angelkiss2403 Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I really am having a problem with this...I'm 24...I've been living with my boyfriend for over a year...he's 34...we really don't get along. We love each other, for sure. In love, I can truly say that I'm not and I'm pretty sure he isn't either. So...the big question is this...why, with all the fighting and disagreements, do we not part ways? I know that for me, I HATE change. I like things the way they are, I don't like change. Yet, I am a strong woman. So, in all this, why is it so hard for me to just let go? I want to, I have someplace I could go... my mom is very near...of course, I don't want to go back home, understandable, I know...it sucks to go back home to the family...YUCK, who wants to??? Anyways, please help...I'm in a rut and don't know what to do....
SUMMER 1969 Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Well you said you have been living with your boyfriend for a year now, and that you don't like change.. Well, Alot of people stay in a realtionship because that are comfortable.. As you have said you don't like change.. I guess you really need to ask yourself if you feel you are being fair to yourself and to him... If you are not happy now, more then likely you will not be happy in a year with him.. You have One life to live and I don't think you should stay with someone for the wrong reasons.. I once had to move home with my mom after a breakup and yes it did suck, but I just worked more and got myself my own place to live.. Summer
skeletonindacloset Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I'm not gonna say what's the right thing to do for you because everyone's situation is different, however, I just got out of a relationship with a dear love and I unfortunately was the other man. I was the "other man" because she loves him very much but had grown to dislike a lot about their relationship. So she started cheating on him, and he started cheating on her and before she new it she was pregnant with his child, wanted to leave him, but felt an overwhelming obligation to stay with him because of the baby. Now all these years later she's still unhappy and they're buying a house. It doesn't make too much sense to me but as much as I may want to understand her situation I never fully will because I'm not her. What I'm saying is that she wanted to leave and now she feels it has nothing to do with what she wants because like it or not she has a family to take care of. I imagine it would be much easier to breakup with a boyfriend than it would be to break up a family. We're not on this earth to exist, we're here to live. Good luck in whatever choices you make in this life.
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