tribeofmixo Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 My boyfriend of ten months and I broke up almost a week ago because we seemed to be growing distant and weren't as happy. I had gotten really depressed and unmotivated since I am in the process of ending my friendship with my bestfriend (and ex-girlfriend) of ten years. We had stopped talking as much and I was taking out my general frustrations on my boyfriend. We both agreed to break up, but neither of us was completely for it. Well, the break up gave me a good whack on the head and I realized how terrible I had been to him for the last month and how much I still love him. We still see each other all the time because we are music majors with the same teacher and have classes together. We get along great, our communication has gotten better, and we still love each other. I also recently started counseling because I really want to follow through on moving away from my best friend emotionally (she abused and manipulated me) and feel as if I am really making great improvements in my life. I would love to get back together with my boyfriend, but he says he's not sure. He doesn't want to get back together and then realize it was a mistake and regret it. He also doesn't want to stay single and then realize in a few months that he wanted me back and to come crawling back to me. He says he still loves me, but he feels like we are more distant and he just doesn't feel quite the same about me. He's also afraid that if we do get back together, I will want to have a long distance relationship when I graduate at the end of the year and move away (he won't graduate yet); he had a long distance relationship before that didn't go well. I am really in love with him and want to get back together. I want him to want it, too, but I feel like I shouldn't try to pressure him either. But I want to so much. I'm trying to back off because he seems to at least not want the relationship now. I just keep hoping he will show up at my door and want me back. I also am not really doing well at leaving him alone because both of us still really enjoy spending time together. I don't know what I should do! Please help!
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