Guest Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 Hi, I'm new here & appreciate any advice anyone can give me. I've been living with MM & been together for 14mths in the house that he & wife purchased together when they got married. They had many arguments 6 mths after their marriage & MM asked for a seperation & have since been seperated for 3yrs. MM & I spend everyday together & our relationship is good. They have not divorce as it has got something to do with selling the house & getting money back. Recently, MM's wife wants him back & now MM is confused though he says he does not want to let me go but does not know what to do as she has made him feel guilty about not wanting to work out the marriage. I'm afraid to lose MM, pls help. I know they conact through phone 2 or 3 times a week. MM says mostly its work & money stuff. MM have also been upfront & honest about whats going on when i ask him. He feels he still cares for her & possibly there's still some love. MM's wife ask about me & he told her the truth that he is with someone else. MM & I are still together & spend time together everyday. To me, it doesnt seem like he's doing anything to signal going back to her but I'm stil worried as he may still love her & because of responsibility & guilt get back with her? Pls help. MM is 33 & I'm 29 about to be divorced this Oct with kids but they are with my husband.. Thank you.
Guest Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 You left your kids? I have no advice to give you except, get a grip on reality! I know we do sum really dumb things all in the thoughts of true love, lust etc, but to leave your kids and go live with a MM is totally off the wall.
Guest Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 You left your kids? I have no advice to give you except, get a grip on reality! I know we do sum really dumb things all in the thoughts of true love, lust etc, but to leave your kids and go live with a MM is totally off the wall. That is completely unfair for you to say. You have no idea why she left her kids. Fathers leave their children everyday what is so wrong with a mother doing so? The father may be able to provide better financially or may provide a more stable home environment, what ever reason that is her decision & only her decision to make! As far as your situation guest #1 All you can do is trust him, be open with your feelings & your hesitations It will work itself out. Dont let it consume your relationship with him. It sounds like every other aspect of the relationship is solid. Good LUCK!
Guest Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 You left your kids? I have no advice to give you except, get a grip on reality! I know we do sum really dumb things all in the thoughts of true love, lust etc, but to leave your kids and go live with a MM is totally off the wall. Hi, sorry i didn't make it clear. My husband threw me out of the house when he decided to let his lover move in.I gave in because i have enough 7 yrs of his infidelity & physical abuse. But he is a very good father to our children & is financially more stable. I don not have family support nor a perm. house as much as I love & want my boys i know i won't be able to make it, not now. In their father's house there's a full time nanny & also their grandmother who dotes on them as my husband is the only child. I DID NOT leave my family for MM.
Guest Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 That is completely unfair for you to say. You have no idea why she left her kids. Fathers leave their children everyday what is so wrong with a mother doing so? The father may be able to provide better financially or may provide a more stable home environment, what ever reason that is her decision & only her decision to make! As far as your situation guest #1 All you can do is trust him, be open with your feelings & your hesitations It will work itself out. Dont let it consume your relationship with him. It sounds like every other aspect of the relationship is solid. Good LUCK! Hi, thanks for the advice, i too feel it is somewhat solid & not that I'm just dreaming. But afterall MM to get back to their wives ever so often even if their inlove with OW & that is the sad truth. I hope I can hold back my feelings till everything is settled & enjoy the times we share for now.
Guest Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 You moved in with your MM, if he loves you he would also accept your children into the home. Yes it is true that men leave thier children all the time, and it is acceptable because of double standards, however I would never leave my children with a man who is physically abusive to anyone! Just my opinion, it is your choice, I wish you and your children well. I will say that once you leave your children, it will be very hard to get them back. Hi, sorry i didn't make it clear. My husband threw me out of the house when he decided to let his lover move in.I gave in because i have enough 7 yrs of his infidelity & physical abuse. But he is a very good father to our children & is financially more stable. I don not have family support nor a perm. house as much as I love & want my boys i know i won't be able to make it, not now. In their father's house there's a full time nanny & also their grandmother who dotes on them as my husband is the only child. I DID NOT leave my family for MM.
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