What the heck did she want?

[NamesJake]

Hi Guys,

 

Names Jake. Don't know if you remember my original post or not. Anyways, basically split with the girlfriend. Went the no contact choice. Okay, so did that for some time (maybe weeks?). Anyways, I get a first email since the split from her recently. Nothing personal in it but not a forwarded one either so it was direct. So I respond. She reads it but that's it.

 

So why send me an email in the first place? Why not stick with no contact? Why not respond to what I said? What the heck.......... I do NOT understand woman at all! And, why send an email with nothing personal in it????????? Was she lonely and wanting to reach out to me, so this was her fix?

 

Thoughts appreciated.

Jake

[kaeferman]

She wants to know if you are still there, available for her. I would say you reply to her messages, but keep distant. Let her know you are still there, but not for her. Make her doubt. Of course... if you are still interested in her. If not, well... you know what to do.

This worked for me in the past. Simple, you want to have what you cant have!!

Dont get too excited but the same thing happened to me once, she sent me an email 10 days after she broke-up with me (being totally indifferent). I replied the same way. A couple days after that she came to a party where I was and we started dating again. We broke up again last Saturday but thats another story...

[NamesJake]

Hey Kef,

 

Yah she was indifferent. I mean the email was nothing special, but she still sent the damn thing after a no contact split. She might be waiting for me to contact her next but I replied and that is as far as I will go. I thought about her possible gaming in this so I sent the response back in the a nothing personal (not there for you) way too.

 

Of course I want her but she has to be the one to come back to me (sincerely). I can't make her love me but I can give her all the time in the world to realize she does!

 

Jake