rfv111 Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 Does anyone on this website have one happy story to share about them getting through a breakup successfully? I just want to hear from one person who was completely in love, had their heart broken, and has now fully healed and moved on.
Brittanyjean06 Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 My friend completely healed after two years, and only because she met a new love:) It will happen, I'm not there but I will be heeh
agoraphobia Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 I have healed and moved on. We dated for 1 year and a half. We broke up 4 months ago and during that time I was a mess. A mess like I've never seen myself before. I did it all, cried, begged, got angry,, you name it. But now I believe I've finally come full circle. Now I'm indifferent. That is how you know you're over it. I don't hate him or like him, I just don't care. He is like a stranger to me now, someone I never knew. I don't reminisce or think fondly of our time together anymore. It all feels like it happened to someone else or it was a movie I watched. I saw him recently when we attended a show together and I didn't feel a thing. If he came back today with a bouquet of flowers and a diamond ring on his knees begging me to come back, I believe I will HONESTLY say no. Because I don't see him as someone I want to share a life with anymore. I couldn't be more over it than I am right now. When we first broke up, I envied the women that he will date after me, I wished I could be in their shoes. But you know what? now I just pity them because he is a dangerous person to give your heart to. He is an immature, emotionally stunted man, who, at 30, acts like he's 16. And honestly, I don't know what attracted me to him or what I ever loved about him...you know what? maybe I never did love him, so nevermind. It also helped that I'm meeting more attractive, more intelligent, more accomplished and funnier guys than he ever was. And I foolishly thought he was a catch. um....NOT!
quankanne Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 what interesting timing you've got with your question – on the way home last night, it suddenly occured to me that come September, I'll have known my husband 18 years (we met when I was in college and he was doing government contract work in that town). When I mentioned it to him, he was very surprised, because he hadn't realized it had been that long, and I reminded him that I'd met him after breaking up with the guy I thought was Mr. Right, who I thought I'd never recover from. I'll admit that I was married several years before realizing that the image I carried of Roy wasn't even close to what he was really like but that I held on all that time because he was what I thought was my ideal (i.e., "The One"). In reality, though, I was in a marriage with the one true person God meant to be with. It's not that I took my marriage lightly, but I was gob-smacked, considering my husband and I come from such contrasting backgrounds (age, religious background, social background, outlook on society in general, etc) but we were so in tune with each other! I have to laugh at myself for spending all that time and energy pining for a guy who I felt was the one, who thought I'd never, ever get over, all because I identified him as the be-all, end-all love of my life. And thank God I was wrong about that, because I cannot imagine going through life with anyone other than my husband riding shot-gun ... I guess what I'm trying to say in my usual blabbery way is that sometimes, you've got to look at those failed relationships – even the ones you want so badly they make you hurt in ways you didn't think you could – as bringing you one step closer to the love you're meant to have. You just have to be willing to open yourself to the possibility no matter how hurt or raw you feel.
Buttaflyy Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 I believe that at some point and time everyone will have gone through this in their life. We all have that first love that we thought was "the one" and most of the time, he/she is not the one that we marry, or stay with forever. My story was intense. I remember thinking and feeling that I'd never move on, never get over him, now, I wonder "what the hell was I thinking"? It took a while to come to this, (he was the father of my child) but eventually I met and fell in love with someone else. Before that, I've had interest in other men, dated, had fun and he was in the back of mind and at the bottom of my heart! The sun will definitely shine again!
LittleWingedOne Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I spent a year and half with a man I thought I was going to marry and be with forever.. ect... and it ended about a month ago due to.. too many reasons to mention. I thought I was going to die. I really felt like my heart was going to stop because of how bad the pain was. I ended it, but found myself more hurt and upset than him, which made me hurt more than anything. I posted awhile a back with a playlist I made of songs to help me get over it (nobody replied... pshhh hehe). I stopped looking at his blog and stuff obsessivley because that just made me miss him more. I stopped calling and crying because it made the situation worse. Instead, I called friends I havent spoken to in awhile, I eventually had the "closure" conversation which is so important after I stopped being hysterical. I reminded myself constantly why it was for the best and how I will meet someone else and be happy. You will get over it. You may always love that person, but time is the best medicine.
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