killercards Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 I have had a rough start in the beginning start of our relationship. But things began to change for the better and our love is still growing. I have first met this girl at work about a year ago and became friends and just best friends status. On the 4th of July 2006 She revealed the way she felt about me and I did the same. Even though we were a couple, things were still uncertain, She Has tested me and even would push me away just to see if I was real. Well I just kept with her and We became stronger. There was The no sex till marriage deal she just was smart about it. The more she trusted me the better it became. About a week ago, She finally said:"Forget the no sex till marriage". And Now it's a whole new part of the relationship that was missing. Since we both are 21 and we were both virgins, It's nice to explorer the new sex side of our relationship. We both are learning on sex. Now she told me one of her fantasies and it was anal sex. She asked me if I'm for it and I said yes. Now, I'm new to the sex but I hate the fact of wearing a condom so right now, it works out for the both of us, she loves it and I don't have to worry about her getting pregnant. Anyway, Our new sex life is great and We have been talking about marriage for weeks now. We always talk about it and discussed having children together and We already have the names picked out if it's a boy or a girl. We are serious and We see eachother together for life. I asked her a few days ago about when is too early to get engaged? She said " Not right now, I think in a 5-6 months from now". So I do want to get engaged but I need all of your help on it.. Is a few extra months a good idea? Or is this too soon? Please I need help!!
Moose Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 ok, so, are you saying that you've had anal sex with your girlfriend.....? AND.....you two are virgins? K....if so.....of course she wants to hold out on engagement....... Here's what you can expect....from my POV: Watch her actions in front of other men. ( She will be more attentive to them ) Look for questions about your future. Expect an, "We need Space", conversation..... Then....get back to me....
killercards123 Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 We we aren't virgins anymore, I've had vaginal sex with her, without a condom. What do you mean her actions in front of other men? Like as in, Flirtive towards them? Cheating? What should I be watching out for? I know she talks with other men co workers/customers. She tells me everything they talk about and she said she would never cheat on me. I'm not worried about that. She isn't holding off on it she said We should wait so her mother don't flip out about us getting married. She loves me way too much for a need space thing. We don't live together yet and a few months, we will move in together. I am going to engage her around February or March ( Her Birthday is on the 26th of February) I just want to know what's a perfect time to engage her. ok, so, are you saying that you've had anal sex with your girlfriend.....? AND.....you two are virgins? K....if so.....of course she wants to hold out on engagement....... Here's what you can expect....from my POV: Watch her actions in front of other men. ( She will be more attentive to them ) Look for questions about your future. Expect an, "We need Space", conversation..... Then....get back to me....
Author killercards Posted August 29, 2006 Author Posted August 29, 2006 What I really need is, What is the best time to engage her? Since it will be a few more months, I was thinking about engaging on her Birthday which is February 26th... What do you all think? She mentioned before, when I do it, I should surprise her by not making it like for ex: Valentines day or something.... I don't know.
Moose Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 Engage? Like Mount her? This sounds more like a breeding arrangement.... Don't concentrate with the wrong head, and use the only mind you really have.....
Author killercards Posted August 29, 2006 Author Posted August 29, 2006 Lol for real, We want to get married. We are serious enough and She wants it and I want it. I see what your saying, It may seem that way but I love her so much! And she loves me. We want kids together... Engage? Like Mount her? This sounds more like a breeding arrangement.... Don't concentrate with the wrong head, and use the only mind you really have.....
Moose Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 Let's see, you've known her for a year......and she's projecting 6 months to a year for a proposal, and....you're both virgins....and, you're thinking more about sex, than a lifetime commitment... As a salesman, she's price shopping....in other words.....don't get your hopes up to high and play this thing on the safe side.... If you're as serious as you say you are, you need to let your sexual desires take a back seat for now, and, "whoo", her until you know for sure you're her man... Otherwise, (if you two fornicate your fantast), you'll be the first in her pants, and watch her as she hunts done the dominant male in the pack.....\\ I sound like Alpha......oh man.....
Author killercards Posted August 29, 2006 Author Posted August 29, 2006 We have talked about getting married before we even had sex. Our relationship is not all about sex. We have only had sex twice with eachother, Vaginally and anally. And The six months we are waiting will tell if we are right for eachother. Are you saying, she will find another man after knowing what to expect of sex with me?
norajane Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 I don't see why you are in a rush to get engaged. What's your hurry? Are you afraid if you don't 'seal the deal' she will maybe meet someone else she likes better? Are you frustrated that she's setting your timetable for engagement and marriage?
Moose Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 What I'm saying is that since you two decided to not wait until the bonds of marriage actually took place to have sex, she's now open to explore other, "venues", so to speak....without tarnishing her maritual status.... I truly hope I'm wrong......but I can see her shying away from you if she hasn't already in sorts.... Think about it....she had a morsel of what's out there....it won't take much temptation from her to push her again.... I'm afraid the damage has been done....if you wish to be an honorable man, stay the course and stay clean until she makes her final decision to give her entire life to you.....
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