know how i would start over with someone else, tahts why im so driven to get back with her, because she was my first... my first everything, girlfriend, fiance, lover. Im glad i found this place, because it helps me to realize im not alone.
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