Guest Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 ive been with my gf for about 1 year now. and she is my first girlfriend, i am her 7th. in the past, shes messed around and slept with the guys and shes only had 2 actual bfs. one of the guys she slept with, she knew for only about 2 weeks and her ended up leaving her for his x. then, she left and found comfort from one of the guys she thought was cute (while he had a gf). she slept with this guy about 5 times, and she said she doesnt have feelings for him. then thats where i come in. while they were still ftfs, she met me and we started kickin it. then we messed around but didnt have sex. within the same week, she slept with that other guy. then slept with me at the end of the week. i didnt know until MONTHS later because this happened while we were going out. when she told me i got mad. its been about 1 year already, and im still worried that she had feelings for him. i told her to stop talking to him and she did, but it took a lot of work and time to get her to stop. so now im still worried. should i still be worried about this or amd i being stupid?
lovelorcet Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 I can understand that this situation is pretty difficult for you but some people may tell you that she was moving around in some grey areas of being exclusive or non-exclusive… One question though could you give your ages?
brickaney Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 First off "Once a cheater, always a cheater" It sounds to me like this girl is not ready to committ to any relationship. She has cheated on you at least once, why stay with her? She also kept it a secret from you for a while. It sounds like she's abusing you, mentally that is. There are plenty of girls out there that wouldn't even think twice about cheating on a guy so stop subjecting yourself to this humiliation and torment. You'll never know if she cheated on your more times and it would take a lot of work, time, and committment with some type of councelor to get through this issue correctly. I don't think it's worth staying with her. She's someone you can't trust and she obviously doesn't respect you enough to even be honest with you. Let me leave you with one more quote: "Don't make someone your priority while allowing yourself to be their option."
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