lovestrucksweetie Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Ok, me and my boyfriend have dated for about 8 months now and for the past 2 months he's been acting like a real jacka$# and I have shown him it bothered me by getting mad or I would simply try to talk about it and he would get mad or think I was! So, I took a break and was wandering being a gypsy for a few days and I came to realize that I am wasting my time being mad all the time.....instead I am going out and doing things that make me happy, mostly without him cuz he never wants to come along anyways. Is this wrong or am I headed in the right direction!?
Roo Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 what does he do that you fight so much about... and are you doing the right thing. Making yourself happy...well I suppose if you aren't cheating on him or disrespecting the relationship, how could it be wrong... that's not to say that it wont' cause distance between you two but if he's not interested in the things you are, and it causes a rift perhaps you two simply aren't that compatible.
nicki Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 Congratulations! You are heading in the right direction. In my experience, getting mad and yelling just makes a guy shrink away. He will respond a lot more to you pulling away and doing your own thing. In fact, after a few days he'll probably come to you and ask you what's wrong. That's when you calmly state what it is you want and need. Be specific about behavior. See if he responds. If not, at least you are building your own life and not expecting something from him that he can't give. If he does respond, then your relationship and subsequent communication will get better and better. good luck
Author lovestrucksweetie Posted August 29, 2006 Author Posted August 29, 2006 Hahahahaha and get this, it is actually helping, he just told me that from now on Tuesday's are just for me and him to hang out and have fun.......
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