Guest Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 My worst fears were confirmed... I went to bustamate.com and I now have proof my boyfriend of 3 years is cheating. I don't know what to do--should I confront him and give him a another chance or should I just end it--once a cheater always a cheater? I love him so much, but the hurt that he caused is too much. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
norajane Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 What is bustamate? And what exactly did you find out there? Usually, it's a good idea not to jump to conclusions based on some kind of internet thing. Ending your relationship without even discussing it with him sound pretty drastic. Are you having problems in your relationship? Is there a reason you think he's cheating outside of this internet thing?
catgirl1927 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Only you know what's best for you. I don't give people a second chance to cheat on me. I have always viewed a "second chance" as permission to do it again and while I don't believe someone who cheated in prior relationships will always cheat in later ones, I think that if someone has already cheated on you then it's obvious they don't care about you. Your time is better spent looking for someone who deserves you. You can have a big discussion and try to get him to admit it, but he's already lied, so can you really believe anything he says? I don't think cheaters deserve second chances, and most of the time they don't really want them anyway. this is assuming you have conclusive proof of infidelity
norajane Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 OK, just went out to that site and saw what they do: Welcome to BustAMate.com BAM! You are probably here because your significant other has been showing signs of infidelity or straying from the relationship. Or, perhaps you are just curious to see if your mate will flirt if given the option. We provide simple services to catch your mate either flirting or cheating. Each case is completely different depending upon the situation and the information provided, therefore, the services that are used differ. We can email your mate pretending to be someone else, or we can call your mate as if they have won roses, chocolates, or cookies and ask to whom they be delivered. Both methods are very convincing and are done with a flawless approach. Fake email addresses have an MSN extension and not a free account like Hotmail or Yahoo. We can explain the methods more after you have made your request. You're going to end a 3 year relationship without talking to him based on this??? I agree you should end it, because you set him up and already didn't trust him in the first place.
catgirl1927 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Yeah, uh, I'd kind of need more proof than that that he's cheating.
Adora Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 It almost seems the OP isn't sincere, I can't help but feel its almost a publicity stunt; promoting the website.. In all fairness if what was said is true (very vague - not enough details -what were their conclusions, i.e. how did they 'catch' him?) I would suggest rethinking about ending it - speak with them first and figure out whats really going on. As was quoted here in this thread from that site, I wouldn't be so quick to end something by their given resources of 'busting' your mate. Especially a complete stranger contacting them? I really don't see someone falling for that.. and last I checked, I thought anyone could get the msn e-mail, signing up for their passport (coulda sworn that was free as well).. /boggle In any case, g'luck to you and I hope you choose wisely with whatever it is you do from here.
whichwayisup Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 My worst fears were confirmed... I went to bustamate.com and I now have proof my boyfriend of 3 years is cheating. I don't know what to do--should I confront him and give him a another chance or should I just end it--once a cheater always a cheater? I love him so much, but the hurt that he caused is too much. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Have you spoken to him about what you know? Are you willing to give him another chance to make things right? What exactly has he done? Obviousy he's cheated but was it online? In person with someone? If you need help you're going to have to give abit more details about your life.
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