Adora Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Will try to sum this up as briefly as possible! I just learned last night that my ex's gf wants to talk with me about 'how he is'. I broke it off with the ex Superbowl Sunday, 2001. Since then I have had NO contact whatsoever with the jerk - he became very crazy after our split to the point where I actually had to get a PPO on him. I heard through a mutual friend that he started dating this girl who was 18! (this was 2 years ago - he was 29 at that time). She became pregnant - they had a child, and now she is seeing everything that I went through with him - but she is hesitant because she loves him. I guess she wants to hear it from me that yes indeed, her gut instinct to run and not look back is correct, and to follow through with it. Supposedly my ex took duct tape and taped his babies legs together and taped a sign reading: Help Me! on his chest, then snapped a picture of it, out of humor. Well the mother of the baby didn't like that he did this (what mother would?) - and her parents FOUND the picture and are now telling her if she allows him to ever come around the baby they will call the police and press charges of neglect against him, using the picture as proof he is an unfit father. When I was dating him (we actually were engaged for the last 2 years of our relationship) - he was always in trouble with the law/drugs/un-employment and continuously stealing from me, and being a jack-ass to top it all off. I was ignorant and young and took it for as long as I could.. finally I snapped and said to hell with you, GTFOH!! When I finally did, he flipped out, complete 360 and became very scarey. He stalked me at work - called my manager at that time and tried getting her to talk with me and counsel us into getting back together.. left notes/flowers in my car (how he got in I've no clue since it was locked at all times) .. peeped through my bedroom window looking in on my now fiance (ofc, without my prior knowledge - I later found out) he tried talking with my family; they all couldn't stand him either and told him to GTFOH as well (he then wrote numerous death threats via letters involving myself and my family)O.o The final straw was (yes, this might be funny to some, but please don't laugh because it literally killed me) when he broke into my bedroom window and stole my cat. This cat was of great significance to both of us because we got her during our first year in our relationship. I don't have children of my own - my cat was everything to me in that respect; she was my little girl. At first I didn't know what happened to her. My family and I searched our house for close to 2 hours - she was no where. Then after looking more thourougly in my room I noticed a smudged hand-print on my window. Looking closer I noticed my screen was partially hanging on the outside. I ran around back (it had rained that night -thankfully) so I seen muddy tracks that someone had recently been back there. I knew right then he had taken her. I immediately run back in the house, grab my car keys and drove to his house - my brother following. When we got there he refused to come to the door and said we were harassing him... I seen my baby sitting inside his house on the window pane.. I was literally about to smash the windows in.. my brother told me go call the police. I go to the payphone down a few blocks and dialed 911.. the operator must have thought I was nuts because I was complaining my ex stole my cat but sent units to investigate. They arrived. My ex lied and said no she isn't here (they had 3 cats of their own + a dog {sorry forgot to mention he was staying with his parents since we got evicted {{thanks to him no less}} and they were on vacation at the time} so he easily hid my cat in the mix) .. they asked if they could come in, he at first refused saying they had no right, finally after they talked with him a bit more he said give me a couple minutes and I'll let you in to look for yourselves.. hello!!! he is hiding her omg! (I was thinking) - so finally they go in, come back out and say she wasn't there and to please go home, that if I continue to harass him that I could be the one going to jail!! WTF! =| So I go home and call the police (for my city since he broke into MY house) they come out - take prints, note his tracks .. I tell them I will try once more to talk to him on the phone and see if he'd admit he had her.. He told me to come to his house alone. My father refused to let me go, fearing he'd try to harm me - so my brother followed (without him seeing his car) and parked down the street. I grabbed my fathers cell phone and had it ready in the push of a button it'd ring my brother to high-tail it to the ex's house if something bad happened. I go in, he breaks down in tears - begging me to stay with him.. I said everything he wanted to hear, just because I wanted to get out asap with my cat. He finally went to the back room and brought her out to me.. I said I had to go, my father needed his car but that I'd call him later that day... That was the last him and I spoke. I went to the police station that day - filed charges for B&E, went downtown and they issued a PPO on him. What a nightmare that was. (sorry for the length). So now, my parents are afraid if I speak with this girl that I'd put myself in danger again because if he found out I was talking bad about him to his current gf - he could flip, yet again. I agree with my parents, but I can't help but have this part of me want to reach out and tell this girl: go, run, never look back and take your child with you!!! He is evil and will never change. I am at a loss with what to do! Oh, and my fiance doesn't want me to talk with her, he said she can handle herself - its her life, her own choice, let her deal with it and not to get involved. But again, its the old me I see in her in a way - I was young when I got with him, as she is, I feel if I don't say anything.. well I could maybe have helped prevent more hurt towards someone from such an evil soul.
Roo Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 could you maybe just write her a letter?? or send her your documentation from the police escapades... Send her a link.. to this.. geeze what a psycho I'm so glad you are ok!
Author Adora Posted August 30, 2006 Author Posted August 30, 2006 could you maybe just write her a letter?? or send her your documentation from the police escapades... Send her a link.. to this.. geeze what a psycho I'm so glad you are ok! I'm glad I am ok too, thanks Roo! I did give the mutual friend my email address (not my main email either - an alias I use) to give her, because I didn't want her knowing my # or my address. I just wonder what she'll say when she writes, and whether I should respond or not. I most likely will say something, but I just wanted to hear from others what they think I should do, or what'd they do in this case.
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