konfused Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I didn't want to hijack another post on this forum so I started this one. This girl was upset that her BF was watching porn. The two current responses to her were both from women who said they didn't mind porn. Now, I"m only curious here. How do you break it to a girl that you want to watch some porn with her? It seems a fine line between kinky sex and total wacko pervert. It's a hard thing to judge how a women will respond to something like that. There are no stereotypical porn-watching women that I know about. Could the girl take it so personally that it dooms the relationship? I don't necessarily watch a lot of porn, but this whole idea has gained my intrigue (for future reference).
DeeBrod83 Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I'd say a lot of women may be open to it, but there's also a lot that would see it as a total turn off. I'd maybe try and set it up as a hypothetical question, or something along those lines and see how she reacts. If she freaks out, I wouldn't touch the subject, but if she doesn't, it may be worth suggesting sometime. I personally don't have a problem with porn, I do have a problem with people who are 'addicted' to it. I don't want to feel constantly compared to those women in any way, and I think I'd always feel like I wasn't enough if my man went to porn for pleasure. So it is a very touchy subject!
Pink Amulet Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Ask her if she has ever done it.... if she says no, say why not, if she says "yes, it was great"... pull out Jenna and co. and get nasty I like high production, mainstream porn and I have no problems with it. However, I'm all for making your own porn and watching it later fun!
blind_otter Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Have a conversation about it. "Hey, female I'm dating, have you ever watched porn? What do you think about it?" Female will respond with an affirmative, or a negative, and you go from there. But definately don't just put some porn on and hope for the best.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I love that scene in Taxidriver where Robert Di Nero takes Cybil Sheppard on a "date".
norajane Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 If you're having sex with said girlfriend, you can get a pretty good feel for how she'd react by noticing whether she's open to other sexual exploration with you. Do you always have to have sex in the bedroom, or is she happy to get it on in the kitchen, the bathroom, the dining room floor? Will she have sex in front of the floor length mirror with both of you watching, or is it always lights out? Does she like to look at you during sex, or are her eyes always closed? Will she try new positions, or is it always the same three? If she's adventurous in other ways, bringing up the subject as a question - hey, what do you think of porn - is easy enough. If she's not adventurous, she'll get all uptight when you mention porn.
nicki Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I agree with what the other posters say. Just bring it up casually and ask her what she thinks of porn, has she ever watched any, etc....then watch her reaction. I, too, like porn, but I don't like porn addiction. I'd be worried if my boyfriend turned to it all the time. I want to be his "dream" woman. It helps that I brought the idea up, and it also helped that when we finally watched a film, he said that I was way sexier than the women in it. I told him that the hugely endowed guys were "scary" looking, and that he was way better than them. We started laughing like crazy at some of the more absurd stuff...and doing that (strangely) made us feel even more passionate.... Then we turned it off while we did our own thing. I still wanted our intimacy to be a private matter. So, we made it a couple thing, something that created a bit of a turn on. But I don't feel the need do it again for a long time. Although, now, all I have to do is whisper some silly sex line from the movie, and he's ready to go!
gemmab2020 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 If you feel comfy enough with the certain person you should be able to just ask the question out-right!! I would appreciate a guy asking me out-right. With my (now ex) boyfriend, I told him all of that on the first date because I was that nervous!!! I wouldn't recommend that by the way... try not to ask it on the first date. A lot of females would find it very off-putting!
quietintrovertgirl Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 Women like porn too and why are men surprise that we do like porn
konfuzd Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I thought it would be fun with my last bf to suggest that he pick up a porn on his way over one night. He was totally into that and thought it would be fun, but when he came over, he had brought a girl on girl video! It proved to be an indication of his personality, thinking only of himself, so whatever you do, if you do convince her to watch one with you, make sure there is something in it for her!
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