Guest Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 My husband is in another country, I had sex with an ex-gfs husband. I was friends with her until recently, she's changed a lot. Her husband listened to me and understood my problems. He wants a divorce, she dosn't. He told me he wants more than a one night stand or "booty calls". More or less, he wants a relationship. I am very lonely, I work all the time, and the reason for this is to distract me from my lonlieness. He's been calling me. And we both think we know that she knows. I don't know what to do. I want more in my life than lonlieness. My husband still dosn't know. And I don't want to tell him yet, if I even do. My MM and I are very compatable...I am with my husband as well, but he's living in Europe for now. And, like I said, I'm lonely. There are 3 kids involved, I have a son with my husband and he has 2 kids. I want some advice on what to do. Please don't insult me, that's not what I'm here for. Thanks for your time.
whichwayisup Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 You have two choices. Either both of you end the marriages NOW, get divorced and move on together, or end it with the MM, fix your marriage for the sake of your child. Don't stay in a relationship with the MM and be married at the same time. It's selfish and not fair to anybody, let alone yourself. I'm sure you're hurting and confused, but you do have control over this, you can decide how this all turns out. I believe that since you're missing your husband, this MM is filling in for him. Ofcourse you have some feelings, but don't confuse that with "love." You said vows to you husband, you started a life together, created a child together...Are you willing to throw that all away, just because you are lonely? Why is your husband away in Europe? For how long? Does he have any idea that you're unhappy?
Guest Posted September 2, 2006 Posted September 2, 2006 You have two choices. Either both of you end the marriages NOW, get divorced and move on together, or end it with the MM, fix your marriage for the sake of your child. Don't stay in a relationship with the MM and be married at the same time. It's selfish and not fair to anybody, let alone yourself. I'm sure you're hurting and confused, but you do have control over this, you can decide how this all turns out. I believe that since you're missing your husband, this MM is filling in for him. Ofcourse you have some feelings, but don't confuse that with "love." You said vows to you husband, you started a life together, created a child together...Are you willing to throw that all away, just because you are lonely? Why is your husband away in Europe? For how long? Does he have any idea that you're unhappy? -------------------------------------------------------------------------- He has family in Europe, they're sick, and he may not be back for a while. He know's I'm lonely. We've talked about it actually. Not that I've been with another man, just that I am very lonely and I don't want to be anymore.
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