konfused Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Last night I had a date with a very cool young lady. She and I both teach science and had a lot in common in other areas. So I flat out told her that I wanted to see her again at the end of the date and she agreed. How soon is it okay to call her? I've always heard it's wise to wait a few days to let the anticipation build. F... that. I just feel like talking to her. By the way, this isn't to be confused with the day after sex Rule. All men know they are required to call the day after. So yeah, this post is a semi-satire of the three day rule. I'm just curious what women think of this rule. We're both 28. I'm only looking for comments, I'll make up my own mind whether I call her tonight or not.
Tony T Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 If you're older than 16, it's OK to make that call anytime you please. If she likes you she'll be very happy you called soon after the date. If she doesn't, she'll be very displeased no matter how long you wait to call her.
serial muse Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 hee hee, i love tony t's answer. it's better than mine. but i was gonna say that a phone call the next day - maybe not the crack of dawn, but sometime during the day - is what i'd be hoping for. if i were she.
Sand&Water Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 Do not wait one week after the date to call. I say, call on the second or third day - maximum. Be straightforward, and mature about it.
SunshineInRain Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 As a woman, i hate it when a guy call or text me directly at the same night I go home after the date, or even in the morning after. I think it shows first sign of clingy/needy/wussy type. Wait 2-3 days at least!
MuNky Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 You seem like a non-games guy. I also prefer to be like that. If you keep apearing like a non-games person than that can shine through, and she will realise that. What is great about non-games people is that we do what feels right at that moment, and not what the rules are. Like you said - f... that. In my thread I have said that my Romance IQ is low, so my opinion should be taken with a grain of salt. Good luck.
dgiirl Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 Do what comes natural After all, you want her to see the real you, and everyone wants different things, so just be yourself and if she doesnt like it, she'll let u know.
superconductor Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 Who makes up these "rules" anyway? And why, oh why, do otherwise smart people take them as some sort of gospel truth in dealing with relationships??
jenniferlm Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 I'd go ahead and call. Why play games? If she likes you, it's not going to matter how many days it's been.
The slayer Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 "Rules" in my opinion are pointless, you should always be yourself and do what you feel you want to do.
Charisma Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 If you had a wonderful time give her a call, the sooner the better it signifies interest. I hate dating rules..just do what you think is right. I recently went out with a guy with whom I thought had a great time with me but he hasn't called in weeks. It's been horrible because I have no idea what went wrong and wonder if he'll ever call again
fishtaco Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Some people like to play games, some don't. If you don't like to play games, then don't. Sure you might lose her because you didn't play enough mind games with her, but since you are a non-gamer, you probably don't want to hook up with a gamer anyway. Disappointment will be temporary, but it'll be better than going through relationship BS after you've hooked up. Use this as a filter to get rid of the gamers that fall your way. And if she's a non gamer like yourself... then everything seems to be good to go. Just pick a considerate time to call. Win-win situation!!!
gemmab2020 Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Please call her!!!! I have spent the past week sitting aiting on a call froma guy and he hasn't called!!!! It is not a nice thing to be sitting waiting on the phone to ring. Please please please call her!!! Then atleast I can feel good for someone!!!!
Ripples Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Who makes up these "rules" anyway? And why, oh why, do otherwise smart people take them as some sort of gospel truth in dealing with relationships?? 'Otherwise smart'? Not very likely, is it? Gemma, have a hug.
superconductor Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 'Otherwise smart'? Not very likely, is it? Hey, Rip, maybe you and I should write a book: Relationship Rules for People Who Think. I imagine it will be a pretty short book. Rule #1: There really are no rules. Rule #2: Anyone who tells you there are rules doesn't have any idea what they're talking about. Rule #3: There is no rule #3. Rule #4: When in doubt, please refer back to Rule #1.
Author konfused Posted August 30, 2006 Author Posted August 30, 2006 I did call her on night two. It seemed rights and worked out well. She asked me to go biking with her this weekend. Also, she mentioned something about going to church Sunday and I was like, oh great, because I'm not a believer. She said she hadn't been for a while and wanted to try out the Universalist church. I was like, that's the church I go to. Who'd have thought? One more thing. The last four girls, including this one, have not eaten red meat - only chicken. Did something happen in the last 3 years with red meat? I think that is totally bizarre. If all you English ladiess send your numbers, I'll call. Any night you want. Thanks for all the replies.
2sunny Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I hate games! I told the guy I am currently seeing on the first date "If you want to call me - then do - if you don't feel like it - then don't." He calls every afternoon to see how my day has been... and to see if we may have a chance to get together for the evening. I like it... he is sweet and thoughtful, so what's to complain about with that? Just be upfront and things should be fine...
gemmab2020 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 If all you English ladiess send your numbers, I'll call. Any night you want. Ring me!!! Ring me!!!! lol! My guy still hasn't called... made the mistake of giving my number out without actually arranging a date last Friday and a week is almost up and no call... :-(
bluechocolate Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 The last four girls, including this one, have not eaten red meat - only chicken. Did something happen in the last 3 years with red meat? I think that is totally bizarre. I betcha they go home & stuff their faces with bacon & raw steaks when no one is looking.
Interloper Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Ring me!!! Ring me!!!! lol! My guy still hasn't called... made the mistake of giving my number out without actually arranging a date last Friday and a week is almost up and no call... :-( Hey Confused, you could take a few tips from this guy. Look how she is obsessing and thinking constantly about him. hey, i don't like games either. I just do what works
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