my life is over

[Guest]

I feel as if my life is over. I made a terrible mistake several weeks ago. While mourning the loss of my ex. I had sex with my daughter's father, he's my ex from years ago. I'm 35 and just found out I'm pregnant by him. I don't believe in abortion, so I really don't have a choice but to have this child. I told my ex about this, J, the one I am still in love with. He said he would be there as a friend for me whatever my decision is. Well I guess I ruined any chance of romantic reconciliation with him, and the father of my soon to be child, suggests I have an abortion because he says we're too old to have any more kids. I can't believe I made such foolish choices when I was in mourning, nc zone for this other man. I've been crying and sleeping all weekend. My mother is dead and I have very few friends to turn to. You guys are my only friends. Please help.

[DawnMN73]

Hello

Your life is not over miss!

Don't think that!

So what u made a mistake!!

You have a baby growing inside of you!

How many women would die for that, i know i would!

You are going through a rough time right now, it doesn't mean that your life is over!

[konfused]

Miss,

 

You've already decided to have this child so let's stop calling this a mistake. It'll just take time to let the feelings subside. Shame, embarassment, all that crap will soon fade away. Everyday you will grow stronger and more assured that you made the right decision and this was meant to be. It all starts with your thoughts.

[Roo]

AWWW...

 

I'm sorry you are feeling cruddy, honestly if the EX you are hoping to reconcile with is WORTH getting back with eventually he'll reconcile with you anyway... if not he's not worth it..

 

as for the father to be... ohh well that's his problem if he didn't want to father anymorechildren he should have worn a hat when you party'd...

 

try and remember that children are a blessing.

[norajane]

If you don't feel you can raise this child and you must have it, consider adoption.

[mb1]

Thank you all for your support. I feel better today and I will keep you updated.

 

love and peace,

 

mari

[indigostrings]

Hey! Keep your head up. I know pregnancy is extremely stressful. I am 36 weeks pregnant, and when I found out I had about 10 heart attacks. I felt like I had no support, no money, nothing. Somehow you just manage though. This baby is depending on you. In a few months you will push him/her into the world and you will remember this dark period. Trust me, for the first 2 months I could barely leave my house I was so depressed. Morning sickness doesn't help much either, I know.

 

As far as your ex that you are still in love with... Will a guy who really wants you deny you because you are having a baby? Nope. If you two are meant to reconcile, it will happen regardless of the baby. I don't buy into that "well, I really want you back but since you are pregnant I guess there is no chance". You did nothing wrong. You slept with a familliar person for comfort. That's natural. You got pregnant. Also natural.

 

Since when is 35 too young to have a baby? People are going to bash you for that one, lol. That's a good age in my opinion. I am sorry you feel like you have no support. I would consider joining a church or single moms group. Sounds super corny I'll admit, but I joined a church and WOW did it make a difference!

 

Did your ex express interest in reconciling? If not, I wouldn't count on it and I certainly wouldn't blame the "not getting back together" on the pregnancy. I know being pregnant without a partner SUCKS. So help me God, I KNOW! I get so jealous of pregnant women whose husbands go to appointments and rub their tummys. I have no one, although the child's father and I are civil.

 

The most important things are your health, your daughter and the precious little life inside you

 

Hang in there!

 

Indigo