Marielle Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Was just wondering what you think... My Bday was last sunday...On saturday we had a small fight which was not a big deal but lead to us not talking, ignoring each other...next day he sends me a txt msg saying happybirthday (which I found insulting, no I love you, nothing, but again we had a fight). That was early morning. I just txt back saying "thx"! THen I ignored him and around 5 he calls me to discuss things, and we agree to meet at 9 pm (because I was with my family). We kind of arranged everything over the phone, back to normal so when he came over we where kind of ok...HOWEVER...he showed up with NO gift, which really really pissed me off, and I could NOT hide it. Once he mentioned that for him it s important to get a gift on his Bday (means it s for him a big issue if I don t ) His bday was 3 weeks ago and , of course I did offer him a small gift because, here is the situation: we are both out of a job since end of july, and at that time I had a bit of money, but now he had litterally NO money and me neither. I understand, but I am still pissed. Now he has started to make a bit of money and he gave me cash to pay all my bills and part of my rent and other stuff that I need...he s not a cheap guy, he has paid my bills and rent many times, and offered me things ...but I would have appreciated at least some flowers, a card, a love letter..you know what I mean? Some romantic gesture So do you think I m right to be upset?
Buttaflyy Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I'd be pissed. He probably would be too if it were the other way around. What'd he say about it? Did you mention it to him?
Author Marielle Posted August 30, 2006 Author Posted August 30, 2006 Oh, yes, not only I was pissed...I was clear about it and got mad and dissapointed at him...he said he had the intention...but no money. That I am making a big deal out of it. That he loves me but at that moment had no money. Any other thoughts??????
lovestrucksweetie Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Honestly I would be extremely mad but I am the kind of person who likes to hide the fact that i am mad and avoid confrontation whenever possible cuz it usually leads nowhere. What I would do is show him the other gifts i got and say "Look what my mom got me, isn't that awesome" and make him feel real bad about not getting you anything. LOL but that's just me haha. Probably not the right approach but it's what i would do!
Author Marielle Posted August 30, 2006 Author Posted August 30, 2006 lovestrucks: lol, not only I thought about it, I did it next day after I made a scene the day before...but my post is not only how I make it clear I m pissed, but I would like to know if what he did is a reason for a break up...I hate being resentful, and I really love him. As I said in my post next day he gave me a CONSIDERING AMOUNT OF MONEY THAT i NEEDED, WITHOUT ME ASKING (sorry for the caps) but that is not the same. Now he still doesn t have a job. Should I dump him? He already got the msg that I m pissed, I know he loves me...but WHAT, WHY, when????!!!!!! I m sooooo pissed, please help me think
Buttaflyy Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I wouldn't break up with him over the gift thing. If he really hadn't had the money..... Is he trying to gain employment?
Guest Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 My boyfriend did the same thing for my birthday last month... we live 300 miles apart, so that does limit the present that he could send but I got nothing... unless you count the card that was sent to me signed by a bunch of my friends that still live over there, him included, people I haven't talked to more than once in the last 2 years wrote more than him. Sorry to rant... I think that he didn't get me anything because we had been fighting and he didn't think we would stay together, he thought I was going to break up with him... which I wasn't going to do and I still haven't, never intended to. If he didn't have the money then you really can't blame him, I mean yeah he could have afforded a card, with a raincheck for a nice dinner or something. I am sorry that he did that to you, but you probably shouldn't break up with him. Hopefully he will get you something nice when he has money again.
Author Marielle Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 Thanks for your comments. "guest", yeah, it s kind of the same thing what we got to, it comes to the same... Sometimes some men lack of touch or class, or proper etiquette. He could have sent u a card himself...mine could have given me one as well, or at least borrow from a friend and get me flowers. When we want something we do it, right? Maybe some men are not that romantic...
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