thecount Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Ever since I found out my g/f has been speaking to her ex--things just havn't been the same. She did stop speaking to him. Her friend also told me that she had a long conversation with my g/f's ex and told him to leave her alone. From what i gather. He contacted her some 3 months ago. After a year of not speaking. He called her to tell her that his grandfather has lung cancer. Ever since then they both been calling each other on a daily basis. I knew about the first call, but not the daily calls. sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. I knew something was wrong i just felt it. She wouldn't give me any answers so I did the unthinkable. I started to snoop. and I felt and still do feel like an idiot. BUT i had to know what was going on. i checked her phone calls and e-mails. and then she send me an email by mistake. that one was it. The email said (corresponding to a friend) forget what I said before. it isn't going to happen. So I read on and because there were more then just on e-mail attached to it. I read to the begining and it said. I've been speaking with my ex and things are looking good. We just might be together by the end of the summer. My heart dropped. i couldn't believe what I was reading. We had a big fight over it, told her to leave. She told me that she would have never gone through with it, because she realized how much she loves me. She was just thinking about the past and how nice it was with him back then.... Well, as time has gone by. We started seeing each other again, but I just can't help the feeling that I can't trust her. She's been hiding her cell phone, at times being evasive, last night she took her friend out to dinner for her birthday, i didn't believe her, and told her I didn't. I think I'm loosing it. Does anyone think that she can be trusted? am I being paranoid? I don't know what to think. I do love her. and she does love me, or we just wouldn't be together. The Trust thing--How can I get that back? Help!
Roo Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 if your gut tells you not to trust her and she's HIDING anything, you are not paranoid, trust your gut.
Rooster_DAR Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 I concur with ROO, if your gut is speaking please listen to it. I am going throught the same issue as you.
Sal Paradise Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 I wouldn't trust her either. She is a liar. Dump her.
EnigmaXOXO Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 if your gut tells you not to trust her and she's HIDING anything, you are not paranoid, trust your gut. I'm with Roo on this one, too. This is not paranoia based on irrational fears left over from past relationships with other people. This is "heightened awareness" brought about by newly discovered facts regarding your current partner's shady behavior. Once you learn to recognize the difference, you'll be better able to trust your instincts.
Ukwizard Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Hi Thecount, the main evidence of something is going on is the fact, She's been hiding her cell phone, You`ve read her emails too. Keep them. Fact of the matter is, for what I ve learnt. People who have been together shouldn`t be friends. It causes problems with trust witht he new partner. Tell her that you can`t go on seeing her if she is still in conact with her ex. I appreciate people do have a history together. Communicate to her that you are not happy about this. I mean communicate, and not argue about it or she will leave you for the ex. What she sees unattractive in you will drive her to her ex. I ve seen this happen with my ex. Trust is the fundamental basis of a relationship. If you don`t have any, you don`t have a relationship. Be careful my friend. You`ve been warned!
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