Cliche23 Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 I don't understand why my boyfriend always seems to leave me here at his house while he goes over to his aunt's house (that's where he says he is). It's 2:27 am, and I am in his bed alone wishing he was here with me. I came in from work around 5:45 and he was playing video games until 10:30 and then he told me he'd be back, in which he did come back to bring me some dinner, and then he went back out; It's like he doens't even have the common courtesy to let me know where he is going; He doesn't have a cell phone so there is no way to contact him. I know I am not his mother, however if he has me at his house so often where he stays out until 5 in the morning, at least he can give me a heads up. Don't you agree? According to him when he goes out he always says that he's with his Aunt, I am just trying to understand what is so exciting at his aunt's house that makes him want to leave his girlfriend and stay out until the next morning? Honestly, I am not happy; You wonder why I stay? Well it's because I am curious to see what's going to happen. If all the work and energy I put into this relationship will pay off, since they say good things come to those who wait. So I try my best not to say anything, but it's hard because it really does bother me. For the past few days I haven't said anything, and now it seems like he's comfortable with doing this now because he doesn't have to worry about hearing my mouth. I try so hard to understand him, I try to compromise with him, it seems as if I am the one doing all the compromising and conforming while he sits around and let things happen. It's as if I am putting all of the work into this relationship, literally praying that it works. When he's at my house he's totally different, he's attentive, sweet, you would think he was a different person. But as soon as he gets home, which is a totally different atmosphere because there are more people here so he has to put on this macho man attitude so his friends won't look at him as being soft. I honestly wish that my boyfriend can see that it's the little things that matter to me, and it doesn't take much to put a smile on my face. I wish there was a way I can tell him how I feel without him feeling like I am complaining. I don't want to stress him or be a burden, but at the same time I am hurting and trying extremely hard to pretend like I am not.
dreaming4ever Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 Well, your feelings are important and you shouldn't ever have to just pretend they don't exist while in a relationship. You need to talk to him. What does he do at his aunt's place that is so great? Why doesn't he bring you with him? Maybe you can arrange ahead of time certain nights that you hang out together and certain nights that he spends with family.....if that is what he is doing. Being silent won't fix anything, you'll just end up getting more upset. Trust me.
rina_r Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 And what exactly is he doing with his aunt at 2:30am? Putting her to bed and sings her lullabies? Heh,...
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