loveinlife Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 In the beginning of the break up, I was kind of sad about letting go my ex... I gave her the space that she wanted and found out things to take away my feelings of missing her. I was using my time to take a break cause the relationship was not working. 4 months down the line, near my birthday and valentines day, I really felt I was missing her. I broke into tears many times after that. It hurt me to find out that she was talking and dating guys only 2 months after we broke up. I felt I had very low self esteem after the 4 months to just recently, about 7 months. Today I feel a lot better, I still miss her but reality I know is that just have to enjoy life with or without the other person. I say i have become stronger as a person. My shield is a lot higher than before in meeting a new girl. I just don't want to get hurt again until I have found myself a better match. Positive things that happened after I broke up with my ex: 1.) Looking better, after workout, new look. 2.) Seeing life has limits, new philosophy that sometimes we don't get what we want. 3.) New friends. 4.) New hobbies, like going out to clubs, hanging out at bars. 5.) More time to focus on myself; career and to work on my personal growth. 6.) Loveshack and meeting all these cool people on this forum. Basically trying anything new. What are some things that happened for you guys/girls after your breakup?
Mollyanna Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 I assume you only want the good list? made a new friend and reconnected with a couple of old ones. started writing again. rediscovered Love Shack started dieting and exercising and have lost 15 pounds. began searching for a purpose in life other than finding a husband. researching how to become a foster parent thanks for this question. made me feel good to know I have achieved something.
Author loveinlife Posted August 28, 2006 Author Posted August 28, 2006 Yeah I really believed we all improved a little bit from the relationship that took place for us. Time does heal some wounds and our difficulties helps us adjust in life. I am glad Mollyanna that you have achieved so many things that you wouldn't have done like myself post break up. Thanks for leaning towards this thought of question of improvements that happened to us. It would be wonderful if we can all pitch in 2cents to show how the improved as a way to show the better light after a break up.
Ariadne Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Hi, Positive things that happened after I broke up with my ex: (Not sure if it was a break up since it wasn't a real relationship but) - I'm not waiting all day for his emails. - I started therapy to help me get employed. - I enrolled in a piano class that I hope will be fun. - I've become more spiritual trying to find a deeper understanding of things. - I'm back going to the gym and rollerskating. - I drove to Denver and got to see the amazing Rocky Mountains. - I met a fwb that has been nice to me and I'm having sex again, since Denver guy wouldn't have sex with me. - I realized I'm not afraid to die. Ariadne
Mollyanna Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 bumping this up - hoping to hear others' experiences
Diver012 Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Things that ive been going through... Confusion... Not sure why we broke up. I was only told her feelings changed. Acceptance... I finially had to admit that I was left for someone else. Disgust... Tired of the relationships I care about, the ones that feel like will finially work out, blowing up in my face. Fear... Fear of getting hurt again. Dating scares the **** out of me right now. Tired of the game.. It all seems like a bull**** game to me right now. Just sick and tired of it.
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